Dating a customer

[newlook5]

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[VoluptuousCurves]

He has over the last few months insisted that I live with him, rent free.

Massive, massive red flag. You've not even had one date and he's pushing you to move in together?! 

Run for the fucking hills!

I'd probably say to him "I've decided it's best for me personally to keep business and pleasure separate."

[Dolls]

Hi girls

I've been working for years.(on and off)
This year I met a client. A nice client(a year younger than me, a middle class, well educated, stock broker type of person.) He has remained texting and phoning me to meet up and go for a date. Firstly I feel out of his league, civvy life civvy career
Last night I had a conversation with him and he said he'd really like us to date and he is happy for me to continue on working on the game.
He goes on to say he is impressed with what I do.
I said to him, what if someone says to you I'm a prossie and he said he has no problem with it. He has over the last few months insisted that I live with him, rent free.
He thinks its great that we each other secret.

Of course I feel actually I'd like to give him a go but what's your opinion.

Sounds like a classic freebie hunter. Paid one time and think you would be naive enough to be taken advantage of. Asking him to keep a secret and be worthy of dating him puts you in a vulnerable position, giving it away without him even convincing you, it looks really bad. As vc said run for the hills.
Sorry hun, he doesn?t seem like a bf material at all. Xx

[Justine]

Hi girls

I've been working for years.(on and off)
This year I met a client. A nice client(a year younger than me, a middle class, well educated, stock broker type of person.) He has remained texting and phoning me to meet up and go for a date. Firstly I feel out of his league, civvy life civvy career
Last night I had a conversation with him and he said he'd really like us to date and he is happy for me to continue on working on the game.
He goes on to say he is impressed with what I do.
I said to him, what if someone says to you I'm a prossie and he said he has no problem with it. He has over the last few months insisted that I live with him, rent free.
He thinks its great that we each other secret.

Of course I feel actually I'd like to give him a go but what's your opinion.

This would alert me that he is to be avoided.  We know what we do is not something to be ashamed of but for him to say that just does not sound right at all.  Yes of course he will say he is impressed with what you do, he is doing his best to worm his way in to you agreeing to live with him and give him sex on tap. My guess is he wants free sex, pure and simple.

[Katiexxx]

All of them says that. Of course he has no problem with it when he is trying to wrap you around his finger. They show their true colours when you decide to end up relationship.

[English Green]

This would alert me that he is to be avoided.  We know what we do is not something to be ashamed of but for him to say that just does not sound right at all.  Yes of course he will say he is impressed with what you do, he is doing his best to worm his way in to you agreeing to live with him and give him sex on tap. My guess is he wants free sex, pure and simple.

Stoke broker with money but very happy for you to continue doing this...that would be a No for me because the fact he has money but perfectly ok with you continuing its different if you said you are not giving it up and he has a low salary but he just seems like a user to me and tight wanting it for free.

[Umrao]

I have always stuck with the rule that I would never date anyone who walks through the door to pay me just like I would never want anyone who pays me to want to date or marry me. Pretty woman was a Hollywood movie and up to this day I have never met or known of any working girl who has met her Richard Gere. That?s why films are fantasy and the fact that other ladies have pointed out that he is in a well paid profession yet is fine for you to work is strange. He?s taking you for a ride to get a free ride. Stay well away!

[ana30]

I have always stuck with the rule that I would never date anyone who walks through the door to pay me just like I would never want anyone who pays me to want to date or marry me. Pretty woman was a Hollywood movie and up to this day I have never met or known of any working girl who has met her Richard Gere. That?s why films are fantasy and the fact that other ladies have pointed out that he is in a well paid profession yet is fine for you to work is strange. He?s taking you for a ride to get a free ride. Stay well away!

I've always found this line of thinking quite sad because it reflects a deep rejection of what you do for a living that translates in  low self-steem: "I don't deserved to be loved because of what I do, no man in his right frame of mind would want me, Once I find a decent way of living I'll find the right man etc... There's a lot of "self'sabotage" with that line of thinking. It's like that Groucho Marx quote: "I refuse to join a club that would have me as a member"  (sans the irony).

I understand that being an escort you're a wee tired when you get home because you're tired of entertaining men but to close yourself that much emotionally? or shutting yourself to the possibility of affection? Life is short 

[English Green]

I've always found this line of thinking quite sad because it reflects a deep rejection of what you do for a living that translates in  low self-steem: "I don't deserved to be loved because of what I do, no man in his right frame of mind would want me, Once I find a decent way of living I'll find the right man etc... There's a lot of "self'sabotage" with that line of thinking. It's like that Groucho Marx quote: "I refuse to join a club that would have me as a member" sans the irony.

I understand that being an escort you're a wee tired when you get home because you're tired of entertaining men but to close yourself that much emotionally? or shutting yourself to the possibility of affection? Life is short 

I think she meant mainly punters she would not want to date which is her choice i never read it as she thinks nobody would respect her but i see a what she is trying to say some are happy dating clients some are not.

If i dated a client they would need to be quite special and if they had a very good job and was happy for me to keep doing this that would make me suspicious but each to there own everybody likes different situations for what is best for there way of thinking.

Not every situation is black and white and some ladies on here are quite happy being in a relationship where neither lie to each other

[KittenCandy]

I've always found this line of thinking quite sad because it reflects a deep rejection of what you do for a living that translates in  low self-steem: "I don't deserved to be loved because of what I do, no man in his right frame of mind would want me, Once I find a decent way of living I'll find the right man etc... There's a lot of "self'sabotage" with that line of thinking. It's like that Groucho Marx quote: "I refuse to join a club that would have me as a member" sans the irony.

I understand that being an escort you're a wee tired when you get home because you're tired of entertaining men but to close yourself that much emotionally? or shutting yourself to the possibility of affection? Life is short 

I disagree cuz I think the same as Umrao I could never date a customer. And it's not just because I'm not attracted. The moment they step foot in my door to pay me to suck their dick, they are automatically disqualified. It's just a turn off for me. Even if they were young and good looking, which is very very few and far between, almost non existent, they still somehow appear unattractive when they hand over that cash. Not that buying sex is ugly.  I didnt expect them to want to date me either (most want to date for freebies) knowing that I have sex with other men for a living. I know it's just a job, but if I had a bf and he was a male escort and I wasn't, I couldn't bare that. To think this guy that I care for and I like is having sex with other women. I wouldnt be ok with it. Same if he was having sex with other women for free, it will hurt me. Wether he is getting paid or not. But men aren't wired like that, they couldn't give a shit, so long as they get to fuck you, so it makes sense.  I don't think Umrao comments reflects deep  rejection and low self esteem. What we do is frowned upon a lot in society, so when a man is opened to and willing to date prostitutes, it seems odd. (Perhaps they get turned on knowing other men are paying for it, but he gets in for free(It's an ego booster for him) . Not that we don't think we deserve to be loved but....its hard to explain..Anyways., I take it you are ok with dating punters Ana?

[KittenCandy]

I think she meant mainly punters she would not want to date which is her choice i never read it as she thinks nobody would respect her but i see a what she is trying to say some are happy dating clients some are not.

If i dated a client they would need to be quite special and if they had a very good job and was happy for me to keep doing this that would make me suspicious but each to there own everybody likes different situations for what is best for there way of thinking.

Not every situation is black and white and some ladies on here are quite happy being in a relationship where neither lie to each other

I know, the whole low self esteem , deep rejection, self sabotage, unworthy of love and closing yourself off emotionally thing  was a little bit too much and quite far fetched. How she got all of that from that one comment, I have no idea, and I couldn't help but cringe and be utterly confused whilst reading it. Some of you get wayyy too deep. It's really not that deep you know.

[English Green]

I know, the whole low self esteem , deep rejection, self sabotage, unworthy of love and closing yourself off emotionally thing  was a little bit too much and quite far fetched. How she got all of that from that one comment, I have no idea, and I couldn't help but cringe and be utterly confused whilst reading it. Some of you get wayyy too deep. It's really not that deep you know.

Yep i did not get that statement either a bit much looking too deep into something that could just be she does not want to date a client who pays for sex.

Saying that i think you could get a nice client that genuinely falls for a working girl and developes strong feelings but there is plenty also out there that hunt escorts to date for free and gets off on the challenge he now gets her for free without payment a big game to some and it is obvious if the man is making a very good salary and knows the woman does not want to do this type of work but she is in debt for example but he happy for her to still struggle that says everything i need to know about how much he likes her.

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[ana30]

I take it you are ok with dating punters Ana?

I don't date punters but I'm human and every once in a blue moon I have fancied a client. Sometimes (most of the times) he was married so I didn't acted on my feelings (kept them to myself :-), but a couple times the guy was single and available so ended up dating him. Eventually we broke off because of things that had nothing to do with my job but more with leaving the toilet seat up. I never stopped working, I don't regret those relationships either, they were fun while they lasted.

Truth is I've met some very decent men in this line of work.

[English Green]

Just spoke with him. He has met lots of hookers --- he has confirmed he has asked to date them

Yes some get off on getting sex workers to date them for free. If he had really liked you and had strong feelings and you said for example this job is getting to me but he did not care that says a lot. He is a piss taker.

I had a client a while ago that told me he had dated quite a few escorts and was trying to get me to see him go for a drink for free etc i just laughed and said if you want to date girls go on a dating website why are you pacifically looming to date escorts.