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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: Lorraine68 on 11 January 2022, 09:06:41 pm
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I don't know why it's annoing me this question
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I get asked that quite often, and sometimes they don't even wait for me to answer, and they say "I guess it's hard to have a bf and doing this" (which I agree, but it's none of their business, I don't ask about their wives unless they make it obvious they want to talk it). I wouldn't disclose having a partner even if I did anyway...
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I agree. I think some don't want to think of you having unprotected sex with anyone, or they're jealous, or it's for nefarious reasons and think you're more vulnerable being single, I just don't know. Whatever way I also don't appreciate it. [removed]
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Similar to when they ask 'are you single?' or 'are you married?' These are personal questions which they have no business asking. I just tell them it's personal in a stern/flirty way so they have a chance to get the hint. If they ask again I turn the question back on them whilst stopping whatever nice thing I'm doing.
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I've been asked by some clients if I was single and other clients have assumed I have a boyfriend. I just waffle on that life is is complicated and moan about the trials and tribulations of the system and timing and I'm sure their eyes glaze over, or nod along. Basically the best none answer I can give without getting in a huff.
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I always give a flippant answer, something like "nah I'm far too sensible to be married" and they usually shut up :)
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One or two used to say it was strange I had gotten to a particular age without being married.
Now I am married I have had one repeat booking who when he discovered I am still married, tells me he isn't sure if he can book again (after saying he was really keen to make this a regular thing).
Whatever my status seems there's an effect on some, but most seem to be fine enjoying their booking!
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That question is the equivalent to "why are you sleeping around when you have a wife?'.
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It’s the same as “oh you pay tax? “ that one really grips my shit. No I just get cars and mortgages from the fairy god mother you twerp!
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Nosy old gits who ask personal questions (and yes it does tend to be the older men in my experience anyway) are one offs for me and I do not see them again if they ask for another booking.
One man asked me if I was married or divorced and I just looked back at him and smiled but ignored the question. He seemed to get the hint that he should not have asked. Another asked outright "do you have a husband?" to which I replied "maybe I do and maybe I don't" and another asked how long I have been married and my "almost a month" left him literally open mouthed. It wasn't true of course but I enjoyed playing the game.
On the flip side though I have long term clients who I have known for over a decade and they have never asked a single personal question about my private life. Perfect! They may just be totally uninterested or have a total respect for the rights and wrongs of booking ladies. Either way it is good.
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I always answer "do you have a partner/spouse" with "no, what would I need one of those for?!"
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I got asked recently 'Do you fancy me' to a client it did feel very awkward. He was disappointed I didn't do dinner meets.
He also asked how long was I going to be doing the job for! Honestly.
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I always answer "do you have a partner/spouse" with "no, what would I need one of those for?!"
🤣 👍
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I never take my wedding ring off, so if anyone asks, I just wave my finger at them...... Sometimes this warrants a follow up question of 'Does he know you do this' - Proceeding by me rolling my eyes into the back of my head & very bluntly telling them he is downstairs watching TV if they would like to ask him themselves, that usually ends that little awkward interaction
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I never take my wedding ring off, so if anyone asks, I just wave my finger at them...... Sometimes this warrants a follow up question of 'Does he know you do this' - Proceeding by me rolling my eyes into the back of my head & very bluntly telling them he is downstairs watching TV if they would like to ask him themselves, that usually ends that little awkward interaction
Love that 🤣
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Yes, and it doesn’t bother me if clients ask me, after all, it’s my choice to answer it or not.
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When they are hard and ready to cum they say all sorts to me ..
Can I see you regularly ?
Can we go out ?
do you do overnights ?
After the eruptions over & they scuttle off out I don't hear from them again !
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Pet hate when guys ask why I'm single, And it's mostly from online dating guys or first dates. Do women ask men why they are single, No we don't because it's obvious they are big needy messy kids that no woman wants to look after and pander to lol
But if I guy ask during i booking i just say I'm too busy and leave it at that.
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This is a pet hate of mine too, especially if they won't drop it like a dog with a bone.
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other clients have assumed I have a boyfriend.
I don't think they really do assume this, but pretending they do is a lot of men's favourite chat up line. If they want to find out your relationship status in a subtle way.
"So does your boyfriend know you do this?" (or similar)
They want us to go "Oh! I don't have one! I'm single!!!!!!!" I doubt it works often but it's like they are hoping they can catch you off guard type thing
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They want us to go "Oh! I don't have one! I'm single!!!!!!!" I doubt it works often but it's like they are hoping they can catch you off guard type thing
I agree with this. I had one look extremely put out when I replied yes he does know, he gets off on it and wants to hear all the dirty details from me later. :D
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I get it a LOT, it's a stupid question but I usually answer 'Because I am a terrible person and very weird'
They think I am joking but AM I?
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Speaking from personal experience of many many years.
It's just blokes that like the Hot wife or cuckold thing.
How it was told me was they get off being with a bad girl.
To each their own!
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I don't take it as an attack, I take it more as they see me as an incredibly sexy, funny and charming woman and they are surprised that no one has hunted me down yet. :D
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I don't take it as an attack, I take it more as they see me as an incredibly sexy, funny and charming woman and they are surprised that no one has hunted me down yet. :D
THAT is right and brilliant!
On my very astute days I reply, Why do you ask? and on other days I tell them, None of your business! Never been asked if I have a boyf/husband by anyone who has been a decent client. Naive curiosity from a client who has been fine will still get Noyb. Because it isn't.
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When I was single I was asked this, also asked why I did not have a mortgage, children "There must be something wrong with you.....".
Actually in one way there was, I fixed all of that BUT why wrong just because I do not follow the conventional expectations. Mortgage is not owning, and renting comes with flexibility.
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It’s the same as “oh you pay tax? “ that one really grips my shit. No I just get cars and mortgages from the fairy god mother you twerp!
And a follow-up on "oh you pay tax?" - "Is it even legal?" ::)
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And a follow-up on "oh you pay tax?" - "Is it even legal?" ::)
"How do you do that, what do you say on the form?"
::) ;D
Then when I am in a relationship, married even I am asked "Are you married, is that a real ring?", "Does he know?".
"Yes and he is fine, his concerns are that I am safe and treated well" :D
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One client recently asked me my status, & when I said I wasn’t married he kept pushing me to concede that I should before I got ‘old & past it’. Seriously. I’ve never asked a client before if he was married or about his personal life but I asked him, and he proudly declared ‘yes I am’, so I said ‘yes well then you are a great advert for it then are you?’ That shut him up.
Honestly, what bothers me about these questions/ interrogations is they don’t like the light being turned on them, so there is a touch of entitlement to it, like, their privacy should be respected but ours is up for grabs.
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I just say the clients are my boyfriends and I like to stay fresh for them.
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I agree with this. I had one look extremely put out when I replied yes he does know, he gets off on it and wants to hear all the dirty details from me later. :D
I say the exact same thing. Plus I say he knows whom I am with in every booking I check in on him knows my whereabouts outcalls.
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Most times I reply with - do you have a girlfriend wife - if I am on my period and I am in that mood
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Lol 😂 all of the time.