I saw someone not so long ago who, in the heat of his passions, yelled, "Why are you doing this job?! You should be a WIFE!"
Presumably he thought that the biggest compliment ever?
Not for me, really. Not that being a wife is a bad thing for those who are into it! But, erm, I'm currently a hard-working single self-employed professional who also studies part-time and is getting really good marks for all her assignments, so being recognised for that would be a better compliment to me - but I guess it's harder to get all those words out when approaching orgasm?
Honestly, I do agree that 'compliments' along this line are very weird when you unpick their source, you know, the things people learn as they grow up in our society which results in them one day telling the prostitute they're shagging that she seems nice enough to be not-a-prossie. I know there are plenty of people out there who don't believe in unpicking this stuff - and I wouldn't do it when a client has actually said something like that, since you know they mean well really - but honestly, you've got to ask yourself where such an odd, twisted idea comes from! "You're such a great prostitute that you seem like you could do something much better with your life" - if you swapped "prostitute" for "lawyer" or "doctor", the sentence would make no sense. Being good at our job, though, makes people like us enough to tell us we shouldn't be doing our job?!
It's a shame but yes, our job is definitely still considered demeaning by many no matter how much effort we and our clients put into saying, "Oh yes, it's a very empowering choice, an independent sex worker makes her own rules, her clients treat her with respect, she makes her own money using her skills, she should be proud, blah blah". And it's some of our own clients who struggle the most with the odd dichotomy of it all.
(Oh, and Mellow - I do think you have the particular sort of guy there who has some serious additional issues like LouLou said, to do with guilt and maybe even issues forming 'normal' relationships in real life etc. It's a definite pain when those ones unload their emotional burdens on you during the booking - I personally do not feel at all qualified to provide counselling and wish those kinds of clients would see a slightly more appropriate professional.
At least they are rare!)