Is it just me or does anyone else get this?.....

So as most of you who know me will know that I've always been very selective about who I meet with and there are lots of reasons for this not that we should need a reason to be honest.

End of the day, I'm inviting complete strangers into my own home (I live and work from home), compete strangers who I'm  offering a very intimate and personal service to and the simple fact that one always has to keep in mind just how dodgy and dangerous this job can be.

So when people phone me up speaking to me in a very crude manner or ask me for things I don't do or phone me throughout the nite etc and I avoid their calls or refuse to see them.....I often get told that I'm up my own arse at best, other times is pure abuse and occasionally I get some really nasty threats.

My response is always.....well if me being selective about which stranger I invite into my home to have sex with me makes me up my own arse then fine, I'm up my own arse.

Any client out there who is a normal and decent person that's actually met will tell you that I'm the least up my own arse person EVER. I have insecurities just like the next person and I am a good person.

It just annoys me when people make judgements on me when my judgment and decisions are based on their idiotic, thoughtless, rude or offensive behaviour.

As an escort trying to make a living, it's not in my best interest to turn work away so if I'm turning it away then there is reason for it.

Why am I up my own arse for only wanting to meet with decent and normal sounding human beings?

There's always 1 bad client that manages to slip through the net who makes for an uncomfortable meeting but I do try my best to avoid this from happening in order to be happy in myself and my job.

It's not about being selective, it's your screening end of and you don't have to explain yourself to anyone.

I used to 'explain' myself etc and found it was the most frustrating ever, so no longer do it.

If someone shouts or talks over me I'll tell them that I'm feeling shouted at/talked over. If they continue I end the call and that's it. No excuses required, NEXT!

Yeah that's my problem, I try to give an explanation for everything but you really can't argue with ignorance xx

Don't waste your time and mental energy reasoning with them. And don't explain why you won't see them. Just say that you're all booked up. Or perhaps very sweetly say "I'm sorry... I don't think I would give you the service you're looking for, but I hope you find someone else to play with!" Be sweet, be firm, be quick. Get off the phone, block the number and ignore them if they try to get through to you again.

I very rarely have a problem with this. They generally go call somebody else.

Explaining in great detail why they haven't met your high criteria will only make them feel insulted. Better to go with a sweet and apologetic version of "it's not you, it's me."

I do always try to tell them politely but firm that I'm not the right choice for them and that I hope they can find someone else they like. It's the persistent ones that are a pain in the ass.

xx

You gotta master the friendly but firm tone and get off the phone. Don't let them reply... And just repeat yourself if necessary and thank them for calling.  " I don't think I'm right for you, I hope you find someone better. Thanks so much for calling! "  "no, no really I want to see you!" "Aw that's very sweet but really, I'd hate for you to waste your money. Best to call someone else. Goodbye, sweetie. "

Then put the phone down and block.

I am pretty good at ending calls politely, no messing. 

Oh I got called a crank because I eventually lost it with a bloke who kept ringing and texting asking me for a booking.I was ignoring him as he had no showed me before and he had a crap attitude anyway.He denied messing me about when I told him to stop bugging me and laughed and said it was a long time ago and he was nervous,I then got called a crank because I wouldn't give him another chance.

I'd say it boils down to men not being able to comprehend the idea of being turned down by a prossie...

I am exactly the same. I live and work from home so have to be selective especially when I had a regular client in the past who somehow got into the building and came knocking on my door after I had blocked him for crossing the boundaries. I always go with my gut when screening as I hate having a stranger in my home making me feel uncomfortable or threatened.

If I don't like the sound of someone, the way they come across or just have a gut feeling I will straight up tell them "sorry I don't feel comfortable seeing you". A gentleman will understand this and not pester, but those who pester are just insecure and can't take no for an answer let alone respect my decision. So they start abusing and swearing-my gut is right when they behave like that, all the more reason not to see them. Trying to justify my reasons to them only pisses them off more, more pestering, more abuse etc. Best thing to do is just ignore them, they usually go away.

If they behave like that the. They're probably not the type of clients who I wish to see in the first place. This way the ones who I do see, I am able to mentally be with them, feel comfortable, be able to do my job without hesitation and actually enjoy it. Always stand your ground.