Author Topic: Would you quit for a man? (Read 8446 times)

FullyFashioned · « **Reply #30 on:** 19 October 2020, 09:42:44 am »

Quote from: MissMegan on 19 October 2020, 01:44:09 am

I'm sick of the narrative that sex workers are incapable/undeserving of being in long-term loving relationships. The amount of times clients have asked me about my personal life, for them to be totally dismayed when I tell them I'm happily engaged (don't ask then?!)

So no, I personally wouldn't quit FOR a man. There's too much money to be made.. I say find one secure enough to understand your work ethic or stay single

Hi, how does your fiancé cope? Has he accepted from the start or has it taken him time? Is there an ultimatum?

ana30 · « **Reply #31 on:** 19 October 2020, 10:01:02 am »

Quote from: MissMegan on 19 October 2020, 01:44:09 am

I'm sick of the narrative that sex workers are incapable/undeserving of being in long-term loving relationships.

Oh well.... sex workers do it to themselves, they don't need the help of any "civvie narratives". I'm tired of reading on this forum the old adage of : "I would never date a man who accepts my job". Reminds me of that Groucho Marx quote: "I would never belong to a club that takes me as a member".

self sabotage, shoot in the foot etc.. You name it. They are the ones who believe that unless they leave hooking they don;t deserve to be loved. Sad.

Serendipity · « **Reply #32 on:** 19 October 2020, 11:29:42 am »

Yes I would quit for a man, but any man worth quitting for wouldn’t ask me to quit... if that makes sense?

FullyFashioned · « **Reply #33 on:** 19 October 2020, 11:35:26 am »

Quote from: Serendipity on 19 October 2020, 11:29:42 am

Yes I would quit for a man, but any man worth quitting for wouldn’t ask me to quit... if that makes sense?

Indeed. Has to be our decision.

FullyFashioned · « **Reply #34 on:** 19 October 2020, 11:36:59 am »

Quote from: amy on 18 October 2020, 11:14:06 pm

Of course they're not, and I don't expect them to. Why would I?

Of course they’re not going to ever match it. But they do need to provide us with a relationship great enough for us to forgo all the benefits. Plus possibly a decent living.

Liverpoolgal123 · « **Reply #35 on:** 19 October 2020, 02:48:40 pm »

Atm i would choose working over a man, I dont actually have the time to start something with a man anyway. I’m only free once or twice a week and I’d rather be earning money on them days rather than dating. I did get involved with a client and developed feelings for him but once he asked me to choose between working or seeing him one night, I chose to earn money.

ana30 · « **Reply #36 on:** 19 October 2020, 03:20:08 pm »

Quote from: Liverpoolgal123 on 19 October 2020, 02:48:40 pm

I did get involved with a client and developed feelings for him but once he asked me to choose between working or seeing him one night, I chose to earn money.

This is the hypocrisy of these men, I mean... he's a punter paying for sex but doesn't want a girlfriend charging for sex. So you're supposed to leave your job while he continues the "paying for sex" part, because of course he's entitled to have his cake and eat it too , however it's not ok for you to have your cake and eat it too, only him.

Madonna-whore complex at it's best

KBP · « **Reply #37 on:** 19 October 2020, 03:25:40 pm »

I would only quit for me if I decided I no longer wanted to do the job (which was the same in my last job. Hated it and it was making me ill so I left).

A man doesn't feature in my life and if one should miraculously appear (literally) then he'll have to deal with me working away on tour for up to 3 months at a time and being home with my grown up children and my cats in-between.

If he really, really loved me he'd need to do a 'Pretty Woman' on me.

Right, back to reality!

PleasureSales · « **Reply #38 on:** 19 October 2020, 04:27:52 pm »

Quote from: amy on 18 October 2020, 11:14:06 pm

Quote from: PleasureSales on 17 October 2020, 06:42:47 pm
No. I love myself first. I would never quit being who I am for a man. Any man worth quitting for wouldn't ever want me to quit for him anyway.
Nobody is asking you to and that isn't what the thread's about, unless you define yourself completely by what you do for a living? The question was about changing jobs (and because you decide you've had enough and want to move on with a partner, not for any other reason).

There are many great traits that define me, my career is just one of them. But I fully recognise that one part of my present, past, and future is significant in the eyes of many men seeking a partner. No, I have not changed careers because of a man demanding I quit to move on with him. I wouldn't have found the right partner for me if I had.

Pink unicorn · « **Reply #39 on:** 19 October 2020, 04:39:33 pm »

I’m currently single but I would quit in a heartbeat if I meet the right person

Braziliana · « **Reply #40 on:** 19 October 2020, 06:56:57 pm »

Quote from: English Green on 16 October 2020, 11:08:48 am

No unless my life was made easier financially from him otherwise what is the point.

+1000!!

Nadya · « **Reply #41 on:** 19 October 2020, 09:48:02 pm »

Is he going to pay my bills?

Braziliana · « **Reply #42 on:** 19 October 2020, 10:02:37 pm »

Quote from: Nadya on 19 October 2020, 09:48:02 pm

Is he going to pay my bills?

...plus your pension and your mortgage-redemption (oh and let him get you a few premium bonds too...)
I am being SERIOUS!!

Nadya · « **Reply #43 on:** 19 October 2020, 10:12:57 pm »

Quote from: Braziliana on 19 October 2020, 10:02:37 pm

...plus your pension and your mortgage-redemption (oh and let him get you a few premium bonds too...)
I am being SERIOUS!!

I don't have a mortgage or indeed a pension, like many parents I intend to live off my ungrateful children, they owe me.
Either way, if my bills are being paid, I am quite open to quitting work, but would I give up THIS work to go to some horror of an office job again? No I would not. I don't mind working doing what 'I' want to do and much of those things wouldn't offer me as much money, but it would offer me greater satisfaction, but right now ain't nuthin goin on but the rent.

So, if he going to take care of that, I am good. The right man (and the right man pays the bills) would be worth it for me.

amy · « **Reply #44 on:** 19 October 2020, 10:13:48 pm »

Quote from: Braziliana on 19 October 2020, 10:02:37 pm

...plus your pension and your mortgage-redemption (oh and let him get you a few premium bonds too...)
I am being SERIOUS!!

Quote from: Nadya on 19 October 2020, 09:48:02 pm

Is he going to pay my bills?

Why would he - are you unable to do any sort of paid work other than sex work? Why can't you pay yours and he pay his like normal, equal partners - romantic relationships aren't about one person freeloading off the other, surely?

Quote from: PleasureSales on 19 October 2020, 04:27:52 pm

I have not changed careers because of a man demanding I quit to move on with him. I wouldn't have found the right partner for me if I had.

Nor would anybody else, because adults don't 'demand' that other adults do what they say or else. That's why the OP didn't say that in her post.

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