Isn’t living a double life killing you a bit with all the lying? I don’t get how some of you do it and I know plenty in real life too who do it, they don’t like that I’m honest with new potential partners straight up about my job and I’ve never had someone go off of me for it but I’m just not a huge double life living sort of person. I get why some of you lie as you may lose the man you love but then imagine them finding out, Christ that’s a huge thing to have to hide.

It’s not something I want to reveal to my partner because, as I said, I want to close the door completely on that life without someone knowing what my past job was.
Now that I have stopped escorting, I’m happy knowing he will never know.
As for the double life, yeah it’s crap having to lie but he would never accept it and that’s absolutely okay. He lives abroad so before closing the distance, we saw each other every 6 weeks for a week at a time. It felt easier keeping my job a secret with him being so far away. Didn’t like it, but that’s how it was. I don’t regret it.

Like some have said it's a job albeit an unconventional job. Love/personal relationships override any job IMHO.

If I was able to support myself doing a more traditional job then100% I would hang up stockings in a heartbeat.

Also I would never tell him I have been sucking cock for cash

Not a chance in hell!

If I was younger and still wanting to have children then that would be different. The desire to have children would have overridden my love of the job. (Unfortunately my desire to have children also led me to stay in a bad marriage for far too long, but that's another story.)

I've had a couple of FWB situations since starting escorting and I really do not want anything more than that. I don't want or need a "romantic" partner.

I do think it's a totally normal thing for prospective partners to be okay with the concept of swinging, open/poly relationships, but draw the line at escorting. To be fair, our line of work means they are far more likely to catch an STI from us, leaving aside issues of jealousy, fear of friends/family finding out and being shamed, etc.

I think if someone is asking you to change career because s/he doesn't like your line of work, then it's a fair question to ask them how they will support you in moving jobs. For example, taking over all the bills whilst you get qualified in something, moving in together and them doing the lion's share of the home/life admin so you can concentrate on studying, offering to give up their own career to provide childcare...