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Nadya

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Re: Would you quit for a man?
« Reply #45 on: 19 October 2020, 10:16:28 pm »
Why would he - are you unable to do any sort of paid work other than sex work? Why can't you pay yours and he pay his like normal, equal partners - romantic relationships aren't about one person freeloading off the other, surely?

Nor would anybody else, because adults don't 'demand' that other adults do what they say or else. That's why the OP didn't say that in her post.

Because I don't want to.  So......those are my requirements.  Other people can have whatever dynamic in a relationship they want, I don't judge. 

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Re: Would you quit for a man?
« Reply #46 on: 19 October 2020, 10:24:27 pm »
Because I don't want to.  So......those are my requirements.  Other people can have whatever dynamic in a relationship they want, I don't judge.

Well that's perfectly fine, but if I was a bloke I wouldn't want a relationship where I was expected to financially support another adult who is more than capable of supporting themselves but just 'doesn't want to'.

While I'd obviously do everything I could in the event of a change in circumstances (illness, redundancy and so on) I wouldn't have a cocklodger in the house who thought normal work was beneath him to the point that doing nothing and sponging off me was preferable.

Then again, I suppose I'd be singularly unlikely to fall for such a man in the first place ;D

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Re: Would you quit for a man?
« Reply #47 on: 19 October 2020, 11:41:08 pm »
Why would he - are you unable to do any sort of paid work other than sex work? Why can't you pay yours and he pay his like normal, equal partners - romantic relationships aren't about one person freeloading off the other, surely?...
If he has asked me to quit whoring for him, then in my view, he should replace my earnings.
If this means that he and I are not "normal, equal partners", whatever those actually are, frankly my dear Amy, I don't give a damn.
Rather than asking whether I could get a job other than whoring, I feel you (or anyone else who takes issue with my stance on wanting a partner to replace what I make as a whore in order for me to give up whoring for him) should ask whether I could get a job in a non-sex profession that offers all the benefits of whoring.  I am happy to answer that if you wish to ask it.
Lastly, "romantic relationships" may indeed preclude the financial dependence of one partner on the other.  But, in my view, such relationships aren't the only kind of long-lasting and happy relationships; there are other kinds.
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Nadya

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Re: Would you quit for a man?
« Reply #48 on: 20 October 2020, 09:31:48 am »
Well that's perfectly fine, but if I was a bloke I wouldn't want a relationship where I was expected to financially support another adult who is more than capable of supporting themselves but just 'doesn't want to'.

While I'd obviously do everything I could in the event of a change in circumstances (illness, redundancy and so on) I wouldn't have a cocklodger in the house who thought normal work was beneath him to the point that doing nothing and sponging off me was preferable.

Then again, I suppose I'd be singularly unlikely to fall for such a man in the first place ;D


But you are not a man Amy, you are a woman, talking as an independent woman, that's fine.  I have been an independent woman all my bloody life, trust me, it has not gotten me anywhere, it hasn't enabled me to find a decent man, in fact men have been sponging off of me financially or emotionally my whole adult life.  I KNOW what I want and I don't judge anyone for thinking differently, I would hope others would offer me the same consideration.

Nadya

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Re: Would you quit for a man?
« Reply #49 on: 20 October 2020, 09:33:05 am »
If he has asked me to quit whoring for him, then in my view, he should replace my earnings.
If this means that he and I are not "normal, equal partners", whatever those actually are, frankly my dear Amy, I don't give a damn.
Rather than asking whether I could get a job other than whoring, I feel you (or anyone else who takes issue with my stance on wanting a partner to replace what I make as a whore in order for me to give up whoring for him) should ask whether I could get a job in a non-sex profession that offers all the benefits of whoring.  I am happy to answer that if you wish to ask it.
Lastly, "romantic relationships" may indeed preclude the financial dependence of one partner on the other.  But, in my view, such relationships aren't the only kind of long-lasting and happy relationships; there are other kinds.

Amen!

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Re: Would you quit for a man?
« Reply #50 on: 20 October 2020, 11:18:41 am »
If he has asked me to quit whoring for him, then in my view, he should replace my earnings.
If this means that he and I are not "normal, equal partners", whatever those actually are, frankly my dear Amy, I don't give a damn.
Rather than asking whether I could get a job other than whoring, I feel you (or anyone else who takes issue with my stance on wanting a partner to replace what I make as a whore in order for me to give up whoring for him) should ask whether I could get a job in a non-sex profession that offers all the benefits of whoring.  I am happy to answer that if you wish to ask it.
Lastly, "romantic relationships" may indeed preclude the financial dependence of one partner on the other.  But, in my view, such relationships aren't the only kind of long-lasting and happy relationships; there are other kinds.

I myself have no isssues to "whoring on a contract" (aka: a marriage were one partner financially pays for all), but I'd rather "free-lance" just because I like my freedom. Do keep in mind that everything comes with a price tag attached. Yes you can find that sugar daddy that will offer you a legal matrimonial contract while expecting you to do your finger nails all day (they certainly exist, I've seen them), but you  will be at their whim, they will have the power over you because you financially depend on them (and they know it). They're literally buying you (versus renting). If this loss of personal freedom, being at someone's whim and having little control over your life sounds appealing because you get to do your nails all day then go for it. It works for some, but not for all. There's nothing wrong with it.
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Re: Would you quit for a man?
« Reply #51 on: 20 October 2020, 11:49:41 am »
...Yes you can find that sugar daddy that will offer you a legal matrimonial contract while expecting you to do your finger nails all day (they certainly exist, I've seen them), but you  will be at their whim, they will have the power over you because you financially depend on them (and they know it)...
Not necessarily, IMO.
Also, I don't necessarily agree that the term "sugar daddy" accurately describes any man who supports his partner financially in full, including to the point of matching his partner's former earnings.
« Last Edit: 20 October 2020, 01:25:58 pm by Braziliana »

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Re: Would you quit for a man?
« Reply #52 on: 20 October 2020, 01:24:43 pm »
If housewifery was only about getting ones nails done all day, a LOT more people would do it. 
As a parent though, no amount of money would make my life THAT easy. 

People have funny ideas about things  ;D

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Re: Would you quit for a man?
« Reply #53 on: 20 October 2020, 01:58:52 pm »
Not necessarily, IMO.
Also, I don't necessarily agree that the term "sugar daddy" accurately describes any man who supports his partner financially in full, including to the point of matching his partner's former earnings.

No disrespect Braziliana (please don't take this the wrong way, in fact I tend to agree with your posts -in genera-l), but if you're marrying a guy for money and expecting to financially support you ( while you do your nails all day, open an online non profit business or become first lady -hello Melania!-) that's whoring, sugar-daddying, call it X. You're basically having sex in exchange for money, and the only diference between you and the girl giving blow-jobs in the Holiday inn is the type of contract, AND the fact that you will be "socially respected" while the girl at Holiday Inn won;t.
« Last Edit: 20 October 2020, 03:08:36 pm by ana30 »
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Re: Would you quit for a man?
« Reply #54 on: 20 October 2020, 02:16:02 pm »
...if you're marrying a guy for money...that's whoring...
I agree 100%
But, IMO, that does not necessarily contradict either of my last 2 statements.
To clarify, I would, in circumstances which I do not care to detail, marry for money.
Similarly, I would only give up whoring for a man if he paid me what I make as a hooker (...or just gave me a 12 million pound lump sum upfront... ;D ).
I have had no takers for my proposed relationship set-up so far, mind, bizarrely enough...
« Last Edit: 20 October 2020, 02:23:31 pm by Braziliana »

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Re: Would you quit for a man?
« Reply #55 on: 20 October 2020, 02:25:25 pm »
Similarly, I would only give up whoring for a man if he paid me what I make as a hooker (...or just gave me a 12 million pound lump sum upfront... ;D ). I have had no takers for my proposed relationship set-up so far, mind, bizarrely enough...

Sorry to hear that, but neither have I  ;D
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Re: Would you quit for a man?
« Reply #56 on: 20 October 2020, 02:29:15 pm »
I am not saying i would only quit if a wealthy guy come along to offer me a good life style and i do not really fancy or like him.

But what i am really saying if i did quit for a guy because i like him and don't want to do this if being with him properly then he would not need to have a very high earning job but i certainly would not get with someone on a very low income where we would be struggling even if i did some non sex work.

I never want to be in a worse financial position when i leave this whether i had to work a different job or not or be at home for some of it. So a very low income boyfriend/ husband that will not be for me. I don't want to go backwards in life and i feel i already sacrificed a lot getting into sex work in the first place.

Braziliana

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Re: Would you quit for a man?
« Reply #57 on: 20 October 2020, 03:05:28 pm »
Sorry to hear that, but neither have I  ;D
Puzzling, isn't it?
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Re: Would you quit for a man?
« Reply #58 on: 20 October 2020, 09:19:47 pm »
If you wouldn’t or if you have done, why?
Also why not?

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Re: Would you quit for a man?
« Reply #59 on: 23 October 2020, 03:13:34 pm »
Only if he was rich and could supply more than I’m getting each week working.  ;D