Its none of your clients business if you have another job or not.
I think some clients do have an attitude where even though they are using our services they 'look down' on us at the same time for following this line of work. Its pretty patronising i would have said for him to say he is 'proud' of you for having a 'normal' job as well (he wont realise he is being patronising though of course)

I quite often have clients ask if i have a 'real' job or what im going to do after i finish escorting cos 'it isint a long term career decision' I just smile sweetly,grit my teeth and bare it.

But honestly just forget about what he said and just get on with doing what you have to do. Its much easier in this job if you just try and let clients comments drift over your head and not take them personally, you will definately keep your sanity for longer.

He sounds socially inept, and maybe just a little bit stupid, but basically good.  My nicer clients are often interested in what else I do.  This can feel invasive or patronising, but the fact is, these guys book often and for a long time! 

The other thing to consider is that many clients are not entirely comfortable with the idea of paying for sex.  They don't want to see themselves as clients and therefore do not want to see you as a prostitute.  This can actually be the sign of a very respectful client, although they don't always phrase things in a very respectful way! 

There's also the guy who's like a client who I once met (actually, he fits into Hermione's description and did go for long bookings) who raved to me over dinner with wide-eyed joy about an escort he'd heard about who had a Real Job in finance (yes, this was just before The Terrible Depression happened)! Because this obviously meant to him that she was doing it 100% because she wanted to. And she may indeed have been living out a bit of a naughty fantasy of her own and that's none of my business really. Except that I don't recommend actually *doing* escort work if you think it's a sexy idea, and I think maybe she was just enjoying the supplemental income the way most of us part-timers do?

Anyway, the client was full of glee when he told me about her. So I think in his head he'd taken part in a sexy lady's sexy fantasy (albeit using real cash!) rather than Done A Punt, which was nice for him.

And did you see that Daily Mail article (mentioned on Grunternet - http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1190966/I-addicted-girls-A-respected-script-writer-explains-succumbed-lure-paying-sex.html) about a guy visiting escorts? It seems he's all fine about it until he hears about how a girl he's visiting *actually needs the money*!!1!. Gasp. He realizes that he's a wicked man.

Right-o, I'm rambling horribly so I'll stop now. But I think this part of escort work (trying to figure out what clients actually think?) is one that drives many an SP round the bend!

I hear ya Joey- I'm getting increasingly irritated at clients asking when I am going to quit this "because I can't do it forever, obviously" and then when I say "oh soon, soon" it seems to satisfy their guilt as they clearly couldn't deal with themselves if, heaven forbid, I would like to make a career out of this. What they don't understand is that I would find it more degrading and soul destroying having to work in an office, licking some blokes arse and making tea for about 10 years, until I promoted and earning half as much as I do now. With two degrees and some really sought after work experience under my belt, I still can't find "normal employment" unless I am willing to go into telesales or HR admin for ?16K a year- enough to pay london rent and bills, have about ?10 a week for food and fun after tax. I mean, why wouldn't I want an office job?!

Why can't they just be happy that we are successful as escorts and, dare I say, earning a reasonable living in a recession? Why does a good self employed job as an escort not count as a career option in their tiny, willy-focussed brains?!

Rant over. xx

When clients say things along these lines to me, I tell them that I like being an escort and that it is much better work than most of what's available. Do I want to do it forever? Maybe, maybe not. I don't know. I'd like to eventually have another career, but not because escorting is awful for me -- it's not at all. It's just that I have other interests I'd like to get into when I can.