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LotusFlower

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #30 on: 28 June 2020, 07:16:55 pm »
It's not laziness, it's just bloody difficult being in work mode for such an extended length of time!

I have had one hour bookings that were horrific due to the dynamics being off, and I've had full day and even travel trips that have been awesome. It all depends on dynamics.

I met a guy for a dinner date, which was out first meeting. He drove around 4 hours to get to me. Over emails, and even on our brief phone chat prior, he seemed like someone I'd get on well with. When I met him he was so shy and inexperienced with women it was like pulling teeth trying to get conversation out of him. He asked to extend to an overnight and in theory, I could have. But I declined because it would have been torture.

I don't even like working past 6pm these days because I want to go home, get into my comfies and just relax.

But that is the beauty of the world, we are all different and all like different things!

northernstar

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #31 on: 28 June 2020, 09:41:24 pm »
It's not laziness, it's just bloody difficult being in work mode for such an extended length of time!

I have had one hour bookings that were horrific due to the dynamics being off, and I've had full day and even travel trips that have been awesome. It all depends on dynamics.

I met a guy for a dinner date, which was out first meeting. He drove around 4 hours to get to me. Over emails, and even on our brief phone chat prior, he seemed like someone I'd get on well with. When I met him he was so shy and inexperienced with women it was like pulling teeth trying to get conversation out of him. He asked to extend to an overnight and in theory, I could have. But I declined because it would have been torture.

I don't even like working past 6pm these days because I want to go home, get into my comfies and just relax.

But that is the beauty of the world, we are all different and all like different things!

Yes, it’s all dynamics but if it’s the first time seeing them it’s a Russian roulette lol

That’s why it’s best to offer a max 1/1.5hr first time seeing a new person. I’ve had a couple that were shy, insecure, awkward, tense and exactly like you said pulling teeth to get something out of them. It’s an ordeal and, guess depends on individual, but I get very insecure and awkward as a reaction. At this point the air is to thick you just want to cut it short and refund the remaining time.
Thankfully doesn’t happen often.

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #32 on: 29 June 2020, 01:36:12 am »
I've never done an overnight. I did a 3 hour once and I wanted to stab him and myself in the face 2 hours in. I am on the spectrum so find it almost impossible to act one way if I'm feeling another. Somedays I struggle with half hour bookings so!
“Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by arseholes.” Sigmund Freud”

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #33 on: 21 July 2020, 08:15:32 pm »
I no longer offer them. I've not done loads but the ones I have done have left me feeling exhausted (because I can't sleep next to a stranger). It also tends to ruin relationships with nice regulars, because either I can't keep up the happy sexy façade all night, or because they begrudge forking out so much cash, or worse they are hoping to turn it into a relationship.
I'd much rather do a few hour bookings. Keep the mystery and allure and keep my sanity. X

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #34 on: 25 July 2020, 10:25:13 am »
I've only ever had a couple of overnights and have one coming up.  I've also turned down a couple of offers.  The ones I've done have been really good, one with dinner and drinks, fabulous location and chocolates and a thank you card on the pillow with the cash and a full night's sleep.  The other was a bit of a 'party' booking where the guy seemed to forget if he snorted something his dick would shrivel up 😂  again, great night's sleep and no work!  Mind you, nothing would ever stop me sleeping x

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #35 on: 25 July 2020, 07:04:51 pm »
I've never offered them and never will. My personal life doesn't allow overnights, but I still wouldn't offer them even if that wasn't an issue.

A full 10-12 hours with a stranger and having to be on guard at all times plus in performing mode the entire time? No thank you. I'd rather stab myself in the eyes. (Well, except maybe one or two regs. They'd be fun, I think.  :D)

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #36 on: 25 July 2020, 11:37:31 pm »
I have had three overnights in my life and I'm glad I was lucky. I've heard horror stories from colleagues about being woken up by the client every hour or two to have sex non-stop and I honestly couldn't do that.

Still, nowadays I only offer overnights to clients I know well or that I have had a good connection with, just to be sure that they're not going to expect endless action. I don't feel okay with someone who wants too much time, full nights or days without having met before. Like, how can they be so sure that we'll match? There's something there that disturbs me. I have also had colleagues telling me there are clients who only do overnight+ and they are okay to see but for me it feels like a gamble. Better to know them first in shorter dates imho.

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #37 on: 05 August 2020, 12:49:47 am »
I could never contemplate an overnight booking. I usually struggle to spend more than an hour in the company of a guy I don't actually fancy so the thought of sleeping next to them an entire night ( not that I would actually be able to sleep) fills me with dread. No amount of money ...( Ok I'd do it for £10,000 but that's not AW going rate haha) would convince me otherwise.

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #38 on: 06 August 2020, 07:03:09 pm »
I think I buck the trend looking at all the responses. I have had loads of overnights and love them. Many with repeat customers.

Only had one that ended in tears and I kicked him out of my apartment at 4am! All the rest have been a relaxed evening with not too much work. I screen all potential overnight by having a good chin-wag to ensure we are on the same page as to how the evening will go. So no, you are not going to fuck me all night, you are not going to poke me at 3/4 am and expect me to suck your cock, you are not going to sniff shit or pop whatever pills that get you going and yes part of your booking I will be sleeping.

Most of my overnights are typically drinks, order food in, 2 rounds before cat-eye and 1 round in the morning. Quite a few is just one long session then sleep and don't even want a quick one before they leave.

I would much rather do 1 overnight then do like 6 jobs during the day.
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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #39 on: 10 October 2020, 06:25:41 pm »
My worst experience with an overnight was when I first started with an agency - never met the guy before and we didn't leave his tiny cramped apartment. We watched crap TV and he kept wanting sex back to back, it was the most mentally & physically draining 12 hrs of my life! I was naïve and taken advantage of.. I was almost in tears when I finally left! Ugh never again.

Now I'm independent I only offer overnights to regulars, my rate is a bit higher than the going rate and I have clear boundaries including a meal out, drinks, reasonable rest. If someone wants to see me in the confines of a hotel room, I charge by the hour. Because of what I charge they are definitely worth doing.. but I hate not being able to take my makeup off, going to the toilet with someone so close by.. I have zero sexual appetite first thing in the morning and the thought of someone trying to mount me makes me feel ill...as long as the money is good  ;D :o

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #40 on: 11 October 2020, 07:23:46 pm »
I do overnights (and occasionally longer) but only for trusted clients who I know well. A typical overnight is part of a full escort experience, evening with dinner out, sometimes entertainment or a client event.  I usually require a separate room in a suite, of at least my own sleeping bed if that's not available. Clients know my expectations well in advance so there is no misunderstanding. A proper overnight is very enjoyable and profitable, with lots of rest and occasionally a nice breakfast too.
 

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #41 on: 11 October 2020, 08:41:33 pm »
I do overnights (and occasionally longer) but only for trusted clients who I know well. A typical overnight is part of a full escort experience, evening with dinner out, sometimes entertainment or a client event.  I usually require a separate room in a suite, of at least my own sleeping bed if that's not available. Clients know my expectations well in advance so there is no misunderstanding. A proper overnight is very enjoyable and profitable, with lots of rest and occasionally a nice breakfast too.

Wow if I thought I could get my own suite and not have to sleep with them I'd consider it. I didn't think they'd go for that as I assumed most hate the idea of paying for us to be sleeping and the main idea is to be able to maul us through the night, which to be honest horrifies me.

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #42 on: 12 October 2020, 11:14:07 am »
There is absolutely no way I can put myself through an overnight, 2 hours is my limit & I find that difficult enough even with regulars.  I always get really stressed before a 2 hour, I’m so relieved when it’s over.  Actually I have no idea why I say I do them!! ::)  well maybe I do £££  ;D

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #43 on: 12 October 2020, 01:31:15 pm »
Wow if I thought I could get my own suite and not have to sleep with them I'd consider it. I didn't think they'd go for that as I assumed most hate the idea of paying for us to be sleeping and the main idea is to be able to maul us through the night, which to be honest horrifies me.

Exactly. I am not sure where and how PS finds such guys who are happy to pay her to sleep. Unfortunately that’s not the case in 99.999% cases.

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #44 on: 12 October 2020, 01:57:09 pm »
Exactly. I am not sure where and how PS finds such guys who are happy to pay her to sleep. Unfortunately that’s not the case in 99.999% cases.

I wonder if it makes a difference if overnights are bedroom based 100% or mixed with social activities outside? Maybe some SW are better suited to one or the another?

I echo PS experiences. I didn't think having pleasant overnights was unusual. I also sleep without any issues of  clients mauling or making OTT demands. I've not advertised in a novel way, or briefed them beforehand, it just works out like that. Even with coke clients who want indoors gigs with no restaurant socials I've had no issues with abusive or 'over-sexualised' behaviour.

It's wierd as I'm normally a totally quiet person but somehow overnights fly by like being with old chums. On the good-humoured funny vibe.
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