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peaches_xx

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Why I stopped offering overnights
« on: 14 June 2020, 05:11:25 pm »
It's basically just punter code for "I want a huge discount". Also is a favourite of fantasists who have no intention of turning up.

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #1 on: 14 June 2020, 05:25:28 pm »
Cool. I stopped offering them because I can't keep the 'on' switch flicked for that long and find it too stressful, I can't sleep in bed with a stranger (which meant I wound up taking the following day off and sometimes the one after that) and I hate being poked and prodded first thing in the morning when I'm barely awake. I've never found either of the above to be a problem, though.
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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #2 on: 14 June 2020, 05:59:55 pm »
Cool. I stopped offering them because I can't keep the 'on' switch flicked for that long and find it too stressful, I can't sleep in bed with a stranger (which meant I wound up taking the following day off and sometimes the one after that) and I hate being poked and prodded first thing in the morning when I'm barely awake. I've never found either of the above to be a problem, though.


Agreed. I honestly couldn’t think of anything worse! I did a few back when I started in 2015 and they were always all nighters. *shudders*

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #3 on: 14 June 2020, 06:06:17 pm »
Yes I set my price to be my price, which depends on exact details and ease of making arrangements. Interestingly those  who try for discount or a deal tend to want to string out communications umm and ahhh.


Had some really nice over nights, including some very straightforward ones. Also some which were edgier, I've learned to be very clear and also firm.

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #4 on: 14 June 2020, 08:08:32 pm »
Cool. I stopped offering them because I can't keep the 'on' switch flicked for that long and find it too stressful, I can't sleep in bed with a stranger (which meant I wound up taking the following day off and sometimes the one after that) and I hate being poked and prodded first thing in the morning when I'm barely awake. I've never found either of the above to be a problem, though.

I'm the same. I'm a grumpy cow in the mornings, and I can only play nice for about 6 hours... :-\

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #5 on: 14 June 2020, 09:35:58 pm »
I stopped overnights ages ago. Some were ok, some were awful and the rest probably just boring. I never got even half the sleep I needed so the next day was a washout, so not good value.

More than all the above though I just do not want to spend several hours with any paying client.

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #6 on: 14 June 2020, 11:04:44 pm »
I like em especially in hotels with champers, a bit of room service nosh, and a big bathtub...girly I know!
« Last Edit: 14 June 2020, 11:11:17 pm by saltysweet »
Yeah like I'll let the human guineapigs have first dibbs at eating the food that's been sitting in those restaurant freezers for the past 4 months.

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #7 on: 15 June 2020, 05:10:03 am »
I think overnights I could have coped with in my thirties as I would have still had the energy but I find it harder to wake up properly in the mornings for the first hour or so now I am in my fifties lol.

I often don't sleep well as it is without some geezer playing with my bits every five minutes.  No wonder the price is set so high as you must have to be a saint to cope with it....!

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #8 on: 15 June 2020, 08:55:54 am »
I've never, ever offered them. Good job really as I tend to fart a lot when I wake up and I can't really stop it  :D ;D
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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #9 on: 15 June 2020, 10:17:56 am »
I get asked for overnights maybe once a month, I’ve been escorting 5 years and only just did my first one back in February. I usually say no because they are timewasters or people I haven’t met before but this one guy I saw in January so I knew he was ok & I could tolerate a night with him.
I initially didn’t want to do it because the only guy I like waking up to is my partner but I asked him whether I should do it as it’s an a lot of money and he said he was ok with it.
Glad I did, he bought me perfume, sex toy & lingerie & took me out for a nice meal. We had sex once then fell asleep, he didn’t want anything in the morning- honestly couldn’t have gone any better.


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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #10 on: 15 June 2020, 10:59:01 am »
I get asked for overnights maybe once a month, I’ve been escorting 5 years and only just did my first one back in February. I usually say no because they are timewasters or people I haven’t met before but this one guy I saw in January so I knew he was ok & I could tolerate a night with him.
I initially didn’t want to do it because the only guy I like waking up to is my partner but I asked him whether I should do it as it’s an a lot of money and he said he was ok with it.
Glad I did, he bought me perfume, sex toy & lingerie & took me out for a nice meal. We had sex once then fell asleep, he didn’t want anything in the morning- honestly couldn’t have gone any better.

Wow that’s like the best overnight ever!

I don’t do them either, last one I did was maybe 5yrs ago with a regular. Few hours of fun and Roleplay, slept in separate beds (by mutual agreement). Early wake up but just a morning BJ.

Reason I don’t do them is I just don’t sleep at all in the same bed with a virtual stranger.

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #11 on: 15 June 2020, 11:01:30 am »
I get asked for overnights maybe once a month, I’ve been escorting 5 years and only just did my first one back in February. I usually say no because they are timewasters or people I haven’t met before but this one guy I saw in January so I knew he was ok & I could tolerate a night with him.
I initially didn’t want to do it because the only guy I like waking up to is my partner but I asked him whether I should do it as it’s an a lot of money and he said he was ok with it.
or a niGlad I did, he bought me perfume, sex toy & lingerie & took me out for a meal. We had sex once then fell asleep, he didn’t want anything in the morning- honestly couldn’t have gone any better.

If I could have a guarantee they were all like that I would be back doing them!  :)

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #12 on: 15 June 2020, 11:30:47 am »
If I could have a guarantee they were all like that I would be back doing them!  :)

See, I still wouldn't. I don't want to go out in public with punters (and if I know them and like them enough that I do I'm happy to go and eat McDonalds or KFC off the clock after their booking, or whatever) and I can buy my own perfume and lingerie. An overnight would cost me two days of time and I can make the same money doing a handful of one hour and half hour bookings while keeping my sleep pattern and my sanity.

The one and only overnight incall I did at mine many years ago also reminded me of how men leave the toilet the morning after some rich food, too. I did think about just burning the house down and having done with it :(
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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #13 on: 15 June 2020, 11:36:09 am »
I get asked for overnights maybe once a month, I’ve been escorting 5 years and only just did my first one back in February. I usually say no because they are timewasters or people I haven’t met before but this one guy I saw in January so I knew he was ok & I could tolerate a night with him.
I initially didn’t want to do it because the only guy I like waking up to is my partner but I asked him whether I should do it as it’s an a lot of money and he said he was ok with it.
Glad I did, he bought me perfume, sex toy & lingerie & took me out for a nice meal. We had sex once then fell asleep, he didn’t want anything in the morning- honestly couldn’t have gone any better.

Yes I usually stipulate certain amount of uninterrupted sleep, price reflects amount of time I'm away from other life or in comparison to other bookings. Advertising makes it clear I'm not offering an all night shaggathon and I mention this to any enquiries.

Interestingly some of my worst have been with clients I've known and even had previous longer bookings with including other overnights. What made the difference was context, their guilt about the story they'd told their partner, or perception of the overnight. I've found success rate to be unrelated to familiarity, had some very good one offs.

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Re: Why I stopped offering overnights
« Reply #14 on: 15 June 2020, 01:07:53 pm »
Tried a few times - nope never again

1) expectation of constant fucking
2) resentful punter when you tell him you’re tired and need sleep (“I am not paying you to sleep”)
3) inability to keep up the enthusiasm for that long (especially when tired)
4) tired af day after so it’s one day wasted
5) able to make the same amount of money doing a few bookings with minimal fuss and then go to bed without interruption
6) inability to sleep next to anyone let alone a stranger

Fuck that, not worth the fuss in my opinion.