Author Topic: Why do they ruin the fantasy? (Read 1862 times)

Tequila Sunset · « **on:** 17 May 2025, 12:21:18 am »

I would say it's reasonable to say that it's universally understood that hiring a escort is paying someone to pretend to like you for a hour, and you are specifically paying for a fantasy. so why do so many people feel the need to ask me to stay longer than their alloted time or even ask me out on dates! my last client repeatedlty told me to "not worry about the money or time and just chill" and at one point asked me to be his girlfriend, why create these akward moments where i either need to say that i'm not into him and basically ruin what he spent a decent amount of money on or make up a lie to shut him up and give me a excuse to leave? it honestly comes across as self harm at times. in the end i told him i had a girlfriend i had to get back to as i wanted to sleep with her tonight and he told me to leave and sent me a message afterwards whining about how he had wasted his money. what did he expect? me to fall in love with him? it's always people that pay the lowest rates that do this as well.

Mirror · « **Reply #1 on:** 17 May 2025, 10:44:27 am »

Quote from: Tequila Sunset on 17 May 2025, 12:21:18 am

I would say it's reasonable to say that it's universally understood that hiring a escort is paying someone to pretend to like you for a hour, and you are specifically paying for a fantasy. so why do so many people feel the need to ask me to stay longer than their alloted time or even ask me out on dates! my last client repeatedlty told me to "not worry about the money or time and just chill" and at one point asked me to be his girlfriend, why create these akward moments where i either need to say that i'm not into him and basically ruin what he spent a decent amount of money on or make up a lie to shut him up and give me a excuse to leave? it honestly comes across as self harm at times. in the end i told him i had a girlfriend i had to get back to as i wanted to sleep with her tonight and he told me to leave and sent me a message afterwards whining about how he had wasted his money. what did he expect? me to fall in love with him? it's always people that pay the lowest rates that do this as well.

It is a shame when this happens because all I (and likely you) want to do is provide a good experience. The message you received from him afterwards is however completely out of order.

OverTheHill · « **Reply #2 on:** 17 May 2025, 05:57:19 pm »

He’s an arsehole and I would have been firm and if hint not taken, would have asked him to leave.

I don’t have the problem of them confusing dating with escorting. I have had clients becoming too keen, but thankfully I tour so I am not stuck with them.

Men are just a bit thick.

Tequila Sunset · « **Reply #3 on:** 17 May 2025, 08:56:18 pm »

I've just had a lot of these people lately who pay a half hour and then are amazed when they are timed and beg for a overnight. They were all in their 20s and 30s and I wonder if they think it's a formality so i don't need to stay with the "old ugly men".

OverTheHill · « **Reply #4 on:** 17 May 2025, 09:56:18 pm »

Well the ‘old ugly men’ pay my bills (and possibly yours) and give me a great lifestyle, so I guess it’s horses for courses!

I certainly didn’t go into this job to shag Mr Universe lookalikes and I see clients up to their 80’s (albeit I sometimes reckon I’ve done my bit for Care in the Community)

I don’t like the young ones, but that’s because they seem more ‘porn star experience’ oriented and I don’t offer that.

It sounds to me like your issue is with boundary pushers, but trust me when I say, they come in all age groups.

I’m strict as hell and I’m busy.

Set your boundaries.

Tequila Sunset · « **Reply #5 on:** 18 May 2025, 07:27:31 am »

Quote from: OverTheHill on 17 May 2025, 09:56:18 pm

Well the ‘old ugly men’ pay my bills (and possibly yours) and give me a great lifestyle, so I guess it’s horses for courses!

I certainly didn’t go into this job to shag Mr Universe lookalikes and I see clients up to their 80’s (albeit I sometimes reckon I’ve done my bit for Care in the Community)

I don’t like the young ones, but that’s because they seem more ‘porn star experience’ oriented and I don’t offer that.

It sounds to me like your issue is with boundary pushers, but trust me when I say, they come in all age groups.

I’m strict as hell and I’m busy.

Set your boundaries.

It's funny because my bills are actually paid by closeted 20 somethings who want to have sex with someone with a penis but also won't make them feel gay (i'm a trans woman). I actually much prefer older guys because they have usaully being seeing transgender escorts for many years and are much more relaxed and accepting. it makes me feel like a woman escorting rather than a fetished object used by people who deep down view me as a man.

Patricia · « **Reply #6 on:** 18 May 2025, 11:06:53 am »

While not being under the illusion that every man I've seen/serviced has had a reasonable amount of respect for the women they pay, once in a while one will let slip his disdain for us. One such comes to mind. I'd already met him a handful of times with no problems whatsoever but his last visit (determined by me as he was mentally sacked) showed an unpleasant side to him.

His time was up and everything he came for was complete but unlike previous sessions he made no move to get dressed etc. I let him stay another few minutes just talking then I politely hinted time was up! I wasn't expecting his "oh you'll have someone waiting next I suppose" with a grimace. I didn't have someone loitering to take his place but if I had it wasn't his concern. I replied no. His twisted face got worse and he got dressed without looking at or speaking to me (he probably didn't believe me) It was awkward. He left my flat just mumbling thanks. I doubted he'd try to book again but he did. Text only which I didn't reply to and he was then blocked.

Lushblossom · « **Reply #7 on:** 18 May 2025, 11:24:48 am »

I think most of them just hold it together for the duration of the booking. They can only show their true self slowly. After several meets. I act down to earth the whole time so don't 'play a role' as I find this the easiest stance to take for me.

Perhaps clients paying escorts over time causes hangups I don't know. I guess it would potentially cause resentment on their side over time.

Mirror · « **Reply #8 on:** 18 May 2025, 02:01:41 pm »

Quote from: Patricia on 18 May 2025, 11:06:53 am

While not being under the illusion that every man I've seen/serviced has had a reasonable amount of respect for the women they pay, once in a while one will let slip his disdain for us. One such comes to mind. I'd already met him a handful of times with no problems whatsoever but his last visit (determined by me as he was mentally sacked) showed an unpleasant side to him.

His time was up and everything he came for was complete but unlike previous sessions he made no move to get dressed etc. I let him stay another few minutes just talking then I politely hinted time was up! I wasn't expecting his "oh you'll have someone waiting next I suppose" with a grimace. I didn't have someone loitering to take his place but if I had it wasn't his concern. I replied no. His twisted face got worse and he got dressed without looking at or speaking to me (he probably didn't believe me) It was awkward. He left my flat just mumbling thanks. I doubted he'd try to book again but he did. Text only which I didn't reply to and he was then blocked.

I had a client like this but he had been slow to dress and leave everyone of his handful of bookings. I had actually brought this client in on previous rates because he'd been looking at my profile, corresponding about making a booking just before the deadline for a pre-anounced rate increase for new clients. He appreciated this so much he was difficult to budge end of a booking, and once tried to pull me no back to bed after time on promise of giving me another orgasm.

It was all about me apparently but he was unreliable and the last booking he had with me I mentioned the time, like yours he screwed up his face 'Guess you want me out of your hair'. On going downstairs he noticed my lounge clock (there is a clock in the bedroom but I don't think he'd noticed), exclaimed 'Heck it's way past, no wonder you want me gone'. He never booked again.

MyValentine · « **Reply #9 on:** 19 May 2025, 12:37:11 pm »

Quote from: Tequila Sunset on 17 May 2025, 12:21:18 am

what did he expect? me to fall in love with him?

Yes. I really think some are delusional enough to think we might actually fall in love with them

Others will have had it succeed before to overstay ( and have wrangled free time out of other escorts, who may be naive enough can’t hold firm boundaries) and so they’re just chancing it to get the same from you.

But it’s under the guise of “I don’t want it to feel too transactional” Lol

They’re just chancers end of the day. And if they do get it once, they will expect it every time

Worse is when they brag about dating other escorts to me. Not discreet, also immediately hinting they would like to date “for free” like no no no

Quote from: Tequila Sunset on 17 May 2025, 12:21:18 am

it's always people that pay the lowest rates that do this as well.

Agreed. This is often true too

See also the main SAAFE.info site for more Support And Advice For Escorts

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