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TeenKylie

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Why do they never believe anything you say?
« on: 16 May 2012, 08:36:22 pm »
Clients I am becoming increasing frustrated with that always seem to think ALL sex workers are the same and liars about everything. I know we all work different ways and I'm not criticising the way anyone works. The thing that gets to me the most and I have spoken about it before is how many clients I have seen/see that day, they don't seem to get it that there are actually girls out there that do only choose to see say a couple of clients a day or even less out of choice. Not just because they have another job or whatever but because that's just the way they like to work and earning mega bucks sometimes just isn't their priority but more of a lifestyle choice. They just can't seem to understand or get it into their heads that some of us might actually be prepared to turn money down! I have seen clients who ask me what I've been doing so far that day and I'll say what I have honestly been doing such as been out in town or had lunch with a friend blah blah and I always get the same responce so how many clients have you seen so far? And the majority of the time it's none! But the look on their face just tells me they think I'm lying to 'keep them happy' and it makes me really angry.

There are so many other examples of situations and it makes me sad more than anything that they think we are all liars and deceiving money grabbers not normal women who live normal life's maybe and are actually telling the truth! Some guys can just be so narrow minded.

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« Last Edit: 16 May 2012, 11:58:52 pm by MissKylie »

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Re: Why do they never believe anything you say?
« Reply #1 on: 16 May 2012, 08:42:39 pm »
The thing that gets to me the most and I have spoken about it before is how many clients I have seen/see that day, they don't seem to get it that there are actually girls out there that do only choose to see say a couple of clients a day or even less out of choice. Not just because they have another job or whatever but because that's just the way they like to work and earning mega bucks sometimes just isn't their priority but more of a lifestyle choice. They just can't seem to understand or get it into their heads that some of us might actually be prepared to turn money down!

You really have a bee in your bonnet about this don?t you?  ;D I?ve seen you mention it a few times across several threads. I suspect the majority of customers really don?t give a flying f*** about whether you see 1 or 10 guys a day as long as they themselves are still treated as an individual and receive a good standard of service. You need to stop reading punting forums before you go insane!!!! Lol x
« Last Edit: 16 May 2012, 08:49:44 pm by Danae »

TeenKylie

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Re: Why do they never believe anything you say?
« Reply #2 on: 16 May 2012, 08:46:34 pm »
The thing that gets to me the most and I have spoken about it before is how many clients I have seen/see that day, they don't seem to get it that there are actually girls out there that do only choose to see say a couple of clients a day or even less out of choice. Not just because they have another job or whatever but because that's just the way they like to work and earning mega bucks sometimes just isn't their priority but more of a lifestyle choice. They just can't seem to understand or get it into their heads that some of us might actually be prepared to turn money down!

You really have a bee in your bonnet about this don't you?  ;D I've seen you mention it a few times across several threads. I suspect the majority of customers really don't give a flying f*** about whether you see 1 or 10 guys a day as long as they themselves are still treated as an individual and receive a good standard of service. You need to stop reading punting forums before you go insane!!!! Lol x
It's got nothing to do with forms. I am completely staying away from them! Of course you're right about that. That's just ONE example. There's loads of others I could mention where they always think you're lying about something and that's what really gets to me.x
« Last Edit: 16 May 2012, 08:49:50 pm by MissKylie »

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Re: Why do they never believe anything you say?
« Reply #3 on: 17 May 2012, 09:14:21 am »
I think if you do not harden up your shell and let things flow over you more easily you will burn out really quickly.

Sometimes they are making inane conversation, so what! They will be leaving soon so just deflect them by doing your job and taking their mind off conversation.

Clients will always chat, does it matter what you say in your escort persona, not really.  Just smile, laugh, be friendly and be professional.

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Re: Why do they never believe anything you say?
« Reply #4 on: 17 May 2012, 09:40:33 am »
Most of them are just making small talk, but beware of those that are just trying to get an idea of what you are making. They can take or leave what you say to them don't ever give them true details or you could be putting yourself at risk. They have no reason to ask you your business and you have no reason to give them yours. If I am asked a question which I don't think is appropriate I will not divulge too much. They have come to me for a service not to write a biography on my daily life.

I couldn't careless what expression they have on their face when I reply to a question they ask. They will leave me once their time is up and that's that. Harsh but true. And to me someone who has a look of disbelief when you resply to their question needs to get a life and realise being an escort doesn't mean you are one and all rolled into one. We are all individuals with different personalities, lifestyles and practices.
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Re: Why do they never believe anything you say?
« Reply #5 on: 17 May 2012, 11:32:36 am »
Clients will always chat, does it matter what you say in your escort persona, not really.  Just smile, laugh, be friendly and be professional.

Exactly! You've got to remember, as well, that clients are clearly very interested in us (hence them happily handing over a three figure sum to spend even a relatively brief time with us) but the one thing they'll never be able to know for sure is exactly what we get up to all day. Well, I suppose they could start some hardcore stalking but that would just result in a police caution (or worse) and probably the subsequent loss of their job and family. So that's obviously not an option for anyone remotely sane!

Most of our clients will just be really curious, then, because it's just something they can never really know. Do we wake up and brush our teeth and do housework and watch TV? Well, yes, but that sounds terribly boring and since I think most clients think we're 'different' to most women (because most women don't offer sexual services for money - that may be the only real difference but I think it can be hard for non-prossies to really understand that we're not necessarily also nymphomaniacs/broken/odd/etc), I think they quite like to let their imaginations run away with them. Sexy pillow fights at bedtime? Sexy food fights at lunchtime? Sexy mud wrestling on Sunday afternoons? Sexy schoolgirls on Monday mornings? Constant hot'n'horny sex in every other minute of the week?

Combined with the fact that non-prossies often think our job must be sooooo easy - just lie back all day and have a few quick shags, or whatever?! - well, it's not surprising that many clients want to "find out" about what sexy fun and frolicks we're doing all the time. It's hardly helped by most of our websites and blogs being full of, "Ooh I just LOVE sexy fun and frolicks ALL the time!"-type stuff. ;D But we can hardly write, "I will tolerate a reasonable amount of sexual interaction within the confines of your booked appointment as long as you don't smell", so that can't be helped.

To be honest, I suppose I have had so much practice now with all the usual client-y conversations that I don't mind covering the typical questions. I've got a range of light and amusing responses for all of them, depending on what I think the client would enjoy hearing most, and I find a fun conversation to be a very important part of any booking. As soon as you get upset about something (unimportant), the client will react very sensitively and will find it hard to have a good time. Keeping things fun and bright is really essential. So do take the advice given above and focus on developing the ability to let these little things run off you like water off a duck's wotsit. :) This job shouldn't be leaving you with lasting irritation/negativity!
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Re: Why do they never believe anything you say?
« Reply #6 on: 17 May 2012, 12:30:54 pm »
Sometimes they are making inane conversation, so what! They will be leaving soon so just deflect them by doing your job and taking their mind off conversation.

I agree - it's like when you get into a taxi and ask the poor bloke "is it busy tonight" or "what time you working til" - must drive them mad!!!!!

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Re: Why do they never believe anything you say?
« Reply #7 on: 17 May 2012, 12:37:08 pm »
I actually read the heading as 'why do they believe everything you say' :D And clicked on it as a topic I can relate to as a problem lol.

Otherwise I'd agree with the girls. Just smalltalk and this is the kind of profession no one really approaches as the most honest line of work, its part of the thrill for both parties if you play it right and have a lighthearted approach to.

ParisB

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Re: Why do they never believe anything you say?
« Reply #8 on: 17 May 2012, 02:14:25 pm »
they are probably just making small talk to be polite - would you rather have a guy thats just comes in hand over the cash drop his trousers and says suck it b....tch 

i know which one i would rather have   

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Re: Why do they never believe anything you say?
« Reply #9 on: 22 May 2012, 12:06:24 am »
I am asked this all the time and like Emily, I will alter my response based on what I think the client would most like to hear.

Some of them WANT a slutty harlot who has fucked 10 men before him (yes, truly..). Some men I see love to hear about what I've done with other clients, it doesn't matter if it's true or not, aslong as it's exciting and fun!

With 'vanilla' regulars I will usually divulge a little information on what I have actually been doing with my day (or 'not alot today really so I was SO pleased when you called, I couldn't wait for you to get over here') but for the most part my responses include fun in the bedroom, fun with a girlfriend, 'very late nights'..and so on.

It doesn't really matter what I tell them aslong as it is conversation that helps to break the ice and relax them, that is my job. I will also ask them what they have been doing so far today (the reply is usually 'just working') to which I suggest we do something more fun to take his mind off of a hard days work.

It's all part of the parcel :)
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TeenKylie

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Re: Why do they never believe anything you say?
« Reply #10 on: 22 May 2012, 01:11:57 am »
I suppose if that's what works for you but personally I would just see it as unnessersay lying
'to keep punters happy' and that just wouldn't work for me. I would rather just be honest even if it is boring.

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Re: Why do they never believe anything you say?
« Reply #11 on: 22 May 2012, 01:32:50 am »
I suppose if that's what works for you but personally I would just see it as unnessersay lying
'to keep punters happy' and that just wouldn't work for me. I would rather just be honest even if it is boring.

I disagree. Part of the job is about delivering a fantasy to the customer by revealing too much of the real you, you may ruin this. Also it?s about being professional. If I?m in a shop and making idle chit chat with a cashier, I wouldn?t expect her to start pouring her heart and soul out about stuff that I couldn?t care less about. Less is more!

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Re: Why do they never believe anything you say?
« Reply #12 on: 22 May 2012, 02:31:48 am »
I think it depends on the client too. I have a few regulars who pretty much know everything about me, and ask about my family and have even bought things for them in the past! Some have even helped me with fund raising I do for a disabled little girl.
But a newby I wouldn't divulge much if anything. It takes me a long while to build trust.
I find younger men aren't interested anyway and don't tend to ask. The older ones do, but out of politeness I'm sure,  so I just say very little, or make something not far off the truth up, or divert the conversation.

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Re: Why do they never believe anything you say?
« Reply #13 on: 22 May 2012, 12:12:10 pm »
I am asked this all the time and like Emily, I will alter my response based on what I think the client would most like to hear.

Some of them WANT a slutty harlot who has fucked 10 men before him (yes, truly..). Some men I see love to hear about what I've done with other clients, it doesn't matter if it's true or not, aslong as it's exciting and fun

Yes, I think you've got to get a quick measure of them as to what you think they want to hear. My blind in one eye cokehead kept going on about 'this is fantasy time' - clearly he wanted to hear sex, sluttiness and sexiness and nothing else. Shame he was too off his head to actually even think about ACTUALLY having sex the stupid fool lol!!!

Whereas my other chap just wanted a sexy encounter, to really enjoy my scrummy little body, and a cuddle and a proper 'real life' chat. And he was as happy as a sandboy with the whole thing.

I get v uncomfortable with the 'what do you do', 'how long will it take you to get home', 'what's your other job' so intend to lie as I don't like any linking to my personal life at all - each to their own though of course - and it would probably depend on the client too. Certainly am v v super cautious at this stage as haven't got to the point where I've seen someone 7 times and have got a feel for his level of genuineness.

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Re: Why do they never believe anything you say?
« Reply #14 on: 22 May 2012, 05:30:53 pm »
I am asked this all the time and like Emily, I will alter my response based on what I think the client would most like to hear.

Some of them WANT a slutty harlot who has fucked 10 men before him (yes, truly..). Some men I see love to hear about what I've done with other clients, it doesn't matter if it's true or not, aslong as it's exciting and fun

Yes, I think you've got to get a quick measure of them as to what you think they want to hear. My blind in one eye cokehead kept going on about 'this is fantasy time' - clearly he wanted to hear sex, sluttiness and sexiness and nothing else. Shame he was too off his head to actually even think about ACTUALLY having sex the stupid fool lol!!!

Whereas my other chap just wanted a sexy encounter, to really enjoy my scrummy little body, and a cuddle and a proper 'real life' chat. And he was as happy as a sandboy with the whole thing.

I get v uncomfortable with the 'what do you do', 'how long will it take you to get home', 'what's your other job' so intend to lie as I don't like any linking to my personal life at all - each to their own though of course - and it would probably depend on the client too. Certainly am v v super cautious at this stage as haven't got to the point where I've seen someone 7 times and have got a feel for his level of genuineness.


I am also very super cautious and even a client I have seen since I started in 2006 does not know my real name. I prefer to chat and talk about all types of things but want my personal business kept just that way. I just don't trust giving details about my personal life away. I think once you go down that road you become too trusting and it can ruin things. Just as people get stabbed in the back by someone they thought was a good friend it can happen with clients too.

I'm an escort he is my client nothing more nothing less and I like it that way.
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