LaLa

I am going to put this in plain english, if we are linked, so excuse me. I could not give a FUCK what eejits like that have to say. Nor should you.

Hey, calm down. But if you are worried about posting on a advice forum under your working name because of a link, they are having an effect. Apologies for the prossie advice.

Nah, had to come back. Check yourself- you just posted on a public forum. Expect feedback and apologies really that I am not scurrying off to change my user name- I tend to stand by my opinions.

Thankfully, it's not our job to police the Internet - I'm sure we all have too many willies to tend to really have time for that.

I know it can sometimes be a nauseating worry thinking about the idea of being bashed on an online forum, because for us, it's not just our personal selves that might get picked apart by some meanies but also our work lives that might be negatively affected.

However, if someone's going to open a forum that becomes notorious for prossie-bashing, then I'm not sure if they might not somewhat be defeating their own purpose. And if that is not their purpose, as Punternet's never was, then it'll just be a much-needed space for certain punters to go to and say whatever they feel needs saying. I do not read any punter forums as they make me mental and actually, reading them is bad for my business as even seeing one comment by a troll or other mentally unstable person (not the majority, usually) can make me not want to work (yes, I'm a sensitive soul really!).

So I recommend to all sex workers not to read these sorts of forums if they are offended by them. And like Amy said, if we sit about here talking sh*t about them, we aren't any better. I love SAAFE because it's been around longer than I have and has never really been distracted from it's ultimate purpose of helping newbies and not-so-newbies. It's almost always a very mature, measured and calm place - almost unheard of for the Internet! We've achieved a miracle.

One thing that helps me feel zen again is remembering that the sorts of punters who might enjoy bashing me (or any escort like me) are not my clients. They're not the men I'm advertising to, they're not the men I'm talking to on the phone, they're not the men I'm having sex with. So we can all just stay a million miles away from each other and let each other get on with whatever we enjoy doing. The vast majority of clients, after all, have very busy lives (work, family, etc) and don't actually spend time online discussing prossies. It's important not to let a few odd souls get the best of you - focus on your own clients and you'll quickly remember what's important and what's not.

Thats a bit much. The new forum seems to be more about a reaction to one of the pnet mods with a bit of the old 'punternet should be for punters' mentality thrown in. Saafe is aimed at providers and so why shouldn't there be a forum aimed at punters.    

I am sure it will attract the odd irrational poster but dont all forums? If their mods are even half as good as the saafe girls, they will be alright.

I agree, although I would have assumed it was at least going to be punters only since I'd believed (obviously wrongly) that part of the point was to provide somewhere for punters who don't like mixed boards - from the little I've seen the main function seems to be for people to a/ moan about Punternet and b/bang on about Adultwork. Curiouser and curiouser.

However, since their mods are allowing threads to stand after being started with the sole purpose of misrepresenting and slagging off this site (the particular bottom feeder who posted the thread starter cannot really be blamed since no-one would reasonably expect any different from him, and the RSPCA will no doubt deal with him as soon as they can figure out to which genus he belongs), I have removed their link from the OP here.

This site was set up and continues to exist in order for it to provide support and advice for potentially vulnerable workers, and to industriously comb its forum for random snippets to cut and paste which paint us all as deceitful, man-hating witches who believe that prossies can do no wrong (and any one who has read even a hundredth of the forum would know this not to be true) is spiteful, cowardly and deeply shitty. Therefore, they will not be getting any more traffic from us.


EDIT: Since posting this last night, I have received an apology from the moderator of UK Punting and an assurance that the offending threads/posts have been amended and/or locked. Hopefully that will be an end to it.