Yes I have this problem. I am in a bit of a funk, lately, and close to burning out. So I had a booking for 1. Good. Plenty of time to go to the gym, first. Then I get a call asking for a half hour at 12.... I can do it. I should do it. But then what about going to the gym? And I found that I felt so resentful at this man for daring to want to come and see me (how stupid is that?) that I knew I couldn't do it. I turned him down. And then felt sort of guilty about it.

Im similar to Kay except I don't work the weekends at all unless I'm away somewhere, so my phone is switched off from Friday night, or if I am using the internet on it then it's on silent.

Really you just got to learn to be strict with yourself and say NO.

ME time is necessary when whoring or you will end up going into burnout and maybe lose more in the long run.

Be good to yourself for no one else will be.

I could count on one hand the number of weekends I worked in eight years.

Having an incall apartment is always a good way of dealing with getting away from work and being able to turn off easier and turning off your phone at specific times is good too.

I feel so sorry for you because I would always be like that too!

In the end I made myself only work strict times ( as in I gave my work phone to a friend, and forbade myself to touch the computer during "off" hours). The times I now work are always regular; i.e. the same set days, and the same set hours each week. This makes it clearer for clients regarding when I'll be available, and so much better for me too - as in, I have set times that I am "not at work" which makes my regular timetable easier to stick to.

The great thing is you don't lose work from having fixed hours - honestly. I was always worried I would lose bookings if I wasn't available at the exact time clients wanted. But truthfully, if anything my business increased. You will find the people that genuinely want to see you will book within your available hours. The timewasters trying to push your boundaries stop bothering if they know you won't move from your set times! The same genuine people still book, just within the parameters you have set, leaving you free to enjoy your spare time without guilt. xx

It's really hard at first but please do try it, really you do gain so much xx

Advertise your day off i.e. "I'm unavailable on Sundays, and won't be checking messages before Monday morning." Then make yourself switch the phone off, and don't get tempted to check messages. The sense of relief and freedom will soon get you into the habit. We can't be slaves to the job - defeats the object.

Setting and stating my work hours really helps me. I also have a daily/weekly earning target in mind. Either way as soon as I'm home I leave my work phone in my bag and only check it in passing and more for a mental note of how many missed calls I had. I do check my emails as that's how people can contact me out of hours to make advanced bookings, this way I'm not a slave to my phone and only check emails when I have Internet/remember.
I'm aware I do miss out on lots of potential earnings but I do ok in my stated hours and I stay same and stress free. I can visit family or go out whenever without a single thought to work.
Good luck

I set my working schedule up two weeks in advance.  i ensure that I am ready by 8am in the morning, that my place is clean and tidy and everything is perfect.  I finish at 3pm 3 days a week the other two i finish at 5pm, my phone gets switched off as and when I am finished for the day.  i do not reply to emails or phone calls from 5pm on a friday until a monday morning again unless someone has asked for an appointment on the monday.

It can take over your life if you let it but by setting yourself rules and timelines you should be ok.