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Pink89

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Why did you get into this business?
« on: 27 May 2013, 02:19:25 am »
Hi all, just wondering what makes others become escorts? How/why have you chosen to do this, and when?

It seems like many people made the decision to do escorting to help fund studies and life goals, or to help through financial difficulty.

It's commonly said that no one plans to be a prostitute, that it's not on the careers adviser's list of options, and no one in school goes 'Yes! This is what I want to do with my life!'

Umm, but what if you did? Or was that just me?

I always wanted to do this from quite a young age... I don't have any regrets about it, but I feel like it's unusual?
« Last Edit: 27 May 2013, 12:34:02 pm by Pink89 »
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Re: Why did you get into this business?
« Reply #1 on: 27 May 2013, 09:14:17 am »
I was fascinated by it from quite a young age too. I must have been about eleven when I read a book about sex that a friend had. It was written for boys, and had a chapter on prostitution. I'd heard the word before but didn't really know what it meant. Later on a friend told me she was doing it and I ended up going along with her one day. She sometimes met guys in their cars, and several times I stayed in the car while they did it, and that's how I learned the basics.

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Re: Why did you get into this business?
« Reply #2 on: 27 May 2013, 01:33:09 pm »

Oh good, it's not just me :)

I had a strict, traditional upbringing, went to a good school, was generally a good kid etc. and wasn't exposed/introduced to sex work (quite the opposite!) but there is something about escorting that has always drawn me to it.

Yeah I think like you I was always fascinated by sex, I was very open minded as a teenager and didn't see anything 'immoral' in selling sex.

For me, a 9-5, tedious routines, working for someone else, working to someone else's rules, is depressing, unimaginative and unfulfilling. I am creative, romantic, inquisitive, ambitious... I love the excitement, experiences, freedom, independence (and money!) I get from doing this work, and that's how I always saw it and why I always wanted to do it I guess. It just suits me. Are some people just born to be escorts?  ;)
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Re: Why did you get into this business?
« Reply #3 on: 27 May 2013, 03:02:23 pm »
I was brought up in a Christian home but became an atheist when I was about 13. I think realising that morality and religion are separate, and that things like sex aren't immoral, made me realise there was nothing wrong with prostitution. I read Brook Magnanti's Belle de Jour blog a couple of times at some point and thought it was nice to know there are people that enjoyed this sort of work. So.. I think from about aged 15 I thought that if I ever needed the cash, I'd do this job. Now I'm at uni and this really is the perfect job to support me now and save for the future. Also I'm actually an unshockable kinky freak who gives great head (sorry, mum) and think it suits me well for those reasons too!! I just decided last month that I'm broke, I like socialising, I like sex, I like a challenge. Found Saafe online. Here I am :)
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« Reply #4 on: 27 May 2013, 07:08:21 pm »
For me, a 9-5, tedious routines, working for someone else, working to someone else's rules, is depressing, unimaginative and unfulfilling. I am creative, romantic, inquisitive, ambitious... I love the excitement, experiences, freedom, independence (and money!) I get from doing this work, and that's how I always saw it and why I always wanted to do it I guess. It just suits me. Are some people just born to be escorts?  ;)
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« Reply #5 on: 27 May 2013, 07:24:47 pm »
If I am totally honest it was purely financial.  I came into this industry in my early thirties and was something I never had any notions of. 

The funny thing was after my initial shock of my first few clients at how easy I took to it.  i hadn't had much sexual experience up til then but I was a kind of natural after some lovely lady took me under her wing and guided me.

I have no regrets about joining the industry but often wonder if I would have handled it with the same approach had I come into it at an younger age.

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Re: Why did you get into this business?
« Reply #6 on: 28 May 2013, 06:50:51 pm »
I've always been curious about this profession and other jobs in the adult industry such as stripping and porn movies but never quite knew how to go about it plus I've always lived in a small rural area. I eventually moved to Bolton with my boyfriend and after we broke up I moved out and realised my main job wasn't cutting it so called a few local parlours and found work, never looked back!

I remember being in my teens at a festival one time drinking round the fire and someone said they wouldn't sleep with Keith Lemon even if they were paid a million. I laughed and said I would do it, even for half the amount! All the girls then told me how disrespectful such a comment was to myself and I shouldn't put a price on my body. I knew then that I was different.

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« Reply #7 on: 28 May 2013, 08:53:12 pm »
I was in serious financial sh** and a friend whom works as an escort basically helped me out by getting  bookings with her, she used adult work so I Joined 2 yrs ago.I was single and liked the idea of the whole escorting business because it suited my  independent lifestyle , was liberated sexually and was just having 1 night stands which stopped as clients were far more appealing. :)

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« Reply #8 on: 28 May 2013, 09:06:06 pm »
I just thought I could do it, I was fed up of never quite making much leeway financially, wanted a better standard of living and didn't want to end up relying on benefits. I wanted to be independent, and going self-employed was the right decision for me.

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« Reply #9 on: 28 May 2013, 09:50:56 pm »
Mother was broke, Daddy was broke..and I graduated into a credit crunch lol.

I got into escorting as a broke uni student, a girl friend introduced to the 'life' and I took to it like a duck to water. She brought me to a parlour in central London and we spent the rest of our days at uni making alot of money, travelling the world and having amazing adventures. I did stop for a while as I had to study and pass final exams and the fast life got very stressful.

I did graduate and I'm now going to do a postgraduate degree. But yes I'm back in the 'life' as working 9 to 5 for a pittance is  :FF . I went independent a couple of years ago It was the best career choice I could have ever made. I'm going to continue doing this for no more than 2 more years and I have no regrets.
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Re: Why did you get into this business?
« Reply #10 on: 29 May 2013, 01:42:09 am »
Also I'm actually an unshockable kinky freak who gives great head (sorry, mum)

Haha! Good for you Maddie, don't beat around the bush!  ;D

I think I can relate to most of the above, I was also brought up as a Christian, I was fascinated by the adult industries and 'Showgirls' and 'Secret Diary..' were inspirational, I want a decent standard of living and to save for a future, I wish I'd done more when I was younger but a long term relationship meant I couldn't pursue escorting properly but am trying to make up for it now.

I've never seen anything wrong with selling sex... it is natural to me and enjoyable. I remember Brooke said if you sell your mind, hands etc. when you work, what is different about selling your body (or something to that effect). I can't understand why it is viewed as absolutely immoral, or wrong, or in any way disrespectful... all I know is that it doesn't feel that way to me, and never has, even despite my upbringing and the beliefs imposed on me. I have something that allows me greater freedom, independence, opportunities and choices in life, and I feel lucky and grateful for that. And I felt more depressed, lacking in self-worth, unappreciated, disrespected and that I was compromising myself, my potential and my happiness serving food and drink to stuck-up members of the public on behalf of idiotic managers for a minimum wage then I ever have through selling my body for money... lots of money...
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Re: Why did you get into this business?
« Reply #11 on: 29 May 2013, 09:04:31 am »
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I can't understand why it is viewed as absolutely immoral, or wrong, or in any way disrespectful
I agree with you, Pink.
It is a very old profession ... the beginning of time.
I have two versions, one of which is that everybody thinks we win money easily and, therefore, are "jealous", and the second reason people look down on us, they think we destroy marriage.
 But I believe that every woman has the qualities needed to keep their man at home and make him happy.
These would be my reasons.
As for the original post, why did you get into this profession, especially because I personally do not like monotony.
And so I have the opportunity to see and feel something new all the time. I admit, there are some days when I hate it, but to be honest, many people does not like what they do.
And in addition it is also about financial reward.
In this job you never know what opportunities may arise. I was contacted by a company to work with them (not for them) because they wanted to see how's life from an escorts point of view.
I do not want to give names.
In conclusion I do not regret that choice ... after all it is a job like any other.
I also explained this in an article of mine.
In a perfect world, your soulmate is the one who sees in you, what you fail to see for yourself.

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« Reply #12 on: 02 June 2013, 04:09:20 pm »
I was already self-employed (in a different industry) and even though I was making money, I needed something else to do on the side to have a bit more money coming in.

I tried doing part-time work and selling things online - which worked in the short term, but I still needed something long-term.

I started thinking "what is a product that people will always want to buy?" and also thought "how can I use the fact that I am female to my advantage?" - then it hit me lol - Men will always want to buy sex from women, its the oldest profession and its something that will probably always be around in some shape or form (online, on the street, in a hotel etc) and that's how I started :) xx

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« Reply #13 on: 02 June 2013, 07:15:41 pm »
I experienced the business once for a few weeks when I was unemployed and left again as soon as I found a new job. Unfortunately, the memory of easy cash corrupted me and I drifted in and out a few months here and there whenever I was broke.

I was in love with a man who had me under surveillance. He saw me with a client, and decided I was a cheater he did not consider the possibility that I did not have enough money even to buy food and was eating noodles at the time. I did not find this out until much later but he dedicated the next ten years of his life to punishing me and making me miserable. Using me for sex but never committing.

My self-worth was diminished and eventually I had a breakdown. Moved to a coastal town and went bankrupt. After I was bankrupt, I couldn?t find employment with corporates and drifted in and out of informal work such as waitressing and guest house management.

Eventually I decided I would never get out of this mess unless I did something drastic. So I came back three years ago full time. Ironically, when I did decide to start this business it was already the recession and my best years had already passed me by. From an appearance point of view I am very average and therefore cannot claim that I have discovered great riches.
I tried to get a normal job again about a year ago and the same ex messed it up for me. So I?m back for good. I?m just paying the bills, no Gucci, no Fendi. Although everybody seems to think I'm very successful.

What really bites my balls is that this man knows what I do. He doesn?t care and has never raised a hand to stop me. He?s worth about M 100 000 000 and he could easily have sent me to go and get a degree but instead of helping me he has only ever sabotaged me.

So yes I?m a hooker, sometimes I like the job, other times I don?t but I had always hoped for more for myself. I am a lover. I was born to be with one man and worship and adore him and this business (although I am a slut) goes against my nature. I am thirty four years old and go home to an empty bed every night. That?s not what I wanted for myself but here I am.

So I make the best of it.

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