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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: Pink89 on 27 May 2013, 02:19:25 am
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Hi all, just wondering what makes others become escorts? How/why have you chosen to do this, and when?
It seems like many people made the decision to do escorting to help fund studies and life goals, or to help through financial difficulty.
It's commonly said that no one plans to be a prostitute, that it's not on the careers adviser's list of options, and no one in school goes 'Yes! This is what I want to do with my life!'
Umm, but what if you did? Or was that just me?
I always wanted to do this from quite a young age... I don't have any regrets about it, but I feel like it's unusual?
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I was fascinated by it from quite a young age too. I must have been about eleven when I read a book about sex that a friend had. It was written for boys, and had a chapter on prostitution. I'd heard the word before but didn't really know what it meant. Later on a friend told me she was doing it and I ended up going along with her one day. She sometimes met guys in their cars, and several times I stayed in the car while they did it, and that's how I learned the basics.
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Oh good, it's not just me :)
I had a strict, traditional upbringing, went to a good school, was generally a good kid etc. and wasn't exposed/introduced to sex work (quite the opposite!) but there is something about escorting that has always drawn me to it.
Yeah I think like you I was always fascinated by sex, I was very open minded as a teenager and didn't see anything 'immoral' in selling sex.
For me, a 9-5, tedious routines, working for someone else, working to someone else's rules, is depressing, unimaginative and unfulfilling. I am creative, romantic, inquisitive, ambitious... I love the excitement, experiences, freedom, independence (and money!) I get from doing this work, and that's how I always saw it and why I always wanted to do it I guess. It just suits me. Are some people just born to be escorts? ;)
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I was brought up in a Christian home but became an atheist when I was about 13. I think realising that morality and religion are separate, and that things like sex aren't immoral, made me realise there was nothing wrong with prostitution. I read Brook Magnanti's Belle de Jour blog a couple of times at some point and thought it was nice to know there are people that enjoyed this sort of work. So.. I think from about aged 15 I thought that if I ever needed the cash, I'd do this job. Now I'm at uni and this really is the perfect job to support me now and save for the future. Also I'm actually an unshockable kinky freak who gives great head (sorry, mum) and think it suits me well for those reasons too!! I just decided last month that I'm broke, I like socialising, I like sex, I like a challenge. Found Saafe online. Here I am :)
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For me, a 9-5, tedious routines, working for someone else, working to someone else's rules, is depressing, unimaginative and unfulfilling. I am creative, romantic, inquisitive, ambitious... I love the excitement, experiences, freedom, independence (and money!) I get from doing this work, and that's how I always saw it and why I always wanted to do it I guess. It just suits me. Are some people just born to be escorts? ;)
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Curiosity was the main reason I got into escorting and all of the above couldn't of put it better ;D
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If I am totally honest it was purely financial. I came into this industry in my early thirties and was something I never had any notions of.
The funny thing was after my initial shock of my first few clients at how easy I took to it. i hadn't had much sexual experience up til then but I was a kind of natural after some lovely lady took me under her wing and guided me.
I have no regrets about joining the industry but often wonder if I would have handled it with the same approach had I come into it at an younger age.
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I've always been curious about this profession and other jobs in the adult industry such as stripping and porn movies but never quite knew how to go about it plus I've always lived in a small rural area. I eventually moved to Bolton with my boyfriend and after we broke up I moved out and realised my main job wasn't cutting it so called a few local parlours and found work, never looked back!
I remember being in my teens at a festival one time drinking round the fire and someone said they wouldn't sleep with Keith Lemon even if they were paid a million. I laughed and said I would do it, even for half the amount! All the girls then told me how disrespectful such a comment was to myself and I shouldn't put a price on my body. I knew then that I was different.
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I was in serious financial sh** and a friend whom works as an escort basically helped me out by getting bookings with her, she used adult work so I Joined 2 yrs ago.I was single and liked the idea of the whole escorting business because it suited my independent lifestyle , was liberated sexually and was just having 1 night stands which stopped as clients were far more appealing. :)
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I just thought I could do it, I was fed up of never quite making much leeway financially, wanted a better standard of living and didn't want to end up relying on benefits. I wanted to be independent, and going self-employed was the right decision for me.
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Mother was broke, Daddy was broke..and I graduated into a credit crunch lol.
I got into escorting as a broke uni student, a girl friend introduced to the 'life' and I took to it like a duck to water. She brought me to a parlour in central London and we spent the rest of our days at uni making alot of money, travelling the world and having amazing adventures. I did stop for a while as I had to study and pass final exams and the fast life got very stressful.
I did graduate and I'm now going to do a postgraduate degree. But yes I'm back in the 'life' as working 9 to 5 for a pittance is :FF . I went independent a couple of years ago It was the best career choice I could have ever made. I'm going to continue doing this for no more than 2 more years and I have no regrets.
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Also I'm actually an unshockable kinky freak who gives great head (sorry, mum)
Haha! Good for you Maddie, don't beat around the bush! ;D
I think I can relate to most of the above, I was also brought up as a Christian, I was fascinated by the adult industries and 'Showgirls' and 'Secret Diary..' were inspirational, I want a decent standard of living and to save for a future, I wish I'd done more when I was younger but a long term relationship meant I couldn't pursue escorting properly but am trying to make up for it now.
I've never seen anything wrong with selling sex... it is natural to me and enjoyable. I remember Brooke said if you sell your mind, hands etc. when you work, what is different about selling your body (or something to that effect). I can't understand why it is viewed as absolutely immoral, or wrong, or in any way disrespectful... all I know is that it doesn't feel that way to me, and never has, even despite my upbringing and the beliefs imposed on me. I have something that allows me greater freedom, independence, opportunities and choices in life, and I feel lucky and grateful for that. And I felt more depressed, lacking in self-worth, unappreciated, disrespected and that I was compromising myself, my potential and my happiness serving food and drink to stuck-up members of the public on behalf of idiotic managers for a minimum wage then I ever have through selling my body for money... lots of money...
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I can't understand why it is viewed as absolutely immoral, or wrong, or in any way disrespectful
I agree with you, Pink.
It is a very old profession ... the beginning of time.
I have two versions, one of which is that everybody thinks we win money easily and, therefore, are "jealous", and the second reason people look down on us, they think we destroy marriage.
But I believe that every woman has the qualities needed to keep their man at home and make him happy.
These would be my reasons.
As for the original post, why did you get into this profession, especially because I personally do not like monotony.
And so I have the opportunity to see and feel something new all the time. I admit, there are some days when I hate it, but to be honest, many people does not like what they do.
And in addition it is also about financial reward.
In this job you never know what opportunities may arise. I was contacted by a company to work with them (not for them) because they wanted to see how's life from an escorts point of view.
I do not want to give names.
In conclusion I do not regret that choice ... after all it is a job like any other.
I also explained this in an article of mine.
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I was already self-employed (in a different industry) and even though I was making money, I needed something else to do on the side to have a bit more money coming in.
I tried doing part-time work and selling things online - which worked in the short term, but I still needed something long-term.
I started thinking "what is a product that people will always want to buy?" and also thought "how can I use the fact that I am female to my advantage?" - then it hit me lol - Men will always want to buy sex from women, its the oldest profession and its something that will probably always be around in some shape or form (online, on the street, in a hotel etc) and that's how I started :) xx
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I experienced the business once for a few weeks when I was unemployed and left again as soon as I found a new job. Unfortunately, the memory of easy cash corrupted me and I drifted in and out a few months here and there whenever I was broke.
I was in love with a man who had me under surveillance. He saw me with a client, and decided I was a cheater he did not consider the possibility that I did not have enough money even to buy food and was eating noodles at the time. I did not find this out until much later but he dedicated the next ten years of his life to punishing me and making me miserable. Using me for sex but never committing.
My self-worth was diminished and eventually I had a breakdown. Moved to a coastal town and went bankrupt. After I was bankrupt, I couldn?t find employment with corporates and drifted in and out of informal work such as waitressing and guest house management.
Eventually I decided I would never get out of this mess unless I did something drastic. So I came back three years ago full time. Ironically, when I did decide to start this business it was already the recession and my best years had already passed me by. From an appearance point of view I am very average and therefore cannot claim that I have discovered great riches.
I tried to get a normal job again about a year ago and the same ex messed it up for me. So I?m back for good. I?m just paying the bills, no Gucci, no Fendi. Although everybody seems to think I'm very successful.
What really bites my balls is that this man knows what I do. He doesn?t care and has never raised a hand to stop me. He?s worth about M 100 000 000 and he could easily have sent me to go and get a degree but instead of helping me he has only ever sabotaged me.
So yes I?m a hooker, sometimes I like the job, other times I don?t but I had always hoped for more for myself. I am a lover. I was born to be with one man and worship and adore him and this business (although I am a slut) goes against my nature. I am thirty four years old and go home to an empty bed every night. That?s not what I wanted for myself but here I am.
So I make the best of it.
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I was working part time in a clothes shop...had bene out of uni for a year but was just getting further and further overdrawn. The bank asked for ?500 of the ?1000 overdraft to be paid off within 4 weeks. I panicked and then decided i could sell myself for sex.
The rest they say, is history.
I remember my first night with the agency, i earnt ?170 which was over a weeks wages at the clothes shop. Eventually i got a full time job and used the escorting to pay off my debt. These days i work full time for a public service and then escort part time - i'm still not out of debt yet but i'm a hell of a lot more financially stable than i was about 2 years ago :)
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I was so broke financially that I used to buy 1pound pizza from sainsburys and it had to last for 2days... and as I was walking on the streets in London guys just smiled at me, often they just wanted sex and nothing more. and I started thinking "would they pay for it?" then i decided I want to find out the answer. then i was looking for private houses and a lady in North London was my first boss who taught me the basics. One month later I was independent. I have no regrets. The money is really good and I have learnt sooo much about people in short time :( We always joke with my wg friends that each of us could write a book about own experiences it would be bestseller :) full of drama
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I cannot remember the reason why I got into it, I put my self through uni by doing it and came back to it in my 30's..............not sure why but its time to exit stage left.
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A girl at the strip club introduced me to escorting
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Well I'm just about to enter the profession aged 38 and I echo a few of the above experiences - I'm from a good family but can't abide the 9 to 5 existence. My main goal is to qualify as a riding instructor but it's so expensive - ?6000 odd quid for a full course - so I need to make that money as quick as I can. I'm not getting any younger so this seems like the best way.
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Money. Was so sick of being skint. And im not even talking about just in my adult life. I enjoy sex and meeting new people so it seemed like well, not a perfect, but a pretty damn good way to get out of the rut
Working 13 hours a day for the same i make now in 30 mins...just not worth it! x
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I've never had a proper job, no experience or anything, this is an easy industry to get into.
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Have been doing this job for about 4 years but part time. Once I hit my thirties, I left my job because I was tired of working 12-14 hours a day to attain and maintain a good career and decent income. On a rare holiday, I suddenly could not face returning to a relentless and gruelling job. I felt like a hamster on a wheel doing 50 miles an hour just trying to stay put. I sat down and made a list of dreams and goals. It wasn?t anything extravagant, I just wanted to have a lot of free time to read & potter around with various hobbies. I then made another list of what kind of job would allow me to have a reasonable income with relative few hours. Escorting seemed a logical conclusion.
At the time, I was single and starting to miss sex. A quick foray into dating and adult sites made me realise that I might as well charge for it and actually get treated with more respect by clients than sleaze balls who tried to trick me with all sorts of lies to get me into bed. Because I had savings before starting escorting, I was really lucky to be able to take my time to research safety precautions, a place to work from and could afford to turn down any client that seemed dodgy. I know how tough it is when you?re with your back against the wall and how it can make you more vulnerable. I?m knocking on a massive piece of wood right now but so far I have been incredibly lucky to not have had a dangerous or unpleasant client and never been ripped off (yet). But I?m not getting complacent and if I get even the slightest inkling of something not sounding right, I simply do not go ahead with a booking. My motto is if something sounds too good to be true then 99% of the time it is likely to be untrue. For me no booking is certain or guaranteed even with regulars until the money has actually hit my sweaty palm. But then I?m content with handful bookings a month as I own my place and have very little overheads.
I don?t always feel like working and sometimes feel bit meh but compared to any work I?ve done in the past, when I dreaded each day, this job is by far the most pleasant.
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I'm a nymphomaniac...
No really I have huge debts to pay off and kids to look after for a bit... so hopefully will be done and dusted in 5 years or less in a much better position!!!
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Have been doing this job for about 4 years but part time. Once I hit my thirties, I left my job because I was tired of working 12-14 hours a day to attain and maintain a good career and decent income. On a rare holiday, I suddenly could not face returning to a relentless and gruelling job. I felt like a hamster on a wheel doing 50 miles an hour just trying to stay put. I sat down and made a list of dreams and goals. It wasn?t anything extravagant, I just wanted to have a lot of free time to read & potter around with various hobbies. I then made another list of what kind of job would allow me to have a reasonable income with relative few hours. Escorting seemed a logical conclusion.
At the time, I was single and starting to miss sex. A quick foray into dating and adult sites made me realise that I might as well charge for it and actually get treated with more respect by clients than sleaze balls who tried to trick me with all sorts of lies to get me into bed. Because I had savings before starting escorting, I was really lucky to be able to take my time to research safety precautions, a place to work from and could afford to turn down any client that seemed dodgy. I know how tough it is when you?re with your back against the wall and how it can make you more vulnerable. I?m knocking on a massive piece of wood right now but so far I have been incredibly lucky to not have had a dangerous or unpleasant client and never been ripped off (yet). But I?m not getting complacent and if I get even the slightest inkling of something not sounding right, I simply do not go ahead with a booking. My motto is if something sounds too good to be true then 99% of the time it is likely to be untrue. For me no booking is certain or guaranteed even with regulars until the money has actually hit my sweaty palm. But then I?m content with handful bookings a month as I own my place and have very little overheads.
I don?t always feel like working and sometimes feel bit meh but compared to any work I?ve done in the past, when I dreaded each day, this job is by far the most pleasant.
Money. Was so sick of being skint. And im not even talking about just in my adult life. I enjoy sex and meeting new people so it seemed like well, not a perfect, but a pretty damn good way to get out of the rut
Working 13 hours a day for the same i make now in 30 mins...just not worth it! x
This is the life, this is the life! x
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Money.
Money.
Did I say money?
I actually hate the job now, but I'm pretty much stuck between a rock and a hard place in the meantime due to unexpected family commitments. By hate, I don't mean I feel burned out, its just that feeling everyone seems to get years into a role where you have to motivate yourself more. Like I used to love touring, but even if you said I'd make ?10,000 on a tour, I'd have to really struggle to get my motivation. I enjoy the freedom and income it brings me, but it is just work now. There is a total separation between my work and private life that I never had before where my private life is now more important than my income. Before I was a lot more money orientated and would drop things to take a booking. Now I'm a lot more relaxed and more likely to say "no".
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I started because I was in a huge amount of debt and from next month I am officially DEBT FREE ;D Its taken me 7 years but I got there in the end! Im going back to collage in sept and will carry this on part time until i'v got some money behind me and my goal is to open my own holistic business one day!
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For me it was by total chance. I never planned to do it although occasionally i did think in the back of my head how much better life would be if i had to guts and could earn some decent money but i always thought that i would just never have the guts.
So i had a profile on a dating site and some guy messaged me. He said he owns an agency and is interested in taking me on and that i could earn X amount an hour. He left his number and the website name. I didn't think anything of it so just put it to the back of my head but started thinking about it. About 2 weeks later i went to message him back and found that he'd been deleted so i couldn't reply but remembered the website name. So i went on the website and sent a message explaining how i'd been approached on this dating site and that i'm interested. A lady messaged me back and said basically that they don't approach people and that that guy was obviously a weirdo but if i'm interested then send some pics and details. So i did and she liked me look so we arraqnged an interview. One week later i was on the site and she got me a 1 hour incall. Once i was in the apartment waiting for the client i was absolutly shitting myself. I was pacing around thinking "why am i doing this". Then he arrived, we chatted and had a drink, the deed happpened and i walked away ?100 better off and thinking "wow, that was easy money". And here i am now.
I also work part time and go to college but was sick of scrimping and scraping and having no money. It really gets you down.
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Very simple really... I needed the money
Only planned to do it for a couple of months, but became addicted to the fast money, and I'm still doing it a year later, and will probably continue to drift in and out of it for a long time into the future
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completly broke It was the only way really
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Gave it a go as something I had always wanted to try being naturally sexually adventurous.
It was even better than I imagined so carried on.
I still work with my other job but often battle with the idea of going full time with sex work, think for long term reasons it's best to persevere with both jobs.
I love it.
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:)Well my "story" isn't so nice.... i was put in care at 14 and was pimped for 5 or 6 years until i was strong enough to get away from him!!! very proud i was too...And now i have a choice as to what and who i do... and when i do and i do it to give my sons the life i wanted them to have .xxx
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:)Well my "story" isn't so nice.... i was put in care at 14 and was pimped for 5 or 6 years until i was strong enough to get away from him!!! very proud i was too...And now i have a choice as to what and who i do... and when i do and i do it to give my sons the life i wanted them to have .xxx
props to you! big hug all round!
mine was similar to post. sick of being skint throughout childhood and young adulthood. did what felt natural. not sure how long il be in the game for, im looking at postgraduate study (funded by cock! :-*) and want a decent career and until then i dont wanna be distracted by a day job