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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: Lalalondon on 10 September 2017, 11:13:07 pm
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Just curious how open people are about their lives as sp's. Is it a secret life or do family members know?
The only person who knows about me is my partner who I've been with for a really long time. It works well for us, although there have been a few wobbly moments. It's this big secret we have and it's quite exciting for us!
I won't tell any of my friends, I just worry that even though I don't see anything wrong with this job, I would hate for for little one to find out somehow one day.
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Not a soul, then again I'm quite a solitary person anyway. Tell your closest friend IMO if you think they will handle it. If they love and care about you they will cover for you (a secret life can do with a back up if you want it to stay like that!) and be a safe buddy too if your partner isn't about at times. Sometimes it's good just to chat about it openly with a friend. x
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All of my closest friends know and my neighbour ;D but my family don't, although they were aware when I was doing other forms of SW
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My whole family, partner, friends, a large chunck of my old home, a fair chunk of this town,a fair old amount of strangers....
Im very open, I obviously dont tell people when i first meet them or john doe at a new pub but it always comes out with a google so eh, i tell them at some point when we are on decent terms and they stay or leave, hopefully whether they stay or leave they come away realising we are also people not just cookie cutter abused whores.
Would not reccomend outting at all but once its done better to make the best of it than cry over spilt milk.
Being outted was the most traumatic event of my life, i lost my home and everything but it also made me me and i dont have to lie anymore so i would say being open about your work is both good and bad.
I love the out me more than the lying younger me but it was a bloody hard journey inwouldnt wish on anyone and tbh a part of me misses the home and life i had when it was a secret.
I dont mean to sound negative btw, i love being out and able to talk openly about what i do. Just becoming tired of seeing good people beong bullied over their job recently.
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I have been doing this work very intensely since 2009 and I advertise widely, however, I don't show my face and I have no distinctive marks on my body. In all the years that I have worked no one knows and I have never been caught out. If anyone asks me what I do then I have one consistent story that I tell.
I make good money from this industry and I am able to afford a certain lifestyle.
I have never told anyone and no one knows. I don't tell anyone simply because of my own safety and to protect my income.
It's upto the individual if he/she wants to tell anyone but it's also about protecting the people around you and letting them know on a need-to-know basis because there's no need to make them 'stumble'. If some people know you in a certain way and that keeps them happy and okay with you then no need to ruin that relationship.
Tell your closest friend IMO if you think they will handle it.
I agree 100% with this
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My partner and 16 yo daughter knows what I do. I also have a friend who lives miles away from me who does my website and online address checks (never met him in my life but hes a facebook friend)
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My gay best friend, he is the most trustworthy wonderful friend in the world and never judges me or say's anything negative about what I do and is always a shoulder to lean on if I need it :)
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My teen kids have a fair idea but i just say i massage but they dont believe me ha xx
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Best friend, twin, mother and sister.
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my close friends. i have a full time job so i have to be very careful.
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A couple of my friends used to know but one thinks I stopped working. I will be soon so don't see the point in telling her again, although she was ok about it she's never had any exposure to the sex work world before so was always hard for her to understand.
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My sister and her partner, my son and my boyfriend. I don't have any other close family. My friends, who are generally ex colleagues, have been kept on the downlow in case I want to go back to my civvy career.
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my friends all know but no family
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I am very open about it - if anyone has a problem with it they're not worth keeping around. The only people in my life who don't know are my parents (though my mother is definitely suspicious). My brother knows as well.
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I am very open about it - if anyone has a problem with it they're not worth keeping around. The only people in my life who don't know are my parents (though my mother is definitely suspicious). My brother knows as well.
Same here, everyone knows....except parents and not close relatives. Even my all personal ex boyfriends used to know what I do. Atm I am with someone new in my personal life and haven't talked about it yet, at the end of the day he said what I do for business it's not his business, still I haven't said what I really do. By the way when we met first time he said something like with my voice I should work In phone chat lol If he knew that I am literally doing it :)))) my
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Nobody apart from some people i met through work. My family or circle of people would not understand and be disgusted and be worried about the safety and be ashamed of it oh and be shocked by the money not being that good and be disgusted by the pressure of what the customer expects for his money.
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My daughter and son my mother and best friend also know. My sisters think I do dinner dates lol. Most people I know think I do some work in the beauty industry.
Not everyone can handle it..
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My sister's, a few friends And most of the people at my local pub, I have a big bloody mouth when I'm drinking!!! I don't really care so long as my parents and kids never figure it out!
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Just my male friends it's good to know I'm not judged .
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All my friends and some of my family know. I'd hate my parents and son to find out.
I lost 1 friend from being open, because she was "worried" about me. Disgusted she meant, but I don't value her opinion, and she detests that her bf is still my friend ;D
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Up until 2 1/2 years ago only 2 friends knew. In Feb 2015 I was raped by a client and then I told my two son's who supported me through the legal and court process. I found once my son's knew I was much more relaxed
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All my friends and some of my family know. I'd hate my parents and son to find out.
I lost 1 friend from being open, because she was "worried" about me. Disgusted she meant, but I don't value her opinion, and she detests that her bf is still my friend ;D
Sorry to hear that, she clearly wasn?t a good enough friend!
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Up until a month ago, only one of my friends and my ex knew. My ex, who I recently broke up with, outed me to my mum, his parents, his friends (who used to be my friends) and my civvy work colleagues. Who knows who else he told.
To be honest, it feels like a weight has been lifted. I'd like to be more open about it.