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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: Gypsy on 06 January 2017, 03:07:35 pm
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I hate it when men say this. In my experience it usually means you'll let me push your boundaries. You'll let the booking overrun, you'll let me ask you a load of personal questions and you will provide a discount or give me free services etc ::) ::) ::) ::)
Anyone else have that feeling when men say - If we click ... ?
It usually means they will be hard work in some sense ::)
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This is exactly what runs through my mind when I hear this. It's usually accompanied with the promise of regular bookings too. It puts me off the booking tbh.
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It sets my teeth on edge. It's like they think it's a date!
I might start tracking this actually because I can think of a couple of guys who've said this, as in "If we click I may extend the booking to 2/3 hours" or "If we click I'd be looking for a regular booking" and then they just don't turn up. Possibly because I haven't come over all gushy at the thought of us "clicking". ::)
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I hate it when men say this. In my experience it usually means you'll let me push your boundaries. You'll let the booking overrun, you'll let me ask you a load of personal questions and you will provide a discount or give me free services etc ::) ::) ::) ::)
Anyone else have that feeling when men say - If we click ... ?
It usually means they will be hard work in some sense ::)
When they say that I hear...
'I'm an awkward bugger who will push your boundaries, I will expect you to be ok with this because I'm paying for it and I'm a twat'
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They're very likely to be self entitled too.
I do domme bookings and ocassionally I will get men who are used to being dom but want a switch and be a sub instead. They tend to say this phrase as well ::)
No offence to any sub ladies out there, but it's almost as if they expect all the women who they go to see to be a sub and they're being dom even when they pretend to be sub ::)
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Usually when I get this phrase they don't show up and they are just fantasists who wank over the idea of pulling an escort.
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Had a lengthy email which I couldn't even bear to read it was that long and boring, then followed up with a text saying something along the lines of "I'm wanting to become a regular booking you for 2 hours a month/week/whatever" I replied with my standard "Please call to book I don't like texts thanks" to which he replied "Ok thanks" surprise surprise he didn't call lol
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I wonder if the men who say they are looking for a regular meet are genuinely seeking that...or just saying that and, if they are just saying it, why are they saying it at all??
Bizarre
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Or when they say if we have a connection...
I had a guy who spat his dummy out because I changed my tour plans and sent me a PA text Lang the line of I should have told him I wasn't going.
He didn't have a booking as I never take advance bookings when touring regardless of who it is in case I change my mind/ something comes up but he took it upon himself to get to my area despite me explaining that
1 I don't take advance bookings
2 I wouldn't be free till around 5 pm ( he was texting me at3pm wanting to see me at3 PM )
My reply was that he didn't have a booking for those exact reasons and it's not my fault if he took it upon himself to travel before confirming that I was there
I want see him when I am there next week as anyone who can spit there dummy out due to there own stupidity is not someone I want to see
Plus I hate the I want a connection ...
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sounds like tw, 'if we click i'll come back'
really as long as you turn up clean and leave when i want then i dont care if/when you come back.
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I usually find they drop the 'if we click' line when they can't decide whether you are going to be worth your hour or 2 hour rate so they say i'd like to spend an hour/2hour with you but wondering can i just have half hour/hour see 'if we click' i always just book them in for 30 minutes and tell them so as well some guys that say this are gonna be hard to please and some one i'd probley not enjoy the company of anyway, but some are genuine nice would like a long booking but cautious about wasting thier money but that doesnt make it less annoying when they say 'if we click'
I am sure we have all had guys that turn up and within the first few minutes of the booking they know they'd like to spend longer with you so they ask if they can extend. This is the 'clicking' i guess lol
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I am sure we have all had guys that turn up and within the first few minutes of the booking they know they'd like to spend longer with you so they ask if they can extend. This is the 'clicking' i guess lol
That is right. Some will book 30 minutes and when they arrive they ask for an hour which I will usually say yes to, it makes sense for them as they don't know until they meet me if they will feel as thrilled as they hoped they would be. :)
By the reverse though I have met men who booked a half hour but then want to extend but within the first couple of minutes I know I do not want more time with them, I will rarely do that just for the money. On those occasions I make an excuse why I can only let them stay the original booked half hour.
Men who mention connections and clicking set my alarm bells clanging, as do those who say on the initial phone convo that they want a regular wg. I am like the other lady above who does not show any fake enthusiasm at the thought of a new regular (WOWIE!!) and almost always these men do not make a booking, they say they will phone back but don't. I can then visualise them ringing the next girl on their list to see if she will fall for the tripe.
Men who state they are "switch" are usually hard work too and I have yet to let one book a second time.
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I wonder if the men who say they are looking for a regular meet are genuinely seeking that...or just saying that and, if they are just saying it, why are they saying it at all??
Bizarre
I think their thing is that they dangle the carrot of a regular booking in front of you with the expectation that you'll maybe give them a bit of extra time, accept a lower payment, or give services which you'd normally charge extra for, e.g. CIM or filming.
If you do then do those things (and I fell for it a couple of times when I was new and naive) they either don't book again anyway, just move onto the next escort they can rip off the same way, or they become the regular from hell who gradually erodes your boundaries and demands more and more services for less and less money.
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The 'if we click' bit doesn't bother me as much (because usually I don't give them a booking) but the 'I would like to be a regular' is usually a red flag. Meaning they want more (time, services) or you have to prove yourself. If they like me, they will book again. Those who want the regular bit from the start are 99,9% annoying people who I have zero tolerance for.
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I heard this once.
A guy (booked for an hour) who came in and asked, "if we click, can we extend?". He did and paid then. I would never say, yes, to a booking from someone, who booked for an hour but he suddenly starts saying "if we click and he wants 30 minutes trial run first". Thankfully, never had someone like that. He will be blocked.
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Some men genuinely do want to see if you are as good as your profile claims. I've had quite a few bookings when I've arrived, client says wow I'll commit now to longer, hands over the fee for all the time and everything is good.
It doesn't work if I don't have the time/desire/energy for a longer booking, which can be nothing to do with how nice the client is.
Anyone suggesting potential extension before we've ever met, or promise of regular bookings I just carry on as normal booking the minimum they've committed to.
I used to have a regular who amongst other difficult behaviour would book a time, then always ask for a longer time when he arrived. Combined with everything else, it felt like a control thing.
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I used to have a regular who amongst other difficult behaviour would book a time, then always ask for a longer time when he arrived. Combined with everything else, it felt like a control thing.
Or, he liked you so much enough to pay more for longer? Just a thought. :)
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I wonder if the men who say they are looking for a regular meet are genuinely seeking that...or just saying that and, if they are just saying it, why are they saying it at all??
Bizarre
I've found that every single potential client who mentions 'looking for someone regular' either doesn't turn up or comes once and never see him again, I think its just a ploy used by timewasters to grab the attention of escorts. In the email of the one I mentioned previously in the thread I had scanned quickly and saw things such as 'regular bookings' 'overnights' and '2 girl bookings' the last 2 of which clearly states on my profile I don't currently offer.
The genuine regular clients that I enjoy seeing have all come along without any mention of future bookings, we've got on well they've had a good time so they keep returning, its simple as that really :-)
Not all 'regular' clients are good to have though as previously mentioned *some* can become more hassle than they're worth if they start to play control games etc, then unfortunately it becomes time to say bye bye.
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I always say, "Oh we'll click- I'm a professional at that. Literally. So how long did you want to book?"
If they laugh and proceed to be otherwise normal, cool. If they keep on- end call.
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I had a stupid client say this to me the other day - he wanted to meet for basically free social time to see if we 'clicked' before we may or may not go up to his room - on no uncertain terms i told him it wasn't match.com - he refused to give me his name or room number so clearly thought i'd go along what an idiot. there is no bloody test run....
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Either means
A- Unbearable boundary pusher. Unlikely to show up
B -Arrogant narcissist who thinks hes gods gift and not a 'real client'
C - Wants to make sure you dont book anyone right after him so can either push for extra time, be late or faff around in the shower forever afterwards without you having what they consider a viable reason ti kick them out
Any time someone says this to me i remind them that this is not a dating site its a business transaction and that i never commit to a repeat meeting before the initual meeting has taken place
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I heard this once.
A guy (booked for an hour) who came in and asked, "if we click, can we extend?". He did and paid then. I would never say, yes, to a booking from someone, who booked for an hour but he suddenly starts saying "if we click and he wants 30 minutes trial run first". Thankfully, never had someone like that. He will be blocked.
Each to their own I've had some happy Bunnies who believe they've clicked and they've just said "thank God I've had some nightmares I've finally found someone I've been looking for ages "
It's a short cathartic release that some men find very valuable but they actually want a regular no strings relationship of sorts .
I think I pick up the ones nobody wants , the ones who ask questions etc? ( not personal just a little affirmation that I'm ok seeing them)
If I paid someone for anything ( decorating, car repairs , companionship) I'd bloody ask some questions too.
Not everyone understands how it works on the other side of the fence .
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I hear you GP but I think it depends what they are asking.
I have got a few guys who are older and have health issues and they've asked specific questions about their conditions (e.g. nerve damage and have difficulty staying hard, spinal problems so can only fuck in certain positions, etc.) They've said the "if we get on I'd like 2 hours" thing, and I've said to them "Well book 2 hours, and if you don't like me then we'll call it an hour and I'll refund the difference."
The thing is for me, when I'm on tour I need to book guys at regular intervals. If I have someone farting about saying "If we click I'll extend" then I'll just be straight and say "Look, if you want longer then book it, because if I get a definite booking for half hour after you arrive then I'll take it. But if you get here and I don't have another booking, then yes you can extend."
I've also said to guys "Ok why not book half an hour today and if you like me, you can come back again for a longer session another day."
The majority of guys who say "If we click" seem to think they're on a dating site, or they are dangling a carrot in the hopes you'll give them free time, in my experience. The exception is definitely the guys with health problems; to them it's really important to find a provider who will take the time to understand their needs, and I definitely don't mind doing that, i find it really rewarding.
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I hear you GP but I think it depends what they are asking.
I have got a few guys who are older and have health issues and they've asked specific questions about their conditions (e.g. nerve damage and have difficulty staying hard, spinal problems so can only fuck in certain positions, etc.) They've said the "if we get on I'd like 2 hours" thing, and I've said to them "Well book 2 hours, and if you don't like me then we'll call it an hour and I'll refund the difference."
The thing is for me, when I'm on tour I need to book guys at regular intervals. If I have someone farting about saying "If we click I'll extend" then I'll just be straight and say "Look, if you want longer then book it, because if I get a definite booking for half hour after you arrive then I'll take it. But if you get here and I don't have another booking, then yes you can extend."
I've also said to guys "Ok why not book half an hour today and if you like me, you can come back again for a longer session another day."
The majority of guys who say "If we click" seem to think they're on a dating site, or they are dangling a carrot in the hopes you'll give them free time, in my experience. The exception is definitely the guys with health problems; to them it's really important to find a provider who will take the time to understand their needs, and I definitely don't mind doing that, i find it really rewarding.
Yep you've got it , that's kind of what I'm saying , basically I don't pee about with booking times or the extending ( unless I've got time) stuff.
I like an exact time if I'm touring , and no refunds if they book 90 mins and 'go off' in ten , they still pay I don't give refunds , they booked my time .
I did mean the ones that just are a bit awkward on the phone or nervous , health problems particularly ED especially ( some guys really worry about it )
It's a little different in my work place , plus it suits me that my neighbours don't see peeps arriving and leaving on the dot , so I offer a cuppa , but the temperature varies quite a bit lol
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My one hour Price is ?120 half hours is ?80 difference of ?40
What I say is you can extend but there will be no discount on the price for extending
So I make it clear if you book an hour it's ?120
If you book 30 mins and want to extend its a further ?80 no discount
I find money tends to focus there mind on how long they might want 😄 :-X plus I don't want to be asking for he extra money half way through
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My one hour Price is ?120 half hours is ?80 difference of ?40
What I say is you can extend but there will be no discount on the price for extending
So I make it clear if you book an hour it's ?120
If you book 30 mins and want to extend its a further ?80 no discount
I find money tends to focus there mind on how long they might want 😄 :-X plus I don't want to be asking for he extra money half way through
That's a really good technique Paris, I'm going to try that next time someone talks about extending!
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I wonder if the men who say they are looking for a regular meet are genuinely seeking that...or just saying that and, if they are just saying it, why are they saying it at all??
Bizarre
I've had a few now who's previous long term escorts have got engaged, retired etc and they've been sincere .
But they rarely say it before booking .
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I hate it when men say this. In my experience it usually means you'll let me push your boundaries. You'll let the booking overrun, you'll let me ask you a load of personal questions and you will provide a discount or give me free services etc ::) ::) ::) ::)
Anyone else have that feeling when men say - If we click ... ?
It usually means they will be hard work in some sense ::)
A guy wrote to me this and I said to him 'is not like we are going to get married'. I never heard back from him, proof that he wanted to mess around. I am very easy going and I get on with any normal person usually.