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Lushblossom

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When they ask you 'How did you get into this?'
« on: 23 March 2016, 07:47:03 am »
It is just so nosey when they ask us personal questions about how we got into escorting.  They have never met us before we do not know them nor they us and yet some of them still ask.

I used to give them a bit of an explanation but not any longer.  I just say 'A range of reasons' which is the truth and let them figure it out for themselves.

It isn't as if we turn around and ask them 'How come you started seeing us escorts?'.  I never ask intrusive questions but some still pry don't they.
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Fabulassie

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Re: When they ask you 'How did you get into this?'
« Reply #1 on: 23 March 2016, 08:47:08 am »
Your reply is perfect - it's polite and it gets the point across that they're being too nosey.

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Re: When they ask you 'How did you get into this?'
« Reply #2 on: 23 March 2016, 09:01:26 am »
Quote from: Fabulassie on 23 March 2016, 08:47:08 am
Your reply is perfect - it's polite and it gets the point across that they're being too nosey.

It's usually the truth.

I am fairly upfront and not afraid to say so, however I do remember one client bringing up a particular reason I'd given part-way through me giving him a blow job. That specific reason, and saying it at that moment was a total power trip. I made a note that he couldn't be trusted with personal stuff, and the next time I had a booking with him I made sure I adapted how I was with him so that he couldn't pull tricks like that one.
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Re: When they ask you 'How did you get into this?'
« Reply #3 on: 23 March 2016, 09:30:17 am »
yep pisses me off & the "What shall I call you"? question. Had one asking me that last week. Only one of my clients knows my real name.
A lot of them seem to think they are on an actual date dont they. I like your answer LB  ;)
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Re: When they ask you 'How did you get into this?'
« Reply #4 on: 23 March 2016, 02:30:11 pm »
I've found that a lot say 'how' when they mean 'why'.

If they ask how, I tell them the nuts and bolts of starting off, and if they ask why I ask them if I really need to explain why I like being able to earn a weeks wages in a few hours and then have all the rest of the time to myself :).
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Re: When they ask you 'How did you get into this?'
« Reply #5 on: 23 March 2016, 02:51:12 pm »
They ask because they want to hear a sexy story about how you became an escort because something deep deep inside your soul was yearning for sex with old men. Or, like Belle de Jour, you just accidentaly met a sexy and rich couple who happened to pay you for a 3some and from then you discovered this secret world of escorting. Naaaaaaaat
Maybe some girls did start off like that, but the truth is usually so tedious and predictable: empty bank account and perhaps a desire to have a boob job and pay off some bills. Then once you dip your toes in this 'job', it's too difficult to stop.
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Lushblossom

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Re: When they ask you 'How did you get into this?'
« Reply #6 on: 23 March 2016, 02:54:29 pm »
Well in my case it was the gas company and water rates were constantly ringing me up and my debts were mounting....  Not very romantic for a client to hear!
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Re: When they ask you 'How did you get into this?'
« Reply #7 on: 23 March 2016, 02:56:52 pm »
I just tell them the basic truth and then wave away any follow up questions that get too personal. "I'm a student and the money is really good plus it gives me more free time to focus on studies and my social life" is all they need to know.

The most common follow up question I find is "do you enjoy it?"
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Fabulassie

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Re: When they ask you 'How did you get into this?'
« Reply #8 on: 23 March 2016, 05:20:17 pm »
Sometimes I am just too blunt - I forget that they don't really want to hear the truth, they want to hear something sexy and exciting. So if they ask "Do you like women, too?" instead of saying, honestly, "No, not really" I figured out that I am supposed to say that I just LOOOOOVE licking fannies. And that dumb question, "What's the naughtiest thing you've ever done?" Well, apparently "Having sex with strangers for money" isn't what they're looking for. One time, when a particularly annoying guy asked me that, I paused what I was doing (they always ask this shit when you're giving a blow job), screwed up my face and said, "Hmmm... well, I guess that time I fucked a dog."

"You fucked a dog?!"

"Yeah. That was pretty crazy. Of course, it was supposed to be a threesome, but the mastiff wasn't interested so I just had to make do with the labradoodle."

Then I looked at him and said, "No, of course I didn't fuck a dog. But I figured you wanted to hear something entertaining so there you go."

He didn't ask me any more stupid fucking questions after that.
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Aqua Allegoria

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Re: When they ask you 'How did you get into this?'
« Reply #9 on: 23 March 2016, 05:49:03 pm »
Quote from: Fabulassie on 23 March 2016, 05:20:17 pm
Sometimes I am just too blunt - I forget that they don't really want to hear the truth, they want to hear something sexy and exciting. So if they ask "Do you like women, too?" instead of saying, honestly, "No, not really" I figured out that I am supposed to say that I just LOOOOOVE licking fannies. And that dumb question, "What's the naughtiest thing you've ever done?" Well, apparently "Having sex with strangers for money" isn't what they're looking for. One time, when a particularly annoying guy asked me that, I paused what I was doing (they always ask this shit when you're giving a blow job), screwed up my face and said, "Hmmm... well, I guess that time I fucked a dog."

"You fucked a dog?!"

"Yeah. That was pretty crazy. Of course, it was supposed to be a threesome, but the mastiff wasn't interested so I just had to make do with the labradoodle."

Then I looked at him and said, "No, of course I didn't fuck a dog. But I figured you wanted to hear something entertaining so there you go."

He didn't ask me any more stupid fucking questions after that.

LMAO!!!!
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Aqua Allegoria

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Re: When they ask you 'How did you get into this?'
« Reply #10 on: 23 March 2016, 05:56:47 pm »
Quote from: Lushblossom on 23 March 2016, 07:47:03 am
It is just so nosey when they ask us personal questions about how we got into escorting.  They have never met us before we do not know them nor they us and yet some of them still ask.

I used to give them a bit of an explanation but not any longer.  I just say 'A range of reasons' which is the truth and let them figure it out for themselves.

It isn't as if we turn around and ask them 'How come you started seeing us escorts?'.  I never ask intrusive questions but some still pry don't they.

Well maybe you should try my method:)
When they ask me "how did I get into this" I give them a sexy smile and reply "it's my little secret. And tell me, how did YOU get into this?"

Funny how my reply makes them drop the subject immediately.

The one I often get is "were you doing this before you came to London?".
To this one I have 2 replies tailored on my mood. 1) "and what do YOU think?" said in a very mysterious voice. 2) "darhhhling of courhhse no my family would banish me".

I have no problems with these questions because I have no intention whatsoever of replying anyway. Now the one that kills me is what Fab says, "what's the naughtiest thing you ever done?" Geez I just hate this one!!!!
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Re: When they ask you 'How did you get into this?'
« Reply #11 on: 23 March 2016, 06:41:28 pm »
Quote from: Fabulassie on 23 March 2016, 05:20:17 pm
Sometimes I am just too blunt - I forget that they don't really want to hear the truth, they want to hear something sexy and exciting.

I've no doubt that's true, but I'm still not going to make up a load of simpering crap. If they ask me whether I have sex with women I just say no, I'm not the slightest bit interested (and ditto the old kiss-of-death favourite 'so what do YOU like?', which I normally toss aside with some enthusiastic remarks about knitting and football :D).

If they don't want to hear the answer, they shouldn't ask the question. I can't do the Sexee Laydee Me So Horny stuff because I'm completely unconvincing and it makes me feel stupid, so I applaud those who can pull it off.
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Re: When they ask you 'How did you get into this?'
« Reply #12 on: 23 March 2016, 07:05:35 pm »
Quote from: Aqua Allegoria on 23 March 2016, 05:56:47 pm
Well maybe you should try my method:)
When they ask me "how did I get into this" I give them a sexy smile and reply "it's my little secret. And tell me, how did YOU get into this?"

Funny how my reply makes them drop the subject immediately.

I sometimes ask them back too but it never makes them drop the subject they always just tell me the truth then I'm stuck hearing their boring story haha
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Aqua Allegoria

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Re: When they ask you 'How did you get into this?'
« Reply #13 on: 23 March 2016, 07:12:28 pm »
Quote from: amy on 23 March 2016, 06:41:28 pm
Quote from: Fabulassie on 23 March 2016, 05:20:17 pm
Sometimes I am just too blunt - I forget that they don't really want to hear the truth, they want to hear something sexy and exciting.

I've no doubt that's true, but I'm still not going to make up a load of simpering crap. If they ask me whether I have sex with women I just say no, I'm not the slightest bit interested (and ditto the old kiss-of-death favourite 'so what do YOU like?', which I normally toss aside with some enthusiastic remarks about knitting and football :D).

If they don't want to hear the answer, they shouldn't ask the question. I can't do the Sexee Laydee Me So Horny stuff because I'm completely unconvincing and it makes me feel stupid, so I applaud those who can pull it off.

Oh I forgot the "what do you like?"! Funny, the moment I hear it my sex drive goes below zero.
This is why I don't do dirty talk. The whole "oh yes baby I love your huge cock" makes me giggle and I'm like "wtf let's come up with something more creative" and I'm there looking for ideas and nothing.

When I was a newbie and they asked how I got into this I told them my ex flatmate told me about aw. Partly truth. But then they would start fantasising about my ex flatmate and asking if I could call her for a threesome. Really?

So yeah I think the best is just do whatever we feel like answering, I just turn it around and it makes them laugh. I can't talk dirty but there's other things I can do with plenty of enthusiasm so it's all about our boundaries and sticking to them. But that, once again is a learning process and only comes with experience.
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Re: When they ask you 'How did you get into this?'
« Reply #14 on: 23 March 2016, 07:17:44 pm »
Quote from: K47 on 23 March 2016, 07:05:35 pm
Quote from: Aqua Allegoria on 23 March 2016, 05:56:47 pm
Well maybe you should try my method:)
When they ask me "how did I get into this" I give them a sexy smile and reply "it's my little secret. And tell me, how did YOU get into this?"

Funny how my reply makes them drop the subject immediately.

I sometimes ask them back too but it never makes them drop the subject they always just tell me the truth then I'm stuck hearing their boring story haha

It happened to me twice only. One said his wife just died.

Maybe see how you do it, my strategy is while my mouth is asking the question back I simultaneously have my hand sliding down their leg/reach out for a drink/change position just do anything to distract them. I sort of don't give them the time to answer:)
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