Yep, exactly the same here. There is no magic reply to make it better.

I really agree with you. I have been in this industry a long time and I have never found a solution to this issue. Once they have feelings for you/want it to go further it's a death knell. There really is no magic answer

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I really agree with you. I have been in this industry a long time and I have never found a solution to this issue. Once they have feelings for you/want it to go further it's a death knell. There really is no magic answer

Gee wizz Hadley I have at least 20 of these on the go , but there regular and I feel safe with them but emotionally it's really draining , not them just the bloody stuff I have to remember ,although they are my favourite clients I've been off for a month or so and the calls texts ( phones been off) emails are astronomical !

How are you etc, I'm worried etc , but really it's just " hope your ok " nice but pressure !

I can't really say " well to be honest I've been bleeding like a stuffed pig so I'm not sure " FFS so I just have to say unwell due to operation , true but all they want is to see me , come to hospital Etc

I have a family so I've ignored and now back next week until Christmas , thank The Lord  ( probably get hit by lightening now ) !!!!

They must feel they are the only client you are responding to. When you have several clients texting about personal stuff it takes up so much of your time. If you don't respond they get funny or some say getting really worried are you ok if I have been off for over a week.
I need to get stricter on this.
I made the mistake of sending one a text after a lovely session and just said have a lovely weekend.
Ended up with him sending a barrage of texts for days but I just ignored them.

I only reply when working , it's quick and cheeky , not rude or anything that can be miss construed by a partner etc.

Something like ( depending on their business) " could do with a quote" or " could do with a full service" or " I'm chilly might need to put some clothes on etc" , it gets their brains thinking and usually results in a booking that day or the next but not in any way soliciting , it's always in response to a question eg if I get one asking what I'm up to , I say Oooh just getting in a bath or letting body lotion on , or could do with a massage really !!

Works for me