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MissElvira

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When a client is judgemental
« on: 12 July 2021, 10:33:14 pm »
Hi guy's and I just wanted to vent and maybe other ladies or guys have had this happen. I have a regular who is the kind to say he wishes he'd met me when he was younger, Keeps asking to meet him (unpaid) to go to dinner or museum trips which I politely decline monthly. So I was really unhappy when a day before our booking he messages me to tell me that he is Sorry but he can't see me anymore, His good friend phoned him last night to warn him that he'd caught a bad STI from his regular escort. He then writes that because I offer owo he can't chance seeing me again and catching a STI. So was ok for a year to sample my owo but now I'm a STI risk. Feels very judgemental. I didn't reply, I don't offer BB and since I started escorting 2 years ago I've never had a STI. But still makes me feel horrible in a way.

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Re: When a client is judgemental
« Reply #1 on: 12 July 2021, 11:05:50 pm »
This isn't about you, it's about him. And given he regularly tries to push your boundaries by asking you out for unpaid dinners and trips to the museum, he's actually done you a favour. Be thankful he's removed himself from your life by his own accord.

I know it doesn't feel like it's a good thing but it is. As you said, he's made me you feel horrible and he's judgmental. Who needs that in their life?
« Last Edit: 13 July 2021, 08:01:33 am by Thoroughly Modern Millie »

MissElvira

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Re: When a client is judgemental
« Reply #2 on: 13 July 2021, 08:33:29 am »
Thanks Millie, I actually banned this guy before lockdown because he was pushing my boundaries. I think I just felt offended but it's one less needy client trying to get to know the real me lol.

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Re: When a client is judgemental
« Reply #3 on: 13 July 2021, 11:31:10 am »
Mind-fuck. All part of his games. I'd not reply either.
Sounds like a right pot stirrer who's made some crap up to upset you.
I drop those kind of boundary pushers after the first booking, as they annoy me so much. So you had a lot of grit to make him a regular.
« Last Edit: 13 July 2021, 11:38:20 am by saltysweet »

English Green

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Re: When a client is judgemental
« Reply #4 on: 13 July 2021, 12:09:47 pm »
We don't know whether this excuse is even genuine or he got the hump because he won't get freebie dates.

He is naive to think STI's are a risk now suddenly but was ok with unprotected services before. Of course sex workers can catch and pass on STI's by seeing how many people and engaging in anything without a condom. What a dickhead he probably will book someone else who offers it without anyway. What a thickshit.

MissElvira

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Re: When a client is judgemental
« Reply #5 on: 13 July 2021, 01:24:06 pm »
I blocked him before because he book ed me for a lunch date and it ran over 30 minutes with that 30 minutes in the bedroom and he got moody because I hurried him out and said he'd got carried away like I was a girlfriend, This guy's 67 lol His loss And who knows ironically he may catch something hehe, Honestly Salty I don't know how I put up with some of the intense ones but quite simply I need the money but God it can be draining.

English Green

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Re: When a client is judgemental
« Reply #6 on: 13 July 2021, 03:13:40 pm »
When i used to do more outcalls via a proper escort site or my own one it was made clear dates/dinner etc is charged by the hour and promoted just as much as private time. Since Adultwork came along i don't think many " truly escort anymore" it is promoted only as sex services so some of these men think any time outside of sex is not paying time.

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Re: When a client is judgemental
« Reply #7 on: 13 July 2021, 03:23:49 pm »
This is doubly difficult after you've given him consideration, I would consider this a great opportunity to find some clients who do appreciate you.

I would also be prepared for him to contact you again once his worry has passed.


MissElvira

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Re: When a client is judgemental
« Reply #8 on: 13 July 2021, 05:43:25 pm »
Thing is this guy builds me up, Puts amazing AW feedback, And I take it with a pinch of salt, And then turns so quickly. I think Mirror you are right, He may try again but I've blocked him on AW. I have a regular who books me for 3 hours and never gets intense or anything and that's how I like it. I offer a service and a pretend girlfriend experience and if I wanted a relationship I would seek one outside of Escorting but some guys think I want a BF through work.  All adults and we know the risks, I don't get sex outside of work I'm a busy mum.

Femme fatale

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Re: When a client is judgemental
« Reply #9 on: 13 July 2021, 11:55:25 pm »
Clients like him you can do without.

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Re: When a client is judgemental
« Reply #10 on: 20 July 2021, 05:09:12 pm »
that's the evidence that this line of work does not get the recognised credit it deserves - in 12 years i only ever caught one whilst civvys or what ever you want to call them probably catch far more on a yearly basis, you're on top of your sex game hun

unfortunately a GREATLY misunderstood fact but i recommend addressing every single one that you come across when ever you can !