Apart from the obvious where someone makes contact and is down right rude or crude, what silly things might put you off?
I find that some punters are shocked that I don't want to meet them cause they don't think they are doing anything wrong, they might think it's a silly reason but it's not silly to me otherwise I wouldn't turn him and his money away.
Good example of a guy recently who couldn't for the life of him understand why I didn't want to meet him EVER......
Was well and truly finished for the day but stupidly answered my phone after 11pm (my own fault) but I politely told him that I was done for the day but never work at that time of night and never without prior notice, he apologised and asked when I would next be available so I said either Monday or the following weekend. At this point I was in my jammies with hair up in a bun, not a stitch of makeup on, not long out a bubble bath and was sat in front of the telly for the nite about an hour before I go to sleep and he turned round and asked me if I am sure he can't come round and suck my tits for 10 minutes?
I said I would rather poke both my own eyes out, he said what? I don't understand what the problem is? I said I don't have a problem with titty sucking as its all part of the service but I don't want a strange man coming round to dangle from my nipples for 10 minutes out of hours or EVER for that matter. A bit more confusion as to why I didn't want to take him up on his lovely offer before I put the phone down then I received a few texts calling me stupid, cheap and something else but I can't remember now.
Reasons for me avoiding someone...... the most common thing is if I just don't like the tone of their voice. If they sound dull then I think they will be dull and awkward in person, if they sound loud and aggressive then I think they are going to be like that in person, if I think they sound chavy then I think they are going to walk in and be rough with me and try to push my boundaries. I'm put off of these types because of previous experiences.
If i get any more than 3 missed calls from the same person in a short space of time then I think they are pestering me (obviously I'm busy) and it makes me think they are looking for an emergency appointment which is something I don't do so that puts me off and I get put off by people who throw in last minute requests (for things I don't do) and will always cancel in this instance cause I always ask if they have read my profile and are happy with everything when they actually book me.
If someone asks me for a bunch of things I don't do but still want to see me then I know in advance they are going to be disappointed so I try to avoid them too for incompatibility.
I know for a fact I've missed out on loads of good and genuine clients over something silly they have said or done to put me off and that really is my loss but I would rather miss out on a few good ones than have my guard down and potentially put myself in many more shitty situations.
I've been told I'm up my own arse many times for being so selective about who I see when I'm the least up my own arse person I know.....I just get overly anxious sometimes.
Can't think of any more reasons at the moment.
Anyone else have anything else to add?
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