Author Topic: What Makes You think 'Creep'? (Read 12262 times)

Lushblossom · « **Reply #30 on:** 14 March 2016, 06:42:45 am »

Surely mysteriousgirl you aren't on public settings on facebook that isn't wise.

Gypsy · « **Reply #31 on:** 14 March 2016, 09:01:01 am »

Quote from: mysteriousGirl on 14 March 2016, 01:19:47 am

When they find and add you on Facebook, even though you've never told them your name.

I've had this in the past and again most recently today. It creeps me right out and makes me wonder how they've found me.

Do you have a photo of you as your profile picture? I don't for this reason. My privacy settings are quite strict too so they couldn't view any photos of me.

Emma_C · « **Reply #32 on:** 14 March 2016, 10:48:35 am »

Just found one client on twitter in his late 60s, he has all teen porn that he's following. That gives me the creeps.

Fabulassie · « **Reply #33 on:** 14 March 2016, 11:03:29 am »

Quote from: mysteriousGirl on 14 March 2016, 01:19:47 am

When they find and add you on Facebook, even though you've never told them your name.

I've had this in the past and again most recently today. It creeps me right out and makes me wonder how they've found me.

The most likely way is your work phone number is linked to your Facebook account.

The second most likely way is you are using a photo on both your advertising and facebook - some guys do image searches with sites like tineye.

I have my Facebook open to the public and have never had this problem. None of my photos posted to FB are used in advertising and I don't have a phone number linked to my profile. Also, my profile photo is not blindingly obvious - it's me from the rear so it's not like someone will see me commenting on George Takai and recognise my face or something.

Fabulassie · « **Reply #34 on:** 14 March 2016, 11:07:59 am »

However, I have had two men approach me out in public. One just walked up to me with a sickly sly grin and say, "you look familiar...." and I just brushed by him and said, "Sorry! No autographs!"

The other fell into step beside me, said "hello" and then asked "Are you Fabulassie?" I acknowledged that I was but that it wasn't really cool of him to approach me in public. "Oh, sorry.... so are you available now?" I said that I wasn't and walked into a store.

The truth was that I was on my way back to my flat and I *was* available and I got angry when I thought about why I'd said, "no" and wondered if perhaps I had been silly. Who was I to act as if I weren't available? It was like I did a mean headtrip on myself.

BibiofLeeds · « **Reply #35 on:** 14 March 2016, 11:24:29 am »

I think you have every right to not want to see some arsehole that thinks its ok to approach you in the street.Its not on and these are the same sort of blokes who ask if its discrete?!?I had this once at a local pub as it happened it was an 'industry' do so people knew what I did but still embarrassing having someone approach you like that,really thoughtless.He then went and sat with his gf which I found gobsmacking.Can you imaginr if you went and said hello to a punter when he is out and about?Why can't he just ring and make an appointment like everyone else rather than bother you in public?I would not see such an idiotic wanker.

Miss Bentley · « **Reply #36 on:** 14 March 2016, 06:09:01 pm »

Of course you shouldn't have seen him! That would just have been asking for trouble. Even if he was a genuine client who wanted to meet you, he would have called you and arranged a meeting for a set time, not just an impulse during a random run in. I've had guys approach me in hotel corridors before (not by name as doing show my face) and always deny everything!!

Fabulassie · « **Reply #37 on:** 14 March 2016, 07:13:10 pm »

Quote from: Miss Bentley on 14 March 2016, 06:09:01 pm

Of course you shouldn't have seen him! That would just have been asking for trouble. Even if he was a genuine client who wanted to meet you, he would have called you and arranged a meeting for a set time, not just an impulse during a random run in. I've had guys approach me in hotel corridors before (not by name as doing show my face) and always deny everything!!

I do show my face and I accept that as result I'll get a bit of flack for it. As I'm out to everyone who matters (other than my children) I risk relatively little. But I am aware that there are men out there who recognise me (the landlord of my local pub suddenly went rather cold on me. I'm not bothered as I only go there to have a pint on the odd Sunday and read a book but he used to be chatty and now is cold. I suspect he says nothing further because he doesn't want to admit he's been browsing AW!)

I agree - the guy could have called and booked me at any time. I think the excitement of seeing me out there in the real world got to him. Perhaps he had the idea that he would unnerve me - it may have been intended to be harassment in an "ah-ha! Gotcha!" sort of way. I'll keep that in mind in the future.

Mirror · « **Reply #38 on:** 14 March 2016, 07:51:21 pm »

Quote from: Fabulassie on 14 March 2016, 07:13:10 pm

Quote from: Miss Bentley on 14 March 2016, 06:09:01 pm
Of course you shouldn't have seen him! That would just have been asking for trouble. Even if he was a genuine client who wanted to meet you, he would have called you and arranged a meeting for a set time, not just an impulse during a random run in. I've had guys approach me in hotel corridors before (not by name as doing show my face) and always deny everything!!

I do show my face and I accept that as result I'll get a bit of flack for it. As I'm out to everyone who matters (other than my children) I risk relatively little. But I am aware that there are men out there who recognise me (the landlord of my local pub suddenly went rather cold on me. I'm not bothered as I only go there to have a pint on the odd Sunday and read a book but he used to be chatty and now is cold. I suspect he says nothing further because he doesn't want to admit he's been browsing AW!)

I agree - the guy could have called and booked me at any time. I think the excitement of seeing me out there in the real world got to him. Perhaps he had the idea that he would unnerve me - it may have been intended to be harassment in an "ah-ha! Gotcha!" sort of way. I'll keep that in mind in the future.

I don't think you were wrong to decline him, after all people in other jobs don't get approached in the street, or perhaps they do. My opinion is that he might then think it's the way you take appointments..........and then it's little more than soliciting.

What I would have done is made it clear there's a way to book me, that private life and work life is separate (if you aren't in your flat welcoming a client who has contacted you on your work phone/email then you could be in private life) which is not approaching me in the street, and to contact in the normal way indicated on your website.

BibiofLeeds · « **Reply #39 on:** 15 March 2016, 11:33:10 am »

Quote from: Fabulassie on 14 March 2016, 11:07:59 am

However, I have had two men approach me out in public. One just walked up to me with a sickly sly grin and say, "you look familiar...." and I just brushed by him and said, "Sorry! No autographs!" The other fell into step beside me, said "hello" and then asked "Are you Fabulassie?" I acknowledged that I was but that it wasn't really cool of him to approach me in public. "Oh, sorry.... so are you available now?" I said that I wasn't and walked into a store.

The truth was that I was on my way back to my flat and I *was* available and I got angry when I thought about why I'd said, "no" and wondered if perhaps I had been silly. Who was I to act as if I weren't available? It was like I did a mean headtrip on myself.

I wonder if these knobheads actually realise it is technically illegal to solicit sexual services in the street?What they did is technically kerbcrawling.

mysteriousGirl · « **Reply #40 on:** 28 March 2016, 01:45:07 am »

Quote

Do you have a photo of you as your profile picture? I don't for this reason. My privacy settings are quite strict too so they couldn't view any photos of me.

I used to have but don't now. A couple of years ago I had a stalker who found out my name and plastered it on my adultwork feedback as a form of harassment. Adultwork removed it but not before some of my clients saw it. I don't have adultwork now but unfortunately I still have the odd client pop up in my friend suggestions, or in this case add my account. It stresses me out something rotten but there's not much I can do about it now

Guiltypleasure · « **Reply #41 on:** 29 April 2016, 05:46:08 pm »

Quote from: mysteriousGirl on 14 March 2016, 01:19:47 am

When they find and add you on Facebook, even though you've never told them your name.

I've had this in the past and again most recently today. It creeps me right out and makes me wonder how they've found me.

even if you have a different email but use the same Ipad or iphone ( any apple device) it links them as possible contacts as it goes on your IP address ...I had the same thing on FB all these guys kept appearing as people I may know, and I'd only ever used my work email , but on iphone / ipad ...so now I use android phone for work and email...I still login to aw anywhere , that doesn't link ..but responding to emails do xxx

ParisB · « **Reply #42 on:** 02 May 2016, 09:13:02 am »

Quote from: mysteriousGirl on 14 March 2016, 01:19:47 am

When they find and add you on Facebook, even though you've never told them your name.

I've had this in the past and again most recently today. It creeps me right out and makes me wonder how they've found me.

If in your work phone you have your facebook account or the telephone number you use on face book in the phone then this is how it can happen also by the IP address

It's mainly a iPhone problem if you use iPhones

On my personal phone which is a iPhone 6 it has my work contacts in it as it syncs from my other phones and I can't be assed to switch all the emails off

I have twitter on my personal phone is oftens comes up as your contact joe smith has just joined Twitter

ParisB · « **Reply #43 on:** 02 May 2016, 09:15:46 am »

Quote from: Miss Bentley on 14 March 2016, 06:09:01 pm

Of course you shouldn't have seen him! That would just have been asking for trouble. Even if he was a genuine client who wanted to meet you, he would have called you and arranged a meeting for a set time, not just an impulse during a random run in. I've had guys approach me in hotel corridors before (not by name as doing show my face) and always deny everything!!

When im in hotels I and poping out I totally change my hair and put on glasses so that I look totally different
I know that some clients ( stalkers ) hang out in certain hoteks as hey know that loads of girls work from them

Miss Carolines secret · « **Reply #44 on:** 02 May 2016, 11:42:32 am »

Quote from: Fabulassie on 14 March 2016, 11:07:59 am

However, I have had two men approach me out in public. One just walked up to me with a sickly sly grin and say, "you look familiar...." and I just brushed by him and said, "Sorry! No autographs!" The other fell into step beside me, said "hello" and then asked "Are you Fabulassie?" I acknowledged that I was but that it wasn't really cool of him to approach me in public. "Oh, sorry.... so are you available now?" I said that I wasn't and walked into a store.

The truth was that I was on my way back to my flat and I *was* available and I got angry when I thought about why I'd said, "no" and wondered if perhaps I had been silly. Who was I to act as if I weren't available? It was like I did a mean headtrip on myself.

Seriously over stepping your personal boundaries .

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