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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: Bettyboo29 on 30 March 2020, 11:44:51 pm
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I started at 36?( On AW I'm 33 lol ) and I had always been very sexual and watched many documentaries on escorting and I always wondered if I could do it. To be honest for some reason since splitting from my ex husband I was sex mad to the point of being a sex addict which I think is down to mild anxiety. Got worse after my dads death, I let lots of guys use me and I used sex to feel. Only when I started escorting did I feel in control and I was earning my own money and felt empowered. I also had another life that nobody knew about for a while. Now on lockdown my old libidos come back and I'm thinking about sex lol Its like most jobs, When you do it for a living you want to go home and shut off lol.
Thing is, And what you dont find out until you escort the job can be very all consuming, Not just the body we offer but emotionally too. WG work hard and sacrifice too and if you have kids it's also mentally a strain.
For me the choice was not just money. It was having some control which I had not had for many years. And no regrets at all.
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The only radon I started was money. Purely to pay the rent and bills.
At the time I was trying for a sugar daddy as I'd had one for a few years.
After realising that wasn't going to happen again, a friend of mine joked that I may as well charge for it instead of giving it away and I realised she was right.
I worked full time for 5 years and saved every penny I could to buy a house and when I return to work I'm going very part time, maybe 3/4 people a week.
So positives are I have myself a house with a small mort on it, I've gained massive body confidence, I've become a stronger person mentally and emotionally.
I started at 45 and I'm 51 now and before this virus was still getting lots of enquiries every day.
A massive boost to my ego..
Stay safe everyone x
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Money, what else?! Are there genuinely any escorts that are going to say they got into it to have sex with strangers?! ;D
The positive outcomes are being stronger in being rejected and handling it, taking zero crap from men and knowing and understanding men better than civvy women, plus never worrying about money and being able to buy crap just for the sake of it!
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For money and because i knew I would be good at it lol. And the job offers flexibility.
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I am also better in bed that I was and I’m body confident and I’ve learned that being insecure in front of a man about your body, “oh my bum is fat, switch the lights off”, is so annoying to them and it makes you less attractive.
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Yes money mainly, but I do get a thrill from it. Maybe not so much anymore but when I was younger and hopping around different countries and cities and feeling very liberated in many ways. I am a good brander now, and have good seo skills and stuff as a result, too.
Its made me a very autonomous person, which has positives and negatives, the negatives being now that I am 'institutionalized'... office work or whatever would be tough for me, so I do try and think about keeping my health and fitness now so I can maintain myself as a sex worker, if I have to, in theory, until retirement age (if state pensions still exist then!). Positive are though I don't have to put up with anyone's bullshit, bullying bosses, gossiping colleagues, unattractive working environments and tedious and unimaginative tasks for 50 hours per week.
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The only radon I started was money. Purely to pay the rent and bills.
At the time I was trying for a sugar daddy as I'd had one for a few years.
After realising that wasn't going to happen again, a friend of mine joked that I may as well charge for it instead of giving it away and I realised she was right.
I worked full time for 5 years and saved every penny I could to buy a house and when I return to work I'm going very part time, maybe 3/4 people a week.
So positives are I have myself a house with a small mort on it, I've gained massive body confidence, I've become a stronger person mentally and emotionally.
I started at 45 and I'm 51 now and before this virus was still getting lots of enquiries every day.
A massive boost to my ego..
Stay safe everyone x
That's cool to read , I would never of saved the amount I have if I had just got a full-time job. I had been a carer for many years and I never had time to think of my future. Buying your own home is amazing. Hopefully after CV we can resume work .
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Loubylou, I admire you or anyone who's put their earnings to good use as I've wasted mine totally.
I got in for money but I get a buzz from being in charge, from the (temporary) adoration, and feeling powerful. I've kept it a secret for so long though, the double life has given me so much anxiety, or maybe I've always been anxious. In fact, the only situation I'm not anxious is when I'm doing this job. I love it and hate it at the same time.
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The perfect opportunity to make money relatively easy and quickly for things that otherwise would be unattainable for me at young age and with the peanuts paid at civvy job. Saving for house, another education in a direction I want to go and hopefully end up trainer and self employed in a different sector. Settle down if I ever find someone worth the shit. If I remain unmarried I’ll continue into 30s and 40s but on part time basis and maybe get a property to rent out as passive income.
One year on, my honeymoon is over, and so are the crazy shopping sprees.
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Loubylou, I admire you or anyone who's put their earnings to good use as I've wasted mine totally.
I got in for money but I get a buzz from being in charge, from the (temporary) adoration, and feeling powerful. I've kept it a secret for so long though, the double life has given me so much anxiety, or maybe I've always been anxious. In fact, the only situation I'm not anxious is when I'm doing this job. I love it and hate it at the same time.
I don't feel anxious about having a double life but its exhausting juggling my family home and work flat. My kids don't know about my work or that I enjoy the order and peace and quiet of my work flat. I love having a double life after years of living a life I felt smothered by and never appreciated. Unfortunately certain people found out and gave me stress.
Anxiety is horrible and it's something I had severe but got it under control before I started escorting.
I'm now more anxious to think that escorting might be over until next year the was this virus is spreading and I'll have to give up my lovely work flat. Been weird going back to my old life during lockdown.
It's good you enjoy the job, I enjoy it 90% of the time.
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I feel sad too that it's over but I know escorting is something we can go back to. I have built up great feedback and regulars so I hope I can pick up and start again. But it's a real shame us girls can't reach our goals this year.
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I was bullied alot as a kid, which left me with zero self esteem. I'd also been abused at a young age by my stepfather, so I wanted to rediscover my love for sex and take control of it again. It definitely worked. I am more confident now, and less tolerant of bullsh*t. Guys used to try and push my limits before this job, and I'd let them do it, but now I have no problem showing them where the door is. I guess it's made me slightly harder as a person, but I wouldn't say that's a bad thing.
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Darcy I'm sad to hear you had to go through what you did. But it's good to read that you didn't let it destroy you but you took control It's funny I wonder if guys would even ask each other why they decided to be Male escorts lol Guy's would give each other a high five and looked at as a stud. I've had so many Male friends join AW hoping to get work and mostly get guys message them and then turn on me because I have work coming in, I think that's why my Male friends and ex husband find it hard to be excepting and not give me a high five. That women can have the power to use their sexual power and get paid for sex when guys find it hard to even get sex. Now I see the power play in sex and relationships, Mens fragile egos and how sex is a massive part of how they see themselves as being a man. You learn so much in this job about the Male mind and how they still need to be nurtured physically and emotionally. Women are the strongest sex and I think we grow wiser and more confident with age. One day my kids will find out, Sure my ex will tell them when older.
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I thought I could do it, it seemed exciting, I was fed up of making zero headway financially, and wanted to be independent of partners. I had been extensively bullied at various points in my life, so as at least one person has said above I was able to rebuild my self-esteem. Also I had a serious alcohol problem, which combined with drug use affected my reliability - the flexibility meant I could take time off, and knowing I had built a good business became incentive to turn that part of my life around.
I have retrained funded by Escorting, become secure property wise, made further investments, settled down but found I could not put the Escort down so put the other career down. CV-19 seems to have stuck 2 fingers up at that so I'm putting time into that again for now, whilst continuing with voluntary work which I've been doing for quite a long time.
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Thanks for your kind words, Betty, and you are absolutely right. I actually went to see a psychiatrist a few years ago, who said that I'd chosen sex work because I wanted to be a victim. She couldn't get her head around the fact that I'd actually taken control and felt empowered through sex, rather than being afraid of it anymore. When I was younger, sex was a horrible thing for me, but now I enjoy it again. Sex work made me fall back in love with the intimate parts of my body. God, that's deep - sorry!
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Taking power back or taking control and gaining power is different for everybody and it takes self awareness and a refusing to be a victim. We have all probably been to dark places and had people do us harm mentally or physically. I always used sex to deal with my anxiety, I realised I had a problem when I had used Craig's to hook up and had sex with 3 different guys in a day and without charging lol Idiot me. I went sex free for 6 months and then started escorting. And its helped me break a cycle and I like guys paying to worshipping my P###y.
Feeling lost a bit now out of escorting and not knowing when or if I can work again soon.
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Escorting has boosted my confidence. I am far less shy know than I was before I started.
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It makes me feel wanted and attractive to the opposite sex so it is very good for the morale. Ego boosting. Plus it enhances confidence and is guaranteed sex. Win win. I like sex and enjoy the variety of men also. I just couldn't go back to monogamous set ups since I struggled with them in the past to start with! Boring lol.
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Lushblossom I have very similar reasons as you.
Plus the extra cash is a bonus after a career change into a much lower income day job! Just hope we can spend the cash as someone mentioned earlier on another thread, cash is looked at as dirty at the moment. I don’t think we’ll be cashless any time soon but it may be a bit more difficult for a little while.
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I live in the middle of the country and since lockdown although cash is less encouraged in many shops there is still no issue in e.g. newsagents and Londis and so on.
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Been escorting for a while now, sex I hated, felt it was something done to me for years, through uni and then in employ guys seemed to think they were superior, Was away on work, went to the bar in the hotel, and I got chatted up. Now it was back around the time of bell de jour and I just thought fuck it. looked him square and im not all chatting so don't waste my time. £300 an hour and ill go to your room and do more than chat.....
never done it before, but it was the easiest £300 I made. and that was it, part time 4 or 5 meets per month, and then ramped up. I don't do debt, invested and bought a flat and a car. its given me freedom and reduced worry about money. And ive matured sexually. I know what I like in private life and don't put up with shit.
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I started escorting at 20 because i couldn't keep a job longer than 3 months due to my social anxiety, im so happy i got into this because i hate being around people and i'm in control of what i do.
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I started at 18, I’m 26 now. Ive taken a long break in between.
When I started I was in my final year of college getting EMA (who remembers that lol) and I really wanted to get a job so I was set for when I leave college. As cliche as it sounds I watched Secret Diary of a Call Girl for the first time, I think it was the last season and it really intrigued and excited me, I ended up googling something like escort websites U.K., and discovered Adultwork, I didn’t join straight away but kept looking at the site.
Joined as an inexperienced 18 year old who had only slept with two people and only sucked a cock once, I ended being thrown in at the deep end as my first client was 75! The rest is history. ;D
It’s always been something I’ve done part time alongside a full time or equally part time job. I absolutely love it. There was a time about 4 years ago when I hated everything about the job, completely despised it, had a few bad experiences and I think that’s why, I took a 2 year break and came back loving the job more than ever.
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It saved me from a horrible lifestyle of working an unhealthy amount of hours in a 9-5, with people who I didn’t even get on with and a manager from hell. Becoming a WG gave me control over my life that I never thought I could achieve! I’ve been a WG for 5 years now and still enjoying it.
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Thanks for your kind words, Betty, and you are absolutely right. I actually went to see a psychiatrist a few years ago, who said that I'd chosen sex work because I wanted to be a victim. She couldn't get her head around the fact that I'd actually taken control and felt empowered through sex, rather than being afraid of it anymore. When I was younger, sex was a horrible thing for me, but now I enjoy it again. Sex work made me fall back in love with the intimate parts of my body. God, that's deep - sorry!
Hi Darcy and sorry for the late reply. I think be cause you are a deep person and I feel kind hearted you may have a healing side and a want to heal yourself. I don't believe any woman wants to be a victim, Or anybody. Deep is good Darcy, Never be shallow :)
And it's been great to read the post x
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I like escorting and sex and I'm definitely not a 9-5 or having a nagging or egotistical manager giving me orders daily. But I just wish escorting was the norm, Legalised. So many rights now for many lifestyles and sexual choices all 9f which I support. But why must selling sex be still so taboo. Why still escorting after being open since before the1900s and way before, is still not legal. I just think there's too much shame for those that use the service or is it that guys like that its taboo. Sorry just a thought.
Because I think I'd love this job more if it was excepted.
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I got into it as soon as I turned 18 because sex and the sex industry has always peaked my interest when I was little. I got pretty good at having sex by and and getting paid for it was and still is kind of fun.
The positive outcome is that I'm much more confident. I learned how to make myself look good, become sensual and capitalize off of it. I take zero bullshit from men now. Plus I understand men a little more better now. Just a little bit.
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Why still escorting after being open since before the1900s and way before, is still not legal.
Prostitution is perfectly legal.
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I was drowning in debt after my divorce and had a shit job with crappie salary. So a friend introduced me to escorting when I went to borrow money from her. She made it clear to me that no matter how much she can lend it will never be enough and would spoil our friendship. The best advice and thing I ever did and no regrets. It has changed my life big time and have met some nice sugar daddies on the job. Most and the best of all its given me my Independence.
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I like escorting and sex and I'm definitely not a 9-5 or having a nagging or egotistical manager giving me orders daily. But I just wish escorting was the norm, Legalised. So many rights now for many lifestyles and sexual choices all 9f which I support. But why must selling sex be still so taboo. Why still escorting after being open since before the1900s and way before, is still not legal. I just think there's too much shame for those that use the service or is it that guys like that its taboo. Sorry just a thought.
Because I think I'd love this job more if it was excepted.
I got good news for ya, prostitution's legal in UK ;) It's accepted by the police, the lawyers, the judges.
You've been legit all along Betty!
In 1957, the 'Wolfenden Report', on homosexuality and prostitution stated to the government cabinet ministers it was not the state's job to police private morality.
I neck a baileys shot to your good sense Sir John Wolfended!...and a shot for each of your team of 15 investigators including- Mary Cohen a vice president of the Girl Guides Association, Catholic and Presbyterian ministers, The 12th Marquess of Lothian a Foreign Minister, Sir Kenneth Diplock a judge, Lady Lily Stopford a magistrate and the aptly named Kathleen Lovibond of the Conservative Womens Association. Bottoms up we owe you! :-*
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Betty Boo it is legal to be an escort in the UK😂😂😂😂
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Money. Positive is money but comes with stress and hassle.
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Freedom. I was sick and tired of working 10 hours a day for people who didn't appreciate me. I'm more than happy to stand or fall on my own merits..
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Yes I ended up hating the employee ratrace after over 20 years of it.