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Author Topic: What made you decide to start escorting and any positive outcome on your life ?  (Read 4527 times)

Bettyboo29

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I started at 36?( On AW I'm 33 lol ) and I had always been very sexual and watched many documentaries on escorting and I always wondered if I could do it. To be honest for some reason since splitting from my ex husband I was sex mad to the point of being a sex addict which I think is down to mild anxiety. Got worse after my dads death, I let lots of guys use me and I used sex to feel. Only when I started escorting did I feel in control and I was earning my own money and felt empowered. I also had another life that nobody knew about for a while.  Now on lockdown my old libidos come back and I'm thinking about sex lol Its like most jobs, When you do it for a living you want to go home and shut off lol.

Thing is, And what you dont find out until you escort the job can be very all consuming, Not just the body we offer but emotionally too. WG work hard and sacrifice too and if you have kids it's also mentally a strain.

For me the choice was not just money. It was having some control which I had not had for many years. And no regrets at all.

loubyloo

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The only radon I started was money. Purely to pay the rent and bills.
At the time I was trying for a sugar daddy as I'd had one for a few years.
After realising that wasn't going to happen again, a friend of mine joked that I may as well charge for it instead of giving it away and I realised she was right.

I worked full time for 5 years and saved every penny I could to buy a house and when I return to work I'm going very part time, maybe 3/4 people a week.

So positives are I have myself a house with a small mort on it, I've gained massive body confidence, I've become a stronger person mentally and emotionally.

I started at 45 and I'm 51 now and before this virus was still getting lots of enquiries every day.

A massive boost to my ego..

Stay safe everyone x

TantricTease

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Money, what else?! Are there genuinely any escorts that are going to say they got into it to have sex with strangers?!  ;D

The positive outcomes are being stronger in being rejected and handling it, taking zero crap from men and knowing and understanding men better than civvy women, plus never worrying about money and being able to buy crap just for the sake of it!

Scottish Emily

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For money and because i knew I would be good at it lol. And the job offers flexibility.

JaneDough

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« Last Edit: 28 April 2021, 03:42:49 pm by JaneDough »

TantricTease

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I am also better in bed that I was and I’m body confident and I’ve learned that being insecure in front of a man about your body, “oh my bum is fat, switch the lights off”, is so annoying to them and it makes you less attractive.

Vintage Miss

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Yes money mainly, but I do get a thrill from it. Maybe not so much anymore but when I was younger and hopping around different countries and cities and feeling very liberated in many ways. I am a good brander now, and have good seo skills and stuff as a result, too.

Its made me a very autonomous person, which has positives and negatives, the negatives being now that I am 'institutionalized'... office work or whatever would be tough for me, so I do try and think about keeping my health and fitness now so I can maintain myself as a sex worker, if I have to, in theory, until retirement age (if state pensions still exist then!). Positive are though I don't have to put up with anyone's bullshit, bullying bosses, gossiping colleagues, unattractive working environments and tedious and unimaginative tasks for 50 hours per week.

Bettyboo29

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The only radon I started was money. Purely to pay the rent and bills.
At the time I was trying for a sugar daddy as I'd had one for a few years.
After realising that wasn't going to happen again, a friend of mine joked that I may as well charge for it instead of giving it away and I realised she was right.

I worked full time for 5 years and saved every penny I could to buy a house and when I return to work I'm going very part time, maybe 3/4 people a week.

So positives are I have myself a house with a small mort on it, I've gained massive body confidence, I've become a stronger person mentally and emotionally.

I started at 45 and I'm 51 now and before this virus was still getting lots of enquiries every day.

A massive boost to my ego..

Stay safe everyone x

That's cool to read , I would never of saved the amount I have if I had just got a full-time job. I had been a carer for many years and I never had time to think of my future. Buying your own home is amazing. Hopefully after CV we can resume work .


EnglishAmy40

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Loubylou, I admire you or anyone who's put their earnings to good use as I've wasted mine totally.

I got in for money but I get a buzz from being in charge, from the (temporary) adoration, and feeling powerful. I've kept it a secret for so long though, the double life has given me so much anxiety, or maybe I've always been anxious. In fact, the only situation I'm not anxious is when I'm doing this job. I love it and hate it at the same time.

northernstar

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The perfect opportunity to make money relatively easy and quickly for things that otherwise would be unattainable for me at young age and with the peanuts paid at civvy job. Saving for house, another education in a direction I want to go and hopefully end up trainer and self employed in a different sector. Settle down if I ever find someone worth the shit. If I remain unmarried I’ll continue into 30s and 40s but on part time basis and maybe get a property to rent out as passive income.

One year on, my honeymoon is over,  and so are the crazy shopping sprees.
« Last Edit: 06 April 2020, 09:50:56 pm by NorthernStar »

Bettyboo29

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Loubylou, I admire you or anyone who's put their earnings to good use as I've wasted mine totally.

I got in for money but I get a buzz from being in charge, from the (temporary) adoration, and feeling powerful. I've kept it a secret for so long though, the double life has given me so much anxiety, or maybe I've always been anxious. In fact, the only situation I'm not anxious is when I'm doing this job. I love it and hate it at the same time.

I don't feel anxious about having a double life but its exhausting juggling my family home and work flat. My kids don't know about my work or that I enjoy the order and peace and quiet of my work flat. I love having a double life after years of living a life I felt smothered by and never appreciated. Unfortunately certain people found out and gave me stress.

Anxiety is horrible and it's something I had severe but got it under control before I started escorting.

I'm now more anxious to think that escorting might be over until next year the was this virus is spreading and I'll have to give up my lovely work flat. Been weird going back to my old life during lockdown.

It's good you enjoy the job, I enjoy it 90% of the time.

Bettyboo29

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I feel sad too that it's over but I know escorting is something we can go back to. I have built up great feedback and regulars so I hope I can pick up and start again. But it's a real shame us girls can't reach our goals this year.

DarcyLady

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I was bullied alot as a kid, which left me with zero self esteem. I'd also been abused at a young age by my stepfather, so I wanted to rediscover my love for sex and take control of it again. It definitely worked. I am more confident now, and less tolerant of bullsh*t. Guys used to try and push my limits before this job, and I'd let them do it, but now I have no problem showing them where the door is. I guess it's made me slightly harder as a person, but I wouldn't say that's a bad thing.

Bettyboo29

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Darcy I'm sad to hear you had to go through what you did. But it's good to read that you didn't let it destroy you but you took control It's funny I wonder if guys would even ask each other why they decided to be Male escorts lol Guy's would give each other a high five and looked at as a stud. I've had so many Male friends join AW hoping to get work and mostly get guys message them and then turn on me because I have work coming in, I think that's why my Male friends and ex husband find it hard to be excepting and not give me a high five. That women can have the power to use their sexual power and get paid for sex when guys find it hard to even get sex. Now I see the power play in sex and relationships, Mens fragile egos and how sex is a massive part of how they see themselves as being a man.  You learn so much in this job about the Male mind and how they still need to be nurtured physically and emotionally. Women are the strongest sex and I think we grow wiser and more confident with age. One day my kids will find out, Sure my ex will tell them when older.

Mirror

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I thought I could do it, it seemed exciting, I was fed up of making zero headway financially, and wanted to be independent of partners. I had been extensively bullied at various points in my life, so as at least one person has said above I was able to rebuild my self-esteem. Also I had a serious alcohol problem, which combined with drug use affected my reliability - the flexibility meant I could take time off, and knowing I had built a good business became incentive to turn that part of my life around.

I have retrained funded by Escorting, become secure property wise, made further investments, settled down but found I could not put the Escort down so put the other career down. CV-19 seems to have stuck 2 fingers up at that so I'm putting time into that again for now, whilst continuing with voluntary work which I've been doing for quite a long time.