The most difficult thing is the stigma of our profession other than that I have no issues.

I do well in this job and I am very good at it. I have no moral/ethical issues surrounding the subject.

BUT after almost a year now (with the entire summer & xmas off due to family), the only thing that keeps me in it is a particular financial target for something very specific which I am less than a month from reaching, and I cant bloody wait.

I hate everything about the job, the disgusting/ugly/old men touching me, slobbering on me, against me, ugh. I despise them all but I'm here for a reason and on a mission under no illusions of enjoying having sex with these horrible strangers. I couldn't bear the thought of this as a long term career, i'll be out and not a moment too soon.

I hate office work etc, but I'm on a tight schedule to reach this figure and the moment I am I'd rather break my back for minimum wage than have another gross fat elderly gentlemen slobber over my face!

Goodness mssa, I'm pleased for you that you're able to stop the job soon as you sound completely burned out :-( If ever someone needed a break it's you!!

Personally speaking, I know that if I saw every man who enquired about a booking, I'd be very busy but would also burn out within weeks, because it's the ability to filter out the dodgy ones that has allowed me to sustain the job. Well, that and being part-time!!

I know it's only a month but think about your sanity and perhaps re-think who you are and aren't comfortable seeing? The only person who can decide this is you. Good luck x

eep I hope I've used the quotes properly??

Nah that's the thing, I have great clients from the agency. Really respectful, never a hint of trouble, just good clean guys. But being a decent human being doesn't mean I'm going to like shagging you, at the end of the day it's still ugly old men who are in/on me. I'm professional and have no qualms about the actual type of work, but from the very first day 1 I'm not going to pretend it's actually something nice that is happening and that I would choose to be doing it out of enjoyment  given any other way of making so much money so very quickly.

The social stigma and having to keep it a secret.

The virtual impossibility of finding a bloke who could cope with it as a boyfriend!  Those of you who have found such a gem are truly fortunate.  It gets a bit lonely living without a partner for years on end.  Having said that being independent does have its advantages but then again independence can slowly wear a bit thin.

Most difficult thing for me is pretending I like men who actually repulse me x

Seriously, I am wondering how many of you feel they have to do this job simply because of the financial gain?

Seriously? Ask that to the average person that goes to work, do you do this for financial gain or would you do it for free?

The answer is the same, if a prostitute did not do t for financial gain she would be a swinger and give it away for free!

Most people given the chance would not choose to work!

Yes, it is difficult for a man to accept a woman who does this job.
But to me it seems, it is mainly because of the social stigma.
Th disrespect of some men who think they can take advantage of you because you aren't a worthy member of our society.
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What is really damaging to you about being a prostitute?

I think that forums such as these can be a great help to people just starting out n the business of Adultwork, not just being an escort, there are many pitfalls and these are things that you can sometimes learn from others experience, but mostly you have to learn it as you go.

The question you ask often comes up, and there is no real genuine answer.

In centuries past, women accepted prostitutes as part of the husbands life, at times it was almost encouraged and certainly accepted by ladies whose husbands indulged, a relief, a "rest" from duty.

But we do not live in those days now, a relationship is as stable as a a Jeremy kyle show, a guy will go off with a fancy, at the slightest hint of an encouragement, so the question you really need to ask yourself is:-

How would you feel? How would you feel if a woman was openly available to your man? This does not actually have to be a prostitute, it could just be a neighbour offering to shag your partner for free, entice him away from you.

I have been in a relationship for as long as I have been a prostitute, there have been many times that I have been offered to be taken away from this life by "married" men, what would there wives think of that?

The modern age makes everything confusing,there was a time when men wanted a shag to unload, unfortunately now men seem to want more than just a shag, they want emotional involvement, which is not something that I am happy to provide, even though they are married they are looking for more, even a relationship. to me this is all wrong and i have nothing to do with it.

The above is nothing new, it has been going on for some time but in the last 20+ years I have seen an increase in the above scenario.

So, should a prostitute be an acceptable person?

There were times when a recently divorced friend, (female), would be considered a leper at dinner parties, this would be because of the effect that she would have on "husbands", who are governed by the inevitable "hard on", trying to get off with said person.

To recap, the problem we have is that we strive  to be acknowledged yet by doing so alienate ourselves from society even further:-

As a prostitute, a person that somebody just had sex with but would never give more than the time of day too, that was acceptable, and people did not try and pretend it was acceptable. the girl in question would be a "common prostitute" and seen as just a shag.

As a person that wants to be acknowledged and accepted as somebody that is willing to shag anybody for a "?" is not somebody that most people would invite to dinner with husband and friends.

How would you see your friends introducing you? Please let me introduce my friend, she is a prostitute and if you don't mind would let your husband shag her for a few quid after dinner.

Interesting thoughts.... I am sure there are many arguments for and against the above, but we have to consider the reality of the situation.

Sarah x x x

Nah that's the thing, I have great clients from the agency. Really respectful, never a hint of trouble, just good clean guys. But being a decent human being doesn't mean I'm going to like shagging you, at the end of the day it's still ugly old men who are in/on me. I'm professional and have no qualms about the actual type of work, but from the very first day 1 I'm not going to pretend it's actually something nice that is happening and that I would choose to be doing it out of enjoyment  given any other way of making so much money so very quickly.
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I agree, no matter how 'respectful and clean' these men are, it's not a choice to have sex with them, it's to make money fast. End of. To say otherwise is, in my view, a defence mechanism.

I agree, no matter how 'respectful and clean' these men are, it's not a choice to have sex with them, it's to make money fast. End of. To say otherwise is, in my view, a defence mechanism.

We're all different. A good proportion of bookings I find enjoyable, and that's not a defence mechanism. It's still to make money. Everyone has a bad day at the office, but who wants to do a job they detest all the time.