I have a regular whose wife was very sick with cancer since I met him, and coming to see me was literally the only form of escape from caring for her, taking her to the doctor etc, and the only time he was doing something for himself. He worked all day and cared for her all night & morning. I always tried to make our time as special as possible b/c I had so much respect for him, and by the way he talked about her and teared up over her I knew he loved her so much. I don't think men go to escorts b/c they don't love their wives. I would never expect one person to fulfill my every need for the rest of my life, nor would I be so audacious as to believe I could be everything to someone. Men come to me to be in a safe space that's free of judgement, and in turn, they don't judge me for what I do. Sure, some clients are going to be horrible people who have no respect for their wives and try to sleep with every living thing with boobs, but those are few and far between in my experience. The vast majority are there because they love their wives, and instead of having an affair with the woman at the office that could destroy their marriage, they're seeking something purely physical that poses no threat to their relationship. And I respect and appreciate them for that. I tell my clients who work all day to support their wife and kids that they deserve to treat themselves, and I wholeheartedly believe that to be true.
To be fair, you are not really in a position to know the truth about client's lives, how many people they are sleeping with, how happy their marriages are and how well they treat their wives. In my opinion a client only deserves to see me on the basis he can pay the fee and he is respectful and courteous, my moral position with regards to an individual client is disinterest whilst I'm on his time.
I just think it would be something of a spurious waste of energy to be every Tom, Dick and Harriet's moral arbiter. But that extends to their wives, and I'm not about to make assumptions about them, including assuming that their husband supports and provides for them. What with so many wonen I know these days supporting and providing for themselves.
I understand that's how you operate. I don't do the job that way. I enjoy the human element, I enjoy talking with my clients about whatever they wish to discuss, and of course I keep my personal information out of the conversation and take what they say with a grain of salt. With this particular client, to whom I acted not only as an escort but also as a therapist of sorts, I chose to believe him for a number of reasons I don't feel the need to get into. And because of that I feel I gave a personalized service that helped him get through an incredibly difficult time. Everyone approaches the job in the way that suits them best, and for me, treating clients like robots who want to fuck and leave would be untrue to my style. It's not unusual for me to leave a booking feeling as if I was able to fill a client's emotional void as well as his physical one, and that's something that a lot of my regulars seem to come back for. Disinterest may work for you, but I honestly don't think I could feign it if I tried. The intellectual and psychological aspects of human interactions are the parts I enjoy the most about this job and are often what I'm sought for.
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I also think we are not paid to not be judgmental.
I don't believe everything men tell me in general (clients even more) but I still do believe in the good in general.
You have to put yourself in the position of the other person. Because one day this could be you. And while there will always be girls for every punter, there should also be some who tell them the truth because their reality gets completely distorted after a while (if all those young girls accept my behavior, Can I be wrong?)
Very often I show clients my disapproval about their behavior, may it be a look on my face or just a very stupid question like;
"But don't you think it really hurts your wife if you are showing me all her personal messages for you while she is fighting cancer in hospital? Don't you sometimes feel a bit bad you have to do this?"
Honestly, I do not want to deal with the guilt that they might be wanting to share (by making me feel guilty too).
At least he could have been keeping it to himself, really.
I try to see myself from different people's positions. And maybe next time I am the wife with cancer. And I would be very grateful if someone would actually tell this man, no, dishonesty and immoral behavior cannot be always excused with your cock and sexual needs.
I learned to control my needs of craving sweets and chocolate during stressful time for my partners bc I don't want to look like a whale ross.