I broke up with my boyfriend a few days ago, and I wanted to vent it out here. I confessed to being a working girl - after about two monthes of getting to know eachother and deciding to take the plunge into 'relationship' territory. I told him over coffee at my house, and he stormed out. Infact, he threw his coffee in my face and walked out the door. Now, he seemed a decent guy. Kind, thoughtful, sensitive, intelligent and great fun. I really liked him, but I wasn't prepared to lie to him. I value honesty above everything, but now I'm regretting saying anything at all. I didn't hear from him for four days, and I definitely didn't chase him, and eventually I recieved a text calling me a 'nasty filthy whore,' who 'was impossible to love, because you're disgusting.' Charming.

I am hurt, but I will survive  I'm just wondering if I was wrong to be honest? I'm also highly irritated by how judgemental and narrow-minded people are. I have had similar experienced with men in the past. Why can't they handle it?

Gah, back to spooning my pillow 

damned if you do, damned if you don't. 

Well at least you are in good company at the moment:

http://www.saafe.info/main/index.php?topic=10794.msg85242#msg85242

Hope you're ok, break up's are never nice.

xx

Oh you poor love....that's HORRIBLE!!!!  For him to throw coffee in your face and then send you an abusive Text Message....

To be honest it sounds like it is HIS problem NOT yours.....don't you take it on board....You and you alone know why you do this Job and how you feel about it and don't let him take that away from you.

There ARE honest, loving, easygoing Guys out there who will understand what you're doing....You just have to find the one for you.....don't settle for anything less than a Man that will treat you like a Princess because that's what you deserve!!

I'm still looking as well.....it's hard being single sometimes....but you always have us (and that wasn't an offer to shag you I'm afraid  LoL)....but happy to listen anytime....

No you did the right thing the relationship coul never go any where with you hiding what you do.  So long term it is the best thing and better that then he stays with you for the money and then leaves when he gets a better idea in his head taking your hard earned cash with him.  Nope definatley the best thing to do well done x

Spooning the pillow is good as it does not expect anything from you and accepts you for who you are and it is always there when you need it.

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Thank you girls, all your responses means alot. I was very upset at first, but have now realised he's obviously a judgemental idiot who assaulted me and can't have cared much. Thank you for the support girls  At times like this, you guys are the only people that I can confide in.

yeah big love!!! defo his problem! thank god you got out when you did! 

i told an ex bf about my profession. we had a break after 3 years and i began then, told him 3 months later after getting an sti!

he couldnt believe it, was soooo upset (not angry like your dude). the one thing that i found absolutely incredible is that a while later he admitted to me that he had thought about 'pimping me' lol!

its all about the power with men! they want you all for themselves! 

Ladyjenna, that sounds like a pretty harsh reaction on his side. Just by curiosity..did you ever "tested" the waters with him? Did you ever had the "oh hon, I just discovered an old girlfriend on mine is an escort. So-what-do-you-think?" conversation?

Oh yes...very true.

In my case, I didn't drop a bombshell that I was an escort. It was revealed over a period of 2 weeks and he actually tricked me into confessing he'd done it himself! It was really him probing and continually asking me...even TELLING ME an ex girlfriend of his had once took dirty pics of him and he thought about doing gay escorting. I met the ex-girlfriend whom ALSO briefly did escorting as well herself. She was kind of the person that mainly 'cottoned on' when he mentioned to her that I travel to different cities.

So, in this case...I was already kind of feeling out his attitude towards it, which wasn't abhorrent...but his issue seems more about dating someone who does the kind of work. I'm not sure whether jennaj man is mad at her for doing it or actually has a true hate towards the profession. He sounds a bit insecure to be getting all crazy like that. Makes me think maybe some underlying issue..

Also, some people just have these ridiculous conditions that make escorting okay. In the case of the guy I know, he's had 2 girlfriends INCLUDING himself try out escorting/stripping. He excuses it by saying it's something they did for a short time because they had nothing to turn to, but once you're on your feet, you should move on. It's stupid logic. If everyone escorted when they were down and out, the industry would be overrun by unprofessional, needy, low priced, cheap, low-budget...it'd just be a mess and clients would rule the industry and price us rather than the other way around.

It's we who are established and know how to work the industry, prices, etc that keep this business running. Everyone starts off as a newbie. But newbies don't keep this business going in the right direction. It takes smart, strong minded women to stand up and fight to prevent clients from taking advantage of us.