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DianaMurphy

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New book re escorting and an article giving a positive side!
« on: 06 August 2012, 02:31:31 pm »
Spotted this from one of my business networking contacts and so glad to find something a bit more positive than is normally portrayed about our occupation! http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/relationships/Escort-251361.html Might have to look up the book as well!

casey_kisses

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Re: New book re escorting and an article giving a positive side!
« Reply #1 on: 06 August 2012, 03:09:52 pm »
I wish people would stop writing these books and such glamorising the industry and making it seem like a fabulous way to get rich quick. This article really annoyed me actually.  Even the negatives have been made to look positive i.e  'it won't all be luxury travel and glamorous surroundings' WHAT?! I don't remember the last time I had either of those things.

I'm glad they at least touched on some of the negatives i.e stigma, secrecy and security though.

Don't get me wrong I love what I do, but I think some young girls are incredibly impressionable, and that as adults a fair and unbiased (as much as possible) view of the subject should be given.

Especially now that many of us are earning way less than we used to, I feel that it's a little inappropriate to make it seem like it's easy, fast money, and you will earn enough to completely change your way of life, because for a lot of girls, that is not the case and because money is the main incentive of this job (and the freedom it consequently gives you) for some of them the long term consequences could very well outweigh the small amount of cash. 

Sorry I don't think i explained that very well but I have 'sex brain' lol.

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DianaMurphy

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Re: New book re escorting and an article giving a positive side!
« Reply #2 on: 06 August 2012, 03:23:24 pm »
Even the negatives have been made to look positive i.e  'it won't all be luxury travel and glamorous surroundings' WHAT?! I don't remember the last time I had either of those things.

But that's saying it WON'T all be ... I've never had the luxury travel but then I'm not available for it if it is offered LOL! But you make the best out of your work surroundings if you offer in calls if you so wish. I've ordered the book so will give it a go, it doesn't sound like it's going to be the usual drivel but we shall see  :)

casey_kisses

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Re: New book re escorting and an article giving a positive side!
« Reply #3 on: 06 August 2012, 03:31:57 pm »
I know, but it's the 'ALL BE' that I have a problem with. 'All be' makes it sounds like it will more than likely be like that a fair amount of the time (which is not the reality for most of us). It's just phrasing, I know, but it just bothers me. There are other things like 'Obviously escorting involves sex'... whereas if i had been interviewed written a book I would have made damn sure it was more transparent than that i.e 'I have sex for money' 'I get men asking me to go to Dubai with them, but they are mostly scam artists'. I don't know I just think it's painting a very fluffy picture. 

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lili69

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Re: New book re escorting and an article giving a positive side!
« Reply #4 on: 06 August 2012, 04:09:42 pm »
I've had both ends of the scale - from 5* top london hotels to one of the worst Travelodges I've ever seen!  The norm for me is either mid-way or nearer the bottom end of the scale!

I've been lucky enough to meet some wonderful guys and have some wonderful experiences, dinners, etc.  But I do think its wrong to paint escorting as an easy way to make money or in any way glamorous.  The secretive nature of the job can really isolate you from family and friends and I think that would be really hard for a young girl to deal with.  Also all the idiots and nasty guys you can meet could be difficult to deal with for a newbie, especially a young one. 

I agree that escorting should definitely NOT be glamourised!  Even if you are enjoying yourself with an attractive client (and they are few and far between), you still really can't let yourself relax as you have to stay safe at all times.

I'd be interested to read the book and article tho...