Quote from: Fabulassie on 07 March 2015, 06:28:10 pm

Quote from: Miss K xXx on 07 March 2015, 05:05:00 pm

Yes, my last client there has drummed it into my head to just completely ignore them, it's so hard sometimes though xx

Yes, some guys get off on upsetting us. You told this guy last night that he was frightening you. So, you basically gave him a freebie.

You say things like, "I know I shouldn't reply but sometimes it's just so hard!" Well, that is your choice. You make the deliberate choice to engage these creeps on their level.  A huge part of our job is to deal with unpleasant men and screen them out. If you can't gain some self control and you actually become sick with worry over these exchanges then you are maybe in the wrong line of work.

I think some of us have a much thicker skin than others, I definitely don't have a thick skin.....not sure I want one as I quite like person i am. I think the day I stopped getting upset at horrible people saying the nastiest things and making threats towards me is the day I become a different person.

Your right though in the sense that I definitely shouldn't entertain it and should ignore and block, I will try my absolute hardest to do so.

I'm not in the wrong line of work as I'm very happy with the actual work in itself and the actual men I meet with, I've just had a wonderful afternoon with a lovely mature gent who had the utmost respect for me, he brought me a lovely gift and paid me good money for my time so seeing him has restored my faith. 9 times out of 10 my clients are total gentleman once I've weeded out all the nasty ones. Dealing with the nasty's ones is just a downfall of the job, a downfall that I haven't ever been able to deal with very well the whole time I've been doing this.

xx

Miss K,

You're right with your reply there. 'Lack of self control'?? I think you answered that one well hun, I agree with you. Look after yourself xx 

Thank you ladies for all the lovely comments of support and advice, I will take it all on board.

Bibi, I just mean.....I know what type of person I am, a girl who wears her heart on her sleeve, is like an open book and takes things to heart which in this job is a bad mix, in real life.....it's not such a bad thing, I'm a good person so it's never been a weakness in my private life but in this job, it definitely is a weakness. It's hard to change your perosnally or habit of a life time just becuase of some nasty strangers who get their kicks out of upsetting us.

I doubt the person I am will ever change in that respect, I've been moaning about this for 4 years nearly but I will definitely have to just ignore and block and try not to give it a second thought.

I got back to all my missed calls while I was with my last client today then switched my phone off so have had a nice relaxing nite and tomorrow is all regulars so I will have my phone on for them tomorrow but as soon as my last client walks through the door, my phone is going off again till Monday.

Need a wee break from the phone.

xx

Quote from: TheLittleMatchGirl on 07 March 2015, 07:26:10 pm

Why haven't you blocked these people so they don't call or message?

You don't have to hear anything they have to say...especially not 30 times?

Becuase the guy told me he has a proxy number and will get me on another number also in the past, these abusive types just trick me into a booking using another number but fuck it, I will be blocking them all in the future, I've blocked these 2 now x

I wouldn't believe a word this kind of person says. Sorry you've had such an awful time of it. Best to block and it at least lessens the likelihood of him contacting again, if he wants to run around spending hundreds on new sims and top ups he may but something tells me he'll either run out of money or inclination

Block away Hun x

Sorry that this is a bit late to add to the thread. I had the police round at mine the other night after some very scary calls and texts, so I totally understand the feelings of vulnerability. In my case there were 5 different mobiles being used, so I saved each one but didn't block because it would then have removed the evidence I needed to show the severity of threats I was receiving. As others have said though, replying to them just gives them the momentum to carry on, so ignoring is the way forward.

Hope you're feeling better now. Never be afraid to contact the police, even just for some reassurance. I called 101 and didn't give them my real name at the time. They were great and dealt with it in a way that I was comfortable with. x

Sorry that this is a bit late to add to the thread. I had the police round at mine the other night after some very scary calls and texts, so I totally understand the feelings of vulnerability. In my case there were 5 different mobiles being used, so I saved each one but didn't block because it would then have removed the evidence I needed to show the severity of threats I was receiving. As others have said though, replying to them just gives them the momentum to carry on, so ignoring is the way forward.

Hope you're feeling better now. Never be afraid to contact the police, even just for some reassurance. I called 101 and didn't give them my real name at the time. They were great and dealt with it in a way that I was comfortable with. x

He chick, I'm going to PM you if you don't mind xx

Quote from: Miss K xXx on 08 March 2015, 07:28:12 pm

So I ended up not blocking these guys but just intend to completely ignore becuase I worry that if I block, they will just get me on another number and 48 hours later, the first guy who was wanting to bring his son to the appointment has started phoning my phone again. I was hoping he was just a drunken nutcase with nothing better to do on Friday nite but on a Sunday nite where he's still at it, I think he's genuinely nuts. Totally freaks me out x

Obviously it's your call but these guys are upsetting you so it does seem like you shouldn't allow them to. No one knows if you've blocked them you know(at least I know this for a fact if you have an iphone) there is no difference on their end whether they're blocked or not,texts appear to send and calls go to voicemail. So you really are putting yourself through unnecessary stress. Just to add, it seems this person doesn't have any kind of typical relations/relationships...never mind a son. Please put yourself out this misery and block him. It won't make a bit of difference other than you not being exposed to his fantasies as he won't know

He will know if I block him cause when he phones me, it rings whereas when you block someone with an iPhone it rings for half a ring and cuts off. I switched off my voicemail ages ago cause I had guys wanking into it then when I got the latest iPhone a couple of months ago, the voicemail was on as default and again, guys phoning me and wanking into the machine through the nite so I switched it off again.

Am I the only one who attracts these guys? Lol! There are no dirty pics on my profile, no dirty talk and very vanilla services so I've no idea why I seem to get so much bother compared to other girls.

xx

No Miss K, I sometimes think I get loads of tws/pervs compared to others but I have only on a couple of occasions got very abusive messages but I think that is because I've only snapped a couple of times.  Ones where they've scared me has happened once. The potential to get more ones like that is there but like everyone says, responding or getting angry with them is the problem.  Sometimes you don't even have to snap, you can just speak to them a bit huffily and they can get wound up I've found so I just say sorry, I'm not working for a few weeks, bye. Then hang up. I don't swear at them and try not to hang up mid sentence as all those things can get them going. I try my best but don't think I'm 100% immune to snapping though if I get a really bad call from the start which is rare.

My phone is also like yours as I too disabled vmail so when I block them it rings once then hangs up. This makes it look like you've answered then cut them off so they keep ringing and ringing. My AW phone still can't block but I've seen a cheapish one that does so am going to change it.