So I'm going through a wee spell of the worste possible abuse, the last 15 hours has been unbearable.

Last nite I had a psycho that I told I didn't want to meet becuase he asked me if he could bring his child along to the booking that turned into hours and hours worth of abuse and some really strange messages such as him saying he killed his son and at least 30 phone calls.

This morning I had a guy phone me asking for a booking and could he buy my used panties etc, I politely told him that I don't sell my underwear and I don't offer a kinky type service to which he went completely bananas, really hostile and I really did nothing to provoke it. He's called me some of the most vile things I've ever heard and his abuse had been going on the last 3 hours.

I will post a warning about these 2 after a write this post.

My question is, do these horrible people get off on doing this to us becuase they think we're vulnerable? They aren't far wrong, I'm sitting here stressed out and upset cause at any point....I could invite one of these guys into my home.

I'm looking into having a panic button set up in my flat cause this kind of anxiety makes me ill. I haven't blocked these guys becuase (from experience) these are the guys who always manage to trick me by getting me on another number.

I do try my best to ignore all the morons I deal with on a daily basis, sometimes the odd person gets under your skin and your bite at them then get spoke about on punter forums that you have a bad attitude not taking into consideration, I'm actually very decent, have my head screwed on and within my boundaries, I offer the best I can (and have endless amounts of positive reviews from those who have actually met me) but I'm only human and sometimes this stuff really gets me down and occasionally, you bite at someone that's asked or said something completely stupid or offensive.

I have a new client coming in 45 mins time who I'm super excited about meeting because he seems just lovely but I just worry I can't pull myself together and put on a brave face for him. My head is completely wasted today, once he leaves I am switching my phone off and calling it a day. I'm fully booked tomorrow so need to perk up for that aswell.

Times like this, I just feel like I can't do it anymore.

The amount of these idiots aswell who think that what we do is illegal so they think they can give us abuse and frighten us with threats etc cause they think we have nobody on our side to protect us.

Why would a guy freak a girl out like that by saying he doesn't even have a son because he killed him? just sick!

Sorry I'm rambling on here, I will go write those warnings now.

xx

In my experience, the minute a client or potential client starts making you feel uncomfortable when communicating, just stop all forms of communicating completely. YES, some guys do get off on getting you worked up and by responding, gives them what they want. In the end though, it just ruins your day and gives them the kick they need.

Don't block the number so that you can recognise again, if that's what you do, but for god's sake DO NOT REPLY.

Yes, my last client there has drummed it into my head to just completely ignore them, it's so hard sometimes though xx

In my experience, laughing and making a stupid joke about the size of their cock and brain, then telling them something like "I have done things far worse than you so you should be scared of me and not telling me your cheap, sweet pussycat stories. You're dealing with a lady who has cut the balls of some guys and I live of humiliating people like you.
The point is, don't show them that you are scared. Nobody who would do those things would ever speak about them. It just gets them excited. Many men in fact get excited of women's fear (some enjoy making her cry bc it gets them horny) which is disgusting but it's part of human nature.

In my experience, laughing and making a stupid joke about the size of their cock and brain, then telling them something like "I have done things far worse than you so you should be scared of me and not telling me your cheap, sweet pussycat stories. You're dealing with a lady who has cut the balls of some guys and I live of humiliating people like you.
The point is, don't show them that you are scared. Nobody who would do those things would ever speak about them. It just gets them excited. Many men in fact get excited of women's fear (some enjoy making her cry bc it gets them horny) which is disgusting but it's part of human nature.

I wouldn't even do that. I would simply put the phone down/not reply. These guys are almost certainly messaging and calling a lot of women, waiting for any sort of response. Give them nothing.

Quote from: Miss K xXx on 07 March 2015, 05:05:00 pm

Yes, my last client there has drummed it into my head to just completely ignore them, it's so hard sometimes though xx

Yes, some guys get off on upsetting us. You told this guy last night that he was frightening you. So, you basically gave him a freebie.

You say things like, "I know I shouldn't reply but sometimes it's just so hard!" Well, that is your choice. You make the deliberate choice to engage these creeps on their level.  A huge part of our job is to deal with unpleasant men and screen them out. If you can't gain some self control and you actually become sick with worry over these exchanges then you are maybe in the wrong line of work.

I think some of us have a much thicker skin than others, I definitely don't have a thick skin.....not sure I want one as I quite like person i am. I think the day I stopped getting upset at horrible people saying the nastiest things and making threats towards me is the day I become a different person.

Your right though in the sense that I definitely shouldn't entertain it and should ignore and block, I will try my absolute hardest to do so.

I'm not in the wrong line of work as I'm very happy with the actual work in itself and the actual men I meet with, I've just had a wonderful afternoon with a lovely mature gent who had the utmost respect for me, he brought me a lovely gift and paid me good money for my time so seeing him has restored my faith. 9 times out of 10 my clients are total gentleman once I've weeded out all the nasty ones. Dealing with the nasty's ones is just a downfall of the job, a downfall that I haven't ever been able to deal with very well the whole time I've been doing this.

xx

Why haven't you blocked these people so they don't call or message?

You don't have to hear anything they have to say...especially not 30 times?

Becuase the guy told me he has a proxy number and will get me on another number also in the past, these abusive types just trick me into a booking using another number but fuck it, I will be blocking them all in the future, I've blocked these 2 now x

Lets hope karma is a bitch in a bad mood  . Screw him and his proxy phone...Hope it sits well sideways up his arse followed by a size 7 boot