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xxxtinyxxx

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Dilemma....Help me....
« on: 17 August 2010, 11:03:43 pm »
Hello Everybody,

Well this is a completely off the topic subject but here goes. I met this guy a few weeks ago and i made friends with him, i thought he was absolutely gorgeous. To cut a really long story short, we have been chatting on-line and texting each other recently, i have completely fallen for him, this is not something that ever happens to me, i have been with my partner for almost 10 years, i don't know what to do, because i have never been in this situation. I feel like a stupid teenager.

HELP ME.................

Love N' Hugz.

Mak.
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PussyMaria

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Re: Dilemma....Help me....
« Reply #1 on: 17 August 2010, 11:57:45 pm »
Having had a similar-ish experience, my advice would be to completely remove yourself from contacting this guy for a while until you get your head straight. It took going on holiday for the summer and not seeing or hearing from my guy at all to see his flaws and realise that I was better off without him and sticking with my partner.
On the other hand you may find that this time away helps you to see any issues you may potentially have in your relationship with your current partner and you can then address these.

I think often our emotions get swept away, and we need to step right back and remember rational thought to stop ourselves doing something silly! :)

Hope you get it all sorted out

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Re: Dilemma....Help me....
« Reply #2 on: 18 August 2010, 12:06:54 am »
Hiya Mak,

I really feel for you as its a horrible and emotionally draining situation to be in. I think you need to try and think practically without emotions but also do a lot of soul searching as well. Try writing down what is going on which may put it into propective like how each guy makes you feel etc.It might also be a good idea to not have sex with either of them either has it will release hormones that will blur your vision.

Good luck and Kisses

Amber
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Re: Dilemma....Help me....
« Reply #3 on: 18 August 2010, 12:43:55 am »
Hi Tiny,

this is a client?

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Re: Dilemma....Help me....
« Reply #4 on: 21 August 2010, 10:26:10 pm »
Hello Everybody,

Thanks for all your replies, this guy is not a client, just a random guy that has come into my life and turned it upside down. I couldn't help myself and arranged to meet him, nothing happened, although we did end up kissing at the end of the meet. Although i am glad nothing happened, he has totally spun my head, all i do is think of him. We have agreed not to see each other till next weekend. He has phoned me everyday since we met telling me how much he misses me, how much he is thinking of me etc.

The worst part of it is when i was with him, it was so different, when he touched me he made my whole body tingle, from head to toe. I do not get this feeling from my partner, infact i don't think i have felt a rush like that since i met my partner, which was nearly 10 years ago. When i have sex with my partner it only lasts around 10 minutes and i rarely get anything out of it. I know this sounds really horrible but i don't think i have climaxed for almost a month.

I have never cheated on my partner or lied to him, i really feel that we are growing apart, he wants to stay in and sit in front of the computer, i want to go out and have fun. I'm so confused, i feel like i have not had a life, i should never had tied myself down so early in life (i got with him when i was 18-19) I am now nearly 28. He is 41. I just want to be happy. Even if this guy hadn't come into my life i feel this would have happened anyway. Although no man has EVER made me feel like this ??? HELP ME.... ???  :(  :'(

Love N' Hugz.

A very unhappy...

Mak.
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Re: Dilemma....Help me....
« Reply #5 on: 21 August 2010, 10:46:40 pm »
Hey Mak

You need to figure out if this is just an itch. If it isn't, then you need to figure out if you have some type of future with him or not. Long relationships can fall into complacency, but I am sure that your partner has many things that are comfortable and comforting to you,  first flush excitement can make you forget all that.

List the things you would have to do to be with him. Properties, cars, investments, pets, do you share any of those things with your partner?
If you do, are you prepared to lose half of those things?
Are you prepared for the fall out from both your family and his?
Can you bring yourself to tell your partner?

If you answer those questions, and the answer is still yes, then be responsible. Don't sneak around, its a really bad way to start any new relationship. If you really want to be with this person, you will probably need to live alone and get to know him properly, minus the glamour of forbidden fruit.

Hope that makes sense, I have a hangover.
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