What really can be a let down is when a good regular changes in behavior like being pushy. For example after phoning to book I told him a time would be next available as had to tidy up after some one, but he kept asking for the next ten minutes several times.

That is when I told him that it's not appreciated those exact words. Ever since that conversation didn't hear from him since. One thing I won't tolerate is them not accepting my answer. Even people in my personal life wouldn't get away with it.  I'm very polite and kind but some people try and take advantage like it's a weakness.

The client and I had some great times together making that emotional connection, he's so lovely. Some times being firm has to be done but would rather be polite. Even though it had to be said, now am starting to feel mean aww. It was just at a busy moment he rang with so much tidying to do. Maybe I should apologize for being rude as usually I grit my teeth being polite, then when finished let it go.

Quote from: meetingdiversity on 24 August 2012, 08:01:43 pm

The client and I had some great times together making that emotional connection, he's so lovely. Some times being firm has to be done but would rather be polite. Even though it had to be said, now am starting to feel mean aww. It was just at a busy moment he rang with so much tidying to do. Maybe I should apologize for being rude as usually I grit my teeth being polite, then when finished let it go.

The thing is, there's absolutely no point him hassling you. As said above, hassling you can't make you magically able to do 10 things at once and be ready in ten seconds. Would you ever dream of hassling a hairstylist or plumber or whatever? If they say, "I'm busy right now but I could do 4pm", I would say "Okay great" or "What about tomorrow instead?" - at no point would I be like, "NO NOW IT'S GOT TO BE NOW RIGHT NOW OMG" because that would just make me sound like a whiny toddler.

Also, at no point do I want a begrudging professional doing their job in a half-arsed, grumpy manner because of how obnoxious I was to them over the phone. Can you imagine? A hair stylist or plumber who thought you were a right berk could do a really bad job and end up costing you a lot of money to fix things in the long run! I'd much rather they told me when was convenient for them so we could work together to agree a good time. If their times didn't suit me, I'd just go elsewhere or wait a bit longer, depending on how I felt. Would there be any need for tantrums? No!

If you'd let him come along early he probably would've moaned about the place not being tidy.

Thanks for your view of things has helped me see that my response wasn't rude at all. Yes others would moan if untidy just like there's no pleasing some times.

No need to apologise. I think you stood your ground and they should understand that NO means NO.

guys like this piss me right off!!!

punter "hi, you available luv"
me "well iv just sat down for dinner so i can be available at say 7pm?"
punter "oh, you cant do 6.30 then?
me "no sorry"
punter "6.45?, its just im near now...."
me "thats too bad sorry you'll just have to wait"
punter "ok"
me "mmm, ok well see you at 7 then."
punter " great, bye"

........then the asshole turns up early!  grrrrrrrr

I hope you made him wait

these are the ones that make me mental. I get at least three a day. I'm very clear. And I start to think - if this guy ignores my no about this, what else will he ignore my no over?
The worst one last week asked for a 1pm appointment and I said no, 2pm. after pushing and pushing he agreed to 2pm.
then showed up at 1pm. I made him wait. at 1:30 he asked if I could not get dressed up or put on make up to save time.
I told him to wait.
He told me to text and entertain him while he waited. I told him I had someone here and he made the decision to show up early. He shut up.
I saw him 10 min early.
He then complained that coming too soon was because he had to wait and he wanted some money back.

I said nothing and slammed the door on him. Some men will just try anything on because they don't respect me as a professional, I'm a whore so it's ok to push like that.

One bloke was suprised I had bills to pay. He was trying to get 30 min for ?40. I told him as I worked from home I could only have so many people over per day and thus I offered a good quality service for a reasonable price. I had bills to pay. This was shocking news to him. "I paid a girl ?30 for 30 minutes and she actually chewed on my knob and it hurt."
"honey if I was working for ?30 for 30 minutes, I'd want to bite someone's knob too."

I get sick of the guys who nag to see you earlier and earlier and then say they'll have a cuppa whilst they wait for me!!! WTF???

I had one like that.

He said he had just come from work so wanted to sit in my hotel room for half an hour or so, I said sure we can spend the first half hour of the booking chatting and relaxing if you like. His reply was 'oh no I meant just sit in your room whilst you get ready'. Erm no