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Torn and can't come to a decision
« on: 19 November 2010, 07:04:11 am »
I hope this doesn't get moved to another section where I can't find it LOL...But really looking to get some input.

So, I am VERY close to getting a new apartment and signing a lease in a new city. However, part of me still believes that its not busy enough out here. I toured a city about 7 hours south of here, and was getting about 2 clients a day steadily from most of my websites (thats busy for me). There is virtually no competition in that town, about 4-5 guys at the most on all sites combined, non of them being my color LOL. In fact, its so isolated and not very spoken about....I didn't even expect to do well, and sort of just went when I put ads up and began getting responses.

Then, silly me decided to drive back to the city up north...and although I had my 1st client last night, I pretty much sat here all day without anything. Although there isn't as much competition as say London or Las Vegas...there still seems to be a stream of guys traveling thru here popping up occasionally. And in the gay world, having guys 'pop up' occasionally can be a potential threat to business.

My question fear is this: What if the town I visited earlier this week was only busy because I was travling thru? What if the moment I decide to move there, I stop getting work and then am stuck? How can you tell if a place is good for touring or for living?

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Re: Torn and can't come to a decision
« Reply #1 on: 19 November 2010, 07:18:46 am »
What about a short term let say a 3 month contract.
Then if it does not work you havent lost to much.
Its a hard one really in this current climate.
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Re: Torn and can't come to a decision
« Reply #2 on: 19 November 2010, 07:57:18 am »
I have no idea what equals small town in the USA, and i have no idea on what % of that small town would be your client market.

But if it was busy when you were there, i would go back and see if those customers return, i.e could be regulars?

Then get the cash behind you so you can sign a short lease.

Small town in the USA, probably equals the population of the West Midlands, i am one of 1276 escorts listed for this area!
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Re: Torn and can't come to a decision
« Reply #3 on: 19 November 2010, 08:09:44 am »
LOL...no, the town has a population of over 528,000 and there are only about 5 escorts listed. Like literally, I counted on all of the directories  :o 

The thing about signing 3-6 month contracts, is the price of rent goes up significantly. For example, the apartment I looked at today was $560 for a 12 month lease. A 6 month lease would have been a whopping $615 a month! 3 months would probabaly have been like $700 or more.

But I like your idea of regulars. In a town where there is virtually no competition, its very easy to make a prescense there.

I feel like Im going CRAZY! I drove 7 hours yesterday to get here and now I want to just turn right back around! Its 1 reason why once I leave a city, I never like to return. I stayed here for 2 months during August-October and noticed that there seemed to be a lack of steady bookings. It just seemed like it could be better....

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Re: Torn and can't come to a decision
« Reply #4 on: 19 November 2010, 08:58:14 am »
700 or  560? It is a no brainer if you are not sure of the area.  That's 30 a week and you can move if you you do not like it after 3 months rather than being tie in for a year and having to spend money on touring!

It never fails to amaze me how short sighted people are when it comes to earning money. Yes, I know if you do not have money and are strapped for cash its seems a very high mountain but you have to spend to accumulate.

The lady who rents my house weekly has not been to work for 6 days as her car has broken down.  I told her to rent one for 70 a week - less than a 30min job.  Has she done it? No.  Has she had any jobs? No.  Does she stop moaning? NO. And she still has to pay my rent and if she thinks differently, look out on the offering board.  Lol.

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Re: Torn and can't come to a decision
« Reply #5 on: 19 November 2010, 09:32:12 am »
700 or  560? It is a no brainer if you are not sure of the area.  That's 30 a week and you can move if you you do not like it after 3 months rather than being tie in for a year and having to spend money on touring!

It never fails to amaze me how short sighted people are when it comes to earning money.

It sounds easier than done. 30 a week turns to 120 a month. Non of my bills are even $120 a month. That extra savings helps out, and not to mention the other bills...that can easily run to 1,000 a month.


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Re: Torn and can't come to a decision
« Reply #6 on: 19 November 2010, 09:42:32 am »
700 or  560? It is a no brainer if you are not sure of the area.  That's 30 a week and you can move if you you do not like it after 3 months rather than being tie in for a year and having to spend money on touring!

It never fails to amaze me how short sighted people are when it comes to earning money.

It sounds easier than done. 30 a week turns to 120 a month. Non of my bills are even $120 a month. That extra savings helps out, and not to mention the other bills...that can easily run to 1,000 a month.

Yes but when you think of it another way, if you stay in a hotel every night at an average of $60 a night you are already spending $1800 a month on hotel rooms.

Ok, they might give you breakfast, but by the time you have factored in your gas costs, say $100 a week and other bits and pieces i would give an average expenditure of $3000 a month.

Even at the higher rate of $700 and an extra $1000 a month for bills, you are still spending less than hotel and gas....



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Re: Torn and can't come to a decision
« Reply #7 on: 19 November 2010, 10:30:02 am »
well, I actually cut my hotel costs down to no more than about 35-45 a night.

But still...apart from costs, my thing is this: what if all that hype in business was just a quick boost, and then things die off within a couple of weeks? It just scares me to think if I turn back around, people will be like, "oh, he lives here...I won't hire him".

Thats what sucks about America. Some clients actually wont hire a local guy on the basis of him living there. Some clients specifically go after traveling escorts because they feel they'll be out of town soon and wont be calling and begging them for money. Its my job to change that, but I dont want to end up being stuck in the process...
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Re: Torn and can't come to a decision
« Reply #8 on: 19 November 2010, 01:32:05 pm »
well, I actually cut my hotel costs down to no more than about 35-45 a night.

Lol, you replied to me saying that paying the extra 30 a week to give you security but flexibilty was too much, and then in your next post say that you are paying 35-45 a night in a hotel because where you stay is not profitable.

If you commit to a 12mth lease to save you the 30 a week and then find it is not profitable, you will be spending 100's extra a week to escape from your home!!!!!

I do think you are probably not wanting our help, just one of those people that makes excuses for every suggestion people make.

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Re: Torn and can't come to a decision
« Reply #9 on: 19 November 2010, 05:10:24 pm »
I do think you are probably not wanting our help, just one of those people that makes excuses for every suggestion people make.

No, thats not the intent. What you're saying  makes perfect sense, Im just considering the cost of the rent for that time being. But like you said, it'll cost more to stay there longer.


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Re: Torn and can't come to a decision
« Reply #10 on: 19 November 2010, 10:16:04 pm »
Im getting to the point where deep down inside, I dont think I want to settle down yet. Part of me is still pulling towards a New York/London lifestyle where different cultures are everywhere, city vibe, and just people and music and you can be whoever you want to be without having to worry about anyone judging you.

I just dont feel that exists out in this part of America which is why Im having such a hard time deciding to sign on a lease

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Re: Torn and can't come to a decision
« Reply #11 on: 20 November 2010, 07:11:29 pm »
I agree that a short let would make far more economic sense.  It also gives you more peace of mind.  If you don?t like the part of the country you are in then it seems most logical to go somewhere where it might be different.  Sorry I don't know the whole history but it seems the obvious move.