It helps if you keep it as separate and different as possible.

I was messaging someone on a dating site we met up yesterday
Were meant be seeing each other again, got a message said he sent me text on my other number at first thought he got message mixed up with someone else decided Check my other number and he had sent one to me on it , so not exactly so innocent himself, can't say fuckall to me as nobody can stop me working unless they want support me or I think they special to stop , for now gone quiet on me , I don't know why but had a feeling to change my age on profile but guess my area ect not hard work out who I am if someone knows me .

I have seen a few punters who already seen me ages back on there looking for women , I had 1 from Manchester message me last year told him trying meet for date said forget it ,  I actually got a punter again who I saw off another site but think he expected because we both on dating we hook up no chance of that he was so ugly looked like shrek and the vilest tasting mouth due to smoking , and I not seen him since then .

It seems hard to find someone because I'm sort of reserved and anxious dating also having to lie about my work doesn't help. Then come across lots of people on dating sites that want casual or sex. Or as I'm in my 30's they mighy want kids, marrige etc. That doesn't interest me but i do want a serious relationship and would consider an open one.

I hear swinging can lead to meeting a man up for accepting our line of work. Why not join a swinging site and take it from there?

Swingers will want to go to swinging clubs and watch you engage having sex with other guys (for free) because that's their thing. If that's your cup of tea too hey ho... go ahead and register into a swingers dating site. I'm just talking from personal experience. I met one on civvie life, great guy but had a cuckhold fetish and all he did was pressure me into having sex with other guys infront of him. Not my cup of tea so dumped him.We're still friends (sans the benefits) so no drama here, but the swinging style is not for everyone.

Swingers will want to go to swinging clubs and watch you engage having sex with other guys (for free) because that's their thing. If that's your cup of tea too hey ho... go ahead and register into a swingers dating site. I'm just talking from personal experience. I met one on civvie life, great guy but had a cuckhold fetish and all he did was pressure me into having sex with other guys infront of him. Not my cup of tea so dumped him.We're still friends (sans the benefits) so no drama here, but the swinging style is not for everyone.

I met my current partner over 3 years ago on a swinger site, he doest want to go to swinging clubs and watch me “engage having sex with other guys” (he is no longer part of that scene)

I've never had a proper boyfriend.
I have dated pimps and the odd client but was told by a guy years ago that, "You are young, hot and sexy & you are an absolute whore in the bedroom but no man could love you for who you are while you are a cum dump for other men."
It really stuck with me and kinda ruined my buzz for dating.

I would have replied with something in the lines of "You are old and ugly and love to dump your cum in different pussy all the time, no woman is going to love you".

Watch his face.

I've never had a proper boyfriend.
I have dated pimps and the odd client but was told by a guy years ago that, "You are young, hot and sexy & you are an absolute whore in the bedroom but no man could love you for who you are while you are a cum dump for other men."
It really stuck with me and kinda ruined my buzz for dating.

Omfg!! Tbh I find clients more genuine than civvy guys. I hope one day one actually wants to date me. I've had a few offers but never transpired to sn actual date.