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General Category => Blather and Babble => Topic started by: Gypsy on 19 August 2018, 02:07:55 pm
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I signed up to Match.com last night more for a bit of a giggle than anything else, but was horrified when on the first page I see one of my regs! :o
I've been wanting to date for a while now and would prefer to meet someone offline, but it's just not happening, so I feel like a dating site is realistically the only way to meet someone okay-ish. I'm not into nights out drinking and I do have hobbies, but not those where I meet single men.
I work where I live in my home town which again is another problem regarding these dating sites like I found out last night in the first five minutes of signing up.
A couple of friends know what I do, but not family, so being outed has crossed my mind too.
Is this just a really bad idea? I'm reluctant to put a photo up of myself in case anyone else has already seen me and knows it's me. I don't show my face in my adverts, but I feel like by doing this I'm just asking for trouble!
Anyone have any good experiences they'd like to share?
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Hi Gypsy
I’m in the same boat as you, definitely don’t go on Plenty of Fish either!
I had ‘potential clients’ emailing me on AW to tell me someone was using my pics on online dating sites...I thanked them for their vigilance ;)
I met a guy I liked while I was just offering a sensual massage service, his mate then dobbed me in for being on AW and he knew because “he found his ex-girlfriend advertising on AW while they were dating” - yeah right! I suspect he was a previous client of mine, jealous that I hadn’t accepted his advances when he also spotted me on PoF!
But sadly the guy found it too weird that I had previously offered GFE and that I was currently offering sensual massage (no touching of me allowed).
I met my last serious partner as a client (though he was cheating on his partner I soon found out!).
A guy I met on match.com was happy with my former and current professions but he wasn’t after anything serious...so I’m off the dating scene for now. I was tempted to put a note on my AW profile asking for any open minded suitors!
Good luck and remember that rescue cats and dogs are great company, says the mad cat lady!
Xx
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I tried dating sites and found the partners I was looking for were right under my nose.
In the meantime I spotted a few clients on there, and also had my time wasted a lot. One particular person who wasted my time knew about my sex work, and purposely led me on.
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Definitely don't use the same photos...
I've had one weirdo link up my dating profiles on two different sites and then figure out my escorting pseudonym as well. Another one I'm pretty sure put two and two together.
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Definitely don't use the same photos...
I've had one weirdo link up my dating profiles on two different sites and then figure out my escorting pseudonym as well. Another one I'm pretty sure put two and two together.
Ooo, crikey! :o
No, I'm planning to disguise myself as much as possible :D
Ideally, I'd like to get to know someone first and then private message them my photo. I've never been a fan of having my photos being gawped at online, unless of course I'm getting paid ;)
But I don't think there is any site that will allow me to do that. And if there is I doubt it'll work ::)
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I'm not seeking to date myself but why not use a neighbouring location or would you still be discovered?
Just an idea. You can always travel to any new beaux.
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I'm not seeking to date myself but why not use a neighbouring location or would you still be discovered?
Just an idea. You can always travel to any new beaux.
Yeah, I have quite a bit of custom from my neighbouring towns. And I can't drive either, so it would be a hassle.
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Just an update for you all :)
I've not been on a full week yet and already I want to come off it! So far I have discovered my ex boyfriend and a client, but apart from that the men on there seem to fall into two groups - old, pervy men who want to 'chat' and probably looking for a free shag and thirty somethings who are in my age range but are all desperate to marry and have kids and I don't want either!
I think I am coming to a few conclusions ... number one - I love the freedom my single life brings. Two - My heart is in my job, not 'dating.' And three - I still want to live alone if I have a boyfriend who I'll see occasionally.
At the moment I may as well be working if I did meet any man I would feel like I would be working for free. And I'm not on about the sex bit, just spending any time alone with men feels like hassle if I'm not being paid.
Plus, and this is a big plus, I have got capital to protect and have already been through one traumatic breakup where my ex nearly killed me and that was bad enough without having a house with him to sell.
I guess my heart isn't in it like I thought it was.
Plenty of other things bring me joy though, so all isn't lost. I'm happy enough with my friends, cat and dog :)
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I think I am coming to a few conclusions ... number one - I love the freedom my single life brings. Two - My heart is in my job, not 'dating.' And three - I still want to live alone if I have a boyfriend who I'll see occasionally.
At the moment I may as well be working if I did meet any man I would feel like I would working for free. And I'm not on about the sex bit, just spending any time alone with men feels like hassle if I'm not being paid.
So you just want a friend to hang with and occasional civvy sex? Hit the hookup sites and say you're looking for a long-term, non-judgemental, no strings attached FWB. You'll be deluged with enquiries. The bonus part is that guys on those sites don't expect face pics on your profile. Be upfront that you're a sex worker, and that sex won't happen on the first meet. (Make it a lunchtime coffee date so it's an impossibility.)
Your other option would be to promote a client if there are any you really click with.
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So you just want a friend to hang with and occasional civvy sex? Hit the hookup sites and say you're looking for a long-term, non-judgemental, no strings attached FWB. You'll be deluged with enquiries. The bonus part is that guys on those sites don't expect face pics on your profile. Be upfront that you're a sex worker, and that sex won't happen on the first meet. (Make it a lunchtime coffee date so it's an impossibility.)
Your other option would be to promote a client if there are any you really click with.
Great advice. I upgraded a client and it worked well for 3.5 years, until I relocated.
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I use Fabswingers, you can meet guys without the ‘dating’ hassle. Every week I see a guy for sex, food and cuddles. No strings attached fun, but I still get the emotional side and intimacy xxx
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And three - I still want to live alone if I have a boyfriend who I'll see occasionally.
I am like you I love living alone but I do like sleeping being held sometimes but I am lucky I have a partner who has his own place but is more than happy to meet for days and evenings out. We have a nice life together but a nice life apart as well both of us have families that we like to spend time with.
What I am trying to say is maybe it is because you are younger that you attract men who want the full relationship? In time you may meet the right man for you but you need to be clear what you want and feel happy within yourself before this will happen. Once you are happy and relaxed you may well find the type of relationship you want and still be able to be a sex worker.
Enjoy life, have fun and don't let anyone dictate what you should be doing
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Don’t say that you a sex worker. Once you say it, you can’t turn back lol. People are judgemental and you might get some creep who gets off at seeing a hooker. Just say that you are very busy with your work atm and you aren’t looking for anything serious.
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I signed up to Match.com last night more for a bit of a giggle than anything else, but was horrified when on the first page I see one of my regs! :o
I've been wanting to date for a while now and would prefer to meet someone offline, but it's just not happening, so I feel like a dating site is realistically the only way to meet someone okay-ish. I'm not into nights out drinking and I do have hobbies, but not those where I meet single men.
I work where I live in my home town which again is another problem regarding these dating sites like I found out last night in the first five minutes of signing up.
A couple of friends know what I do, but not family, so being outed has crossed my mind too.
Is this just a really bad idea? I'm reluctant to put a photo up of myself in case anyone else has already seen me and knows it's me. I don't show my face in my adverts, but I feel like by doing this I'm just asking for trouble!
Anyone have any good experiences they'd like to share?
Match.com has a strange policy: allows men with sun glasses but want women to show their faces fully. Strange site packed with guys who simply want to sleep with you and ask you with a straight face even after a glass, so I gave it a miss. Not worth it.
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Match.com has a strange policy: allows men with sun glasses but want women to show their faces fully. Strange site packed with guys who simply want to sleep with you and ask you with a straight face even after a glass, so I gave it a miss. Not worth it.
Really? I did not know this. I've seen men wear crash helmets in their profile pictures. What's the point in that then? May as well not bother with a pic at all. Half of them are just down right awful though. What must go on in their heads to think this shows them in a positive light?
I am speaking to someone who seems normal and decent in his photo and in personality. He lives reasonably close-ish, but not in the same town. We haven't spoke about meeting yet. I haven't even spoken to him over the phone. But if it doesn't go anywhere I ain't going to bump in to him all the time :)
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Urgh. Had an email yesterday to say that he's doesn't have any free time until after New Year.
That's okay in my book IF that's genuine. But it's a big if and I just get the feeling he's trying to let me down gently whilst sparing my feelings. I haven't told him about the job - so that's not the reason ::)
I don't want anyone who wants to live in my pocket though, so maybe this is a huge red flag ???
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Well, the first guy seemed nice at first but then came across as severely depressed. And the funniest thing was he said he was after a girl who was fun to be around. He was no where near fun. Good job he ended it after only a week of speaking.
The second man suffers from anxiety. Which is fair enough as so do I, but it's how you deal with it that matters and he doesn't deal with it very well. Way to sell oneself, by the way, disclosing all this in your second email ::)
I have to end all communication with him as it's a chore writing emails.
The plus side of this site, however, is it's entertainment value. It's not supposed to be even mildly humorous, but some of the photos these men put up I have to say that honestly I've seen better police mug shots! And the stuff they say about themselves as well is hilarious. Unintentional hilarity, mind, but hilarious none the less ;D
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'Match.com has a strange policy: allows men with sun glasses but want women to show their faces fully. Strange site packed with guys who simply want to sleep with you and ask you with a straight face even after a glass, so I gave it a miss. Not worth it.'
Talking of which I met a guy recently who seemed nice. The date went okay, not brilliant, but okay.
But he then text me to say he couldn't see me again because 1, My hair was a different colour and style to the one in my photo which he knew BEFORE we met and 2, I used a different username on Match to that of my real name. I told him this when we met.
He was keen to reassure me that this was the ONLY reason he didn't want to see me again. (I didn't tell him about my job, seemed like he had enough to cope with the different hair and the name ::))
Another guy called Ajamdonut has viewed my profile. Yeah, sure, of course that's his real name.
Honestly, I'm laughing as I type. It's so ridiculous!
'She's a fake,
Sure, but she's a real fake,
On the make,
Making up for lost time ...
Just you wait,
Hey, give the girl a break ...
And a fifty dollar bill.'
;D ;D ;D
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'Match.com has a strange policy: allows men with sun glasses but want women to show their faces fully. Strange site packed with guys who simply want to sleep with you and ask you with a straight face even after a glass, so I gave it a miss. Not worth it.'
Talking of which I met a guy recently who seemed nice. The date went okay, not brilliant, but okay.
But he then text me to say he couldn't see me again because 1, My hair was a different colour and style to the one in my photo which he knew BEFORE we met and 2, I used a different username on Match to that of my real name. I told him this when we met.
He was keen to reassure me that this was the ONLY reason he didn't want to see me again. (I didn't tell him about my job, seemed like he had enough to cope with the different hair and the name ::))
Another guy called Ajamdonut has viewed my profile. Yeah, sure, of course that's his real name.
Honestly, I'm laughing as I type. It's so ridiculous!
'She's a fake,
Sure, but she's a real fake,
On the make,
Making up for lost time ...
Just you wait,
Hey, give the girl a break ...
And a fifty dollar bill.'
;D ;D ;D
Might not be a good idea to write his username here.
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Might not be a good idea to write his username here.
I made that username up and it wasn't the same person I met anyway :)
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I joined pof some years ago and went on a date with a guy who clearly wasn't the one in the photo
I stood at Bond street tube looking at this guy who kept looking at me.eventually he asked if I was x .. then said I looked bigger in size , I was on one of my diet weeks so it didn't go down well .I cleared off went home and worked next day at least with clients they don't insult me !
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I joined pof some years ago and went on a date with a guy who clearly wasn't the one in the photo
I stood at Bond street tube looking at this guy who kept looking at me.eventually he asked if I was x .. then said I looked bigger in size , I was on one of my diet weeks so it didn't go down well .I cleared off went home and worked next day at least with clients they don't insult me !
Yeah, they'll use any excuse sometimes won't they?
I think my date's reaction was a bit OTT. He pushed and pushed to meet up before I had chance to tell him anything. Then I was honest about my name straight away on the first meeting. I could have understood his reaction more if it had been the sixth date in when I say - Oh, by the way, my name isn't this ... it's that. But apparently he doesn't have any flaws himself ::)
The real reason ... I think I intimidate men. I'm strong, confident, have done loads for my age and I'm self sufficient. And there are loads of men who find this a turn off. I just wish I could find someone secure.
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The real reason ... I think I intimidate men. I'm strong, confident, have done loads for my age and I'm self sufficient. And there are loads of men who find this a turn off. I just wish I could find someone secure.
I have this problem also. (Although I'm not looking to date anyone so it's not really a problem right now, but you know what I mean.)
My last LTR he even said to me "I don't know what I can do for you, you don't seem to need me for anything!"
I said "Well no I don't NEED anything from you, I'm with you because I like you" ???
My marriage broke down with similar issues. When I met my husband I was very confused, frightened of pretty much everything, very depressed and anxious, very needy emotionally, constantly seeking validation. My husband helped me so much in building up my confidence. But once my confidence was at a certain point, he started feeling insecure because I no longer NEEDED him. It was all downhill from there. During one argument he said "This always happens to me, I get with someone when they're weak and I help them be strong, then as soon as they are, they fuck off!" I said "So maybe you should ask yourself why you're attracted to women you perceive as weak, and threatened by women who are strong."
Anyway back on topic.
I currently have a FWB who is a former client. This works really well for me. We get on as people and he understands that I work and doesn't push me for more than I want to give. It's nice to have unpaid sex once a month or so!
I have considered getting on Tinder or similar but every time I think about the sheer amount of TIME involved in the whole messaging, meeting, checking boundaries, etc before even getting to the sex, I just go "nah".
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Hello!
In a world where now it seems you find relationships & such via app’s, I was wondering what everyone’s thoughts are on using a dating app & being in this line of work? I mean, being recognised by a client, or recognising them, they’d see your real name, what you look like outside of work, etc.. Doesnt seem a great option really, in my opinion.
Although I’m not really “looking” for a relationship, I had decided I was curious to try out a dating app for the first time (first and last, I’d say!)
I think the concept is very shallow and definitely not for me, which I already sort of knew before signing up, but anyway.
I did see a few of my clients on there which prompted me to remove myself immediately and wonder if they’d seen me on it. My real name, my real age, how far away from them I live, just really freaked me out and I actually - stupidly - hadn’t thought about that happening before signing up.
Does anyone here feel comfortable using one of these dating sites knowing that they could be spotted by a client? Has that ever happened? Or, for you, are these sites completely out of the question because of your job?
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I've got old but live profiles on two dating sites (though more of the sexual than hearts and flowers type) and one bloke has contacted me saying he's worked out I'm also an escort. I kept them going in case I was tempted to look for someone after relocating up north, but 18 months I still can't find the time or inclination to do so!
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I've got old but live profiles on two dating sites (though more of the sexual than hearts and flowers type) and one bloke has contacted me saying he's worked out I'm also an escort. I kept them going in case I was tempted to look for someone after relocating up north, but 18 months I still can't find the time or inclination to do so!
My experience 10 years ago is that quite a few punters/clients have dating site profiles. One chatted me up knowing my job, then when I disclosed he told me he had been aware just playing a game.
I did have a couple of dates all of which were informed before we met, in the end I realised partners were right in front of my nose in real life. I didn't need the sites, and yes they took up a lot of time.
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I have had guys say oh I recognise you from aw, you escort. Then try it on. Of course no way they were my type and I ignored them.
Not on those sites now but maybe have extremely old profiles on one or two I have long forgotten login details to.
Never found men who wanted anything other than sex whilst I always wanted a proper romantic relationship so I gave up. It was the same as escorting but for no pay, no point in that. I don't like being used.
I think the only two I did end up dating turned out to be a porn addict with ED so that didnt last long (cuddles n couples stuff but no sex at all....how ironic, we ate instead, no damn good when you want to lose weight) and a guy who wasnt capable of keeping his dick in his pants n cheated, and in fact was a serial cheater even throughout his later marriage, some guys never change. The rest have all been hook ups backs in the days I was happy fucking for a bit of fun and ex punters. Although one relationship that did work well for 6 months was with a guy I met through aw by putting up a blog saying I was after someone to take me swinging that weekend. He responded and was okay and became my boyfriend. We had lots of fun, it was mainly me doing the swinging, he knew I escorted n was fine with it but ultimately I didnt love him and decided I wanted to not have restrictions put on me when we swung (no full sex, only oral), so I ended it. And ironically that ended me swinging too as I could never get to the clubs as I don't drive! I was bored of him though so it didnt matter.
I wish I had had the 'problem' of guys who were looking for serious relationships and marriage.....although not the kids thank you very much. They never wanted more than a fuck for the night or a fuck buddy though worse luck and more to the point the more recent guys frequently catfished me or went quiet when the day of the first meet came around. I never even got to leave my front door and go on a date the last time I tried. Fucking useless and a massive waste of time. I have no idea why men lead women down the garden path and then do that?
I do think punters definitely are on those sites though, in fact I know they are. Why they think they have the right to contact a girl and tell her theyve seen her on aw though pisses me off. I have even been thrown off sites cos they were told I was soliciting....I was looking for a bloody partner, nothing to do with work and that was clear in my profile too. That really angered me. Like I am not allowed to have or want a partner because of my work? Its terrible how some men think.
So I would just be aware of the pitfalls of online dating.
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I don't work in the exact area where I live but of course with dating sites you cast quite a wide net when it comes to radius search. I don't really use dating sites at the moment. I go hot and cold with them and at the moment I'm cold. I have seen a few clients that I have seen on some but I managed to block them quickly, otherwise it was a dead end with what I was looking for.
This job and dating isn't entirely compatible unless you get lucky in my opinion.
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Definitely don't use the same photos...
I've had one weirdo link up my dating profiles on two different sites and then figure out my escorting pseudonym as well. Another one I'm pretty sure put two and two together.
so which site would you post fake photos ?
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Not fake, just don't use the same ones.
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It helps if you keep it as separate and different as possible.
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I had one client keep saying we were friends and trying to get cheaper price.I told him paid arrangement without strings. .A Lot folks forget it's paid arrangement .
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I was messaging someone on a dating site we met up yesterday
Were meant be seeing each other again, got a message said he sent me text on my other number at first thought he got message mixed up with someone else decided Check my other number and he had sent one to me on it , so not exactly so innocent himself, can't say fuckall to me as nobody can stop me working unless they want support me or I think they special to stop , for now gone quiet on me , I don't know why but had a feeling to change my age on profile but guess my area ect not hard work out who I am if someone knows me .
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Years ago I created an account on POF.
Saw profiles on there of a few clients looking for relationships but it put me off as not really interested in the selection of creepy guys messaging me
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I have seen a few punters who already seen me ages back on there looking for women , I had 1 from Manchester message me last year told him trying meet for date said forget it , I actually got a punter again who I saw off another site but think he expected because we both on dating we hook up no chance of that he was so ugly looked like shrek and the vilest tasting mouth due to smoking , and I not seen him since then .
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I was on dating sites years ago, 1 bloke I had to block for trapping me in his car messaged me via my profile, prolific punter and 'reviewer' despite being a fat bastard considers himself in a position to comment on women's bodies.... bullet dodged.
Another bloke I chatted to on dating sites over lockdown but ghosted me messaged via my profile, I told him we chatted via online dating, eventually saw him as a client, bloody lovely chap. Felt very at ease with him.
However, as much as I'd love to date now, there is no way I can put myself on dating sites.
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It seems hard to find someone because I'm sort of reserved and anxious dating also having to lie about my work doesn't help. Then come across lots of people on dating sites that want casual or sex. Or as I'm in my 30's they mighy want kids, marrige etc. That doesn't interest me but i do want a serious relationship and would consider an open one.
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I hear swinging can lead to meeting a man up for accepting our line of work. Why not join a swinging site and take it from there?
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I hear swinging can lead to meeting a man up for accepting our line of work. Why not join a swinging site and take it from there?
Swingers will want to go to swinging clubs and watch you engage having sex with other guys (for free) because that's their thing. If that's your cup of tea too hey ho... go ahead and register into a swingers dating site. I'm just talking from personal experience. I met one on civvie life, great guy but had a cuckhold fetish and all he did was pressure me into having sex with other guys infront of him. Not my cup of tea so dumped him.We're still friends (sans the benefits) so no drama here, but the swinging style is not for everyone.
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Hiya peeps :)
I joined plenty of fish, flirtbox, girls date for free and other dating sites in 2005 they were all different back then met few nice men who were looking for dating and more but to today their not the same I find their all changed, if your looking for swinging how about fabswingers it's an okay site, loads of gents to choose from I know I was on their months ago looking for a duo partner for escorting but have to put that on hold for now due to other work commitments :-[
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Swingers will want to go to swinging clubs and watch you engage having sex with other guys (for free) because that's their thing. If that's your cup of tea too hey ho... go ahead and register into a swingers dating site. I'm just talking from personal experience. I met one on civvie life, great guy but had a cuckhold fetish and all he did was pressure me into having sex with other guys infront of him. Not my cup of tea so dumped him.We're still friends (sans the benefits) so no drama here, but the swinging style is not for everyone.
I met my current partner over 3 years ago on a swinger site, he doest want to go to swinging clubs and watch me “engage having sex with other guys” (he is no longer part of that scene)
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I've never had a proper boyfriend.
I have dated pimps and the odd client but was told by a guy years ago that, "You are young, hot and sexy & you are an absolute whore in the bedroom but no man could love you for who you are while you are a cum dump for other men."
It really stuck with me and kinda ruined my buzz for dating.
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I've never had a proper boyfriend.
I have dated pimps and the odd client but was told by a guy years ago that, "You are young, hot and sexy & you are an absolute whore in the bedroom but no man could love you for who you are while you are a cum dump for other men."
It really stuck with me and kinda ruined my buzz for dating.
I would have replied with something in the lines of "You are old and ugly and love to dump your cum in different pussy all the time, no woman is going to love you".
Watch his face.
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I've never had a proper boyfriend.
I have dated pimps and the odd client but was told by a guy years ago that, "You are young, hot and sexy & you are an absolute whore in the bedroom but no man could love you for who you are while you are a cum dump for other men."
It really stuck with me and kinda ruined my buzz for dating.
What a horrible thing to say. Seems like you're choosing the wrong men.
As for me Ive been to swingers parties and met guys for sex but haven't told them my job. I do have one client who likes to watch me being fucked and don't have a problem with that especially if it's with a hot guy plus getting paid for it.
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I've never had a proper boyfriend.
I have dated pimps and the odd client but was told by a guy years ago that, "You are young, hot and sexy & you are an absolute whore in the bedroom but no man could love you for who you are while you are a cum dump for other men."
It really stuck with me and kinda ruined my buzz for dating.
Omfg!! Tbh I find clients more genuine than civvy guys. I hope one day one actually wants to date me. I've had a few offers but never transpired to sn actual date.
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I met someone on POF had coffee with and never saw again, who much later came to see me as a client, the annoying thing was that he did not recognise me at all (WTF? I am totally memorable yo) I remembered him though.
I don't want to do online dating ever again now.
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I met my husband through escorting........ He booked me for an overnighter & it went from there, still together 11 1/2 years later. He has never asked me to quit escorting (He sees it for what it is, a proper job)
If anything was to happen & I found myself single again, I don't think I could do this & date, I have had too many clients make comments about 'How amazing it must be to date an escort' or 'I would love my gf to be an escort' without realising it's usually nothing like the fantasy they have dreamed up in their head!
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One of my clients has been a dating site guy of mine too. This was quite surreal. I can't believe he didn't recognize me. But he didn't speak one single word about this. He might have been quite shy and uptight.
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I had a guy message me from a dating site yesterday I am still on , I thought he looked nice and I didn't recognise him but i thought he looked familiar, and how I liked the look of him , until a few messages he told me he had seen me years ago through escorting , that ended up to be shortlived and cut the conversation,
With the bad experiences of expunters I had dated I will never see one again , in my experiences none were any good with supporting me moneywise or treated me with anything.
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I met my husband through escorting........ He booked me for an overnighter & it went from there, still together 11 1/2 years later. He has never asked me to quit escorting (He sees it for what it is, a proper job)
If anything was to happen & I found myself single again, I don't think I could do this & date, I have had too many clients make comments about 'How amazing it must be to date an escort' or 'I would love my gf to be an escort' without realising it's usually nothing like the fantasy they have dreamed up in their head!
I mainly meet clients that would never want there GF to be doing this from what they say but i have come across a couple that said it would turn them on knowing they were fucking other men for money. Each to there own i suppose.
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I had a guy message me from a dating site yesterday I am still on , I thought he looked nice and I didn't recognise him but i thought he looked familiar, and how I liked the look of him , until a few messages he told me he had seen me years ago through escorting , that ended up to be shortlived and cut the conversation,
With the bad experiences of expunters I had dated I will never see one again , in my experiences none were any good with supporting me moneywise or treated me with anything.
So many clients are on these dating sites too. I don't like it because some of these men spot a escort on there and then go round telling other clients she is on blah blah under blah blah. Where is the mutual discretion? That is something women need to watch out for.
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English Green
I have noticed a quite a few on there that I have seen not recently but not pleased either , I am trying to get a guy to date seriously not punters off it , and reckon most just after freebies if I be daft to date them who I seen which isn't happening.
Obviously on SD sites it's different but I don't want a punter as a boyfriend having never met one who ever treat me right knowing the work I do , I don't know why they just can't stick on the escort sites instead of trying their luck with escorts on dating sites who may not be offering services.
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Obviously on SD sites it's different but I don't want a punter as a boyfriend having never met one who ever treat me right knowing the work I do , I don't know why they just can't stick on the escort sites instead of trying their luck with escorts on dating sites who may not be offering services.
They probably see it as if you are on a dating site you are 'fair game', you can't possibly charge them if you are actively dating ::) Some men really do give me the ick!
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I’m sure I’ve posted this elsewhere but some years back a guy contacted me, somehow recognising me from AW and sent me a message with the opening line “hi Lola, how’s the prostitution going?” Then blocked me. A few years later he tried to book me, only once I checked his pic on WhatsApp did I realise immediately who he was, needless to say I told him to GTF.
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Rosie13
I don't blame you lol
I had one on tinder a year back message me only one message ' you won't get any punters on here ' I couldn't see his face on the pic or able to reply back as I was a free member I wasn't paying to reply messages off men I wouldn't fancy , it's none of their business but they have to pass comments , the one I mentioned who wanted to date recently were even asking me what I was going to do about working in escorting still ? I said I carry on doing it , he said he liked me yet hadn't seen me more than once and that was 2 years ago , :FF yet trys to say he was hardly a client and I was the only one he saw , yeh right .
Bustybbwsteph
You are right that's how they see it me or anyone else as fair game no charge , I am not giving a punter my pussy free again after the nogood ones I dated .
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So many clients are on these dating sites too. I don't like it because some of these men spot a escort on there and then go round telling other clients she is on blah blah under blah blah. Where is the mutual discretion? That is something women need to watch out for.
Yes I've found this too, spotted clients appearing on dating sites which is the reason I no longer feel comfortable using them and also seen instances of them telling each other about escorts using dating sites implying they should be able to get a freebie.
They can't seem to grasp that we only fuck them because they are paying us and have no interest in them outside of that and would be looking for a guy we are actually attracted to when looking to date.
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Yes I've found this too, spotted clients appearing on dating sites which is the reason I no longer feel comfortable using them and also seen instances of them telling each other about escorts using dating sites implying they should be able to get a freebie.
They can't seem to grasp that we only fuck them because they are paying us and have no interest in them outside of that and would be looking for a guy we are actually attracted to when looking to date.
I know deluded to think they could get a free fuck by contacting her via the dating app when a lot of clients would never be the type you would shag for free.
I do think clients informing other clients that she is on a dating app go look at her face and real name etc is not only poor taste but outing somebody. Would they like us to out them if we had information on them or there linked in profile or there picture somewhere?
A poor woman cannot even escape clients by going on a dating app to meet non clients they are on there outing them. A disgrace.
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I know deluded to think they could get a free fuck by contacting her via the dating app when a lot of clients would never be the type you would shag for free.
I do think clients informing other clients that she is on a dating app go look at her face and real name etc is not only poor taste but outing somebody. Would they like us to out them if we had information on them or there linked in profile or there picture somewhere?
A poor woman cannot even escape clients by going on a dating app to meet non clients they are on there outing them. A disgrace.
Some of the clients I've seen on there I know to be attached too so most likey just after free sex as an option to having to pay us and don't seem to think we should be entitled to a normal private life because of the job we do.
Problem is if you are to have any luck on dating sites you have to post face pics and if clients spot you they can't seem to help themselves but to mention it.
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In my brief experience with dating apps, I have never met any decent men, just fun and sex. Decent in my expectations, I mean. All my partners, except one, who was a client, I met outside of the apps.
I am a very talkative, open and friendly person, so I have never had a problem meeting people anywhere.
If it happened that they didn't like my work, then I didn't want to continue seeing them either, I didn't need anyone to complicate my life, but to complement it.
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I've tried a few dating sites in the past and discovered loads of punters on there. I also found lots of timewasters/ punter type msgs guys just trying to engage in sex chat or one night stands. If you after casual sex then dating site fine but if you looking more for a possible relationship I' d try meeting someone offline. Maybe start joining activities that you like in offline setting so you find someone with common interests.
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Dating app are for gold digging - i said what i said…
Meet men in real life for a real relationship
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I was on bumble.. matched with this guy, thought oh I recognise you. It was a client I've seen 3 or 4 times. I said I was looking for something serious and he proceeded to say but you're a sex worker?!
I think alot of men don't realise we have lives out of work and we are entitled to a private library. X
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It was dating sites that made me try escorting, there is nothing worse that meeting and trying to chat with a man you don’t fancy wondering how long before you can leave politely without causing offence.
Then the ones you like who just want a quick f**k, I enjoyed some and thought why not charge!
Escorting saves the awkward moment when a partner asks if condoms are needed, all clients to date have expected they are mandatory.