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Gypsy

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This Job and Dating Sites.
« on: 19 August 2018, 02:07:55 pm »
I signed up to Match.com last night more for a bit of a giggle than anything else, but was horrified when on the first page I see one of my regs!  :o

I've been wanting to date for a while now and would prefer to meet someone offline, but it's just not happening, so I feel like a dating site is realistically the only way to meet someone okay-ish. I'm not into nights out drinking and I do have hobbies, but not those where I meet single men.

I work where I live in my home town which again is another problem regarding these dating sites like I found out last night in the first five minutes of signing up.

A couple of friends know what I do, but not family, so being outed has crossed my mind too.

Is this just a really bad idea? I'm reluctant to put a photo up of myself in case anyone else has already seen me and knows it's me. I don't show my face in my adverts, but I feel like by doing this I'm just asking for trouble!

Anyone have any good experiences they'd like to share?
« Last Edit: 19 August 2018, 07:21:18 pm by Gypsy »
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« Reply #1 on: 19 August 2018, 03:01:27 pm »
Hi Gypsy

I’m in the same boat as you, definitely don’t go on Plenty of Fish either!
I had ‘potential clients’ emailing me on AW to tell me someone was using my pics on online dating sites...I thanked them for their vigilance  ;)

I met a guy I liked while I was just offering a sensual massage service, his mate then dobbed me in for being on AW and he knew because “he found his ex-girlfriend advertising on AW while they were dating” - yeah right! I suspect he was a previous client of mine, jealous that I hadn’t accepted his advances when he also spotted me on PoF!
But sadly the guy found it too weird that I had previously offered GFE and that I was currently offering sensual massage (no touching of me allowed).

I met my last serious partner as a client (though he was cheating on his partner I soon found out!).

A guy I met on match.com was happy with my former and current professions but he wasn’t after anything serious...so I’m off the dating scene for now. I was tempted to put a note on my AW profile asking for any open minded suitors!

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« Reply #2 on: 19 August 2018, 03:04:04 pm »
I tried dating sites and found the partners I was looking for were right under my nose.

In the meantime I spotted a few clients on there, and also had my time wasted a lot. One particular person who wasted my time knew about my sex work, and purposely led me on.

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« Reply #3 on: 19 August 2018, 06:31:42 pm »
Definitely don't use the same photos...

I've had one weirdo link up my dating profiles on two different sites and then figure out my escorting pseudonym as well. Another one I'm pretty sure put two and two together.
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« Reply #4 on: 19 August 2018, 07:05:20 pm »
Definitely don't use the same photos...

I've had one weirdo link up my dating profiles on two different sites and then figure out my escorting pseudonym as well. Another one I'm pretty sure put two and two together.

Ooo, crikey!  :o

No, I'm planning to disguise myself as much as possible  :D

Ideally, I'd like to get to know someone first and then private message them my photo. I've never been a fan of having my photos being gawped at online, unless of course I'm getting paid  ;)

But I don't think there is any site that will allow me to do that. And if there is I doubt it'll work  ::)

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« Reply #5 on: 20 August 2018, 08:38:02 am »
I'm not seeking to date myself but why not use a neighbouring location or would you still be discovered?

Just an idea.  You can always travel to any new beaux.

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« Reply #6 on: 20 August 2018, 11:56:29 am »
I'm not seeking to date myself but why not use a neighbouring location or would you still be discovered?

Just an idea.  You can always travel to any new beaux.

Yeah, I have quite a bit of custom from my neighbouring towns. And I can't drive either, so it would be a hassle.
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« Reply #7 on: 23 August 2018, 02:00:19 pm »
Just an update for you all  :)

I've not been on a full week yet and already I want to come off it! So far I have discovered my ex boyfriend and a client, but apart from that the men on there seem to fall into two groups - old, pervy men who want to 'chat' and probably looking for a free shag and thirty somethings who are in my age range but are all desperate to marry and have kids and I don't want either!

I think I am coming to a few conclusions ... number one - I love the freedom my single life brings. Two - My heart is in my job, not 'dating.' And three -  I still want to live alone if I have a boyfriend who I'll see occasionally.

At the moment I may as well be working if I did meet any man I would feel like I would be working for free. And I'm not on about the sex bit, just spending any time alone with men feels like hassle if I'm not being paid.

Plus, and this is a big plus, I have got capital to protect and have already been through one traumatic breakup where my ex nearly killed me and that was bad enough without having a house with him to sell.

I guess my heart isn't in it like I thought it was.

Plenty of other things bring me joy though, so all isn't lost. I'm happy enough with my friends, cat and dog  :)
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« Reply #8 on: 23 August 2018, 04:21:09 pm »
I think I am coming to a few conclusions ... number one - I love the freedom my single life brings. Two - My heart is in my job, not 'dating.' And three -  I still want to live alone if I have a boyfriend who I'll see occasionally.

At the moment I may as well be working if I did meet any man I would feel like I would working for free. And I'm not on about the sex bit, just spending any time alone with men feels like hassle if I'm not being paid.

So you just want a friend to hang with and occasional civvy sex? Hit the hookup sites and say you're looking for a long-term, non-judgemental, no strings attached FWB. You'll be deluged with enquiries. The bonus part is that guys on those sites don't expect face pics on your profile. Be upfront that you're a sex worker, and that sex won't happen on the first meet. (Make it a lunchtime coffee date so it's an impossibility.)

Your other option would be to promote a client if there are any you really click with.
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« Reply #9 on: 23 August 2018, 04:56:38 pm »
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« Reply #10 on: 23 August 2018, 06:56:16 pm »
So you just want a friend to hang with and occasional civvy sex? Hit the hookup sites and say you're looking for a long-term, non-judgemental, no strings attached FWB. You'll be deluged with enquiries. The bonus part is that guys on those sites don't expect face pics on your profile. Be upfront that you're a sex worker, and that sex won't happen on the first meet. (Make it a lunchtime coffee date so it's an impossibility.)

Your other option would be to promote a client if there are any you really click with.

Great advice. I upgraded a client and it worked well for 3.5 years, until I relocated.
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« Reply #11 on: 25 August 2018, 01:59:49 pm »
I use Fabswingers, you can meet guys without the ‘dating’ hassle. Every week I see a guy for sex, food and cuddles. No strings attached fun, but I still get the emotional side and intimacy xxx
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« Reply #12 on: 26 August 2018, 07:11:36 pm »
And three -  I still want to live alone if I have a boyfriend who I'll see occasionally.


I am like you I love living alone but I do like sleeping being held sometimes but I am lucky I have a partner who has his own place but is more than happy to meet for days and evenings out. We have a nice life together but a nice life apart as well both of us have families that we like to spend time with.

What I am trying to say is maybe it is because you are younger that you attract men who want the full relationship? In time you may meet the right man for you but you need to be clear what you want and feel happy within yourself before this will happen. Once you are happy and relaxed you may well find the type of relationship you want and still be able to be a sex worker.

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« Reply #13 on: 27 August 2018, 11:56:50 am »
Don’t say that you a sex worker. Once you say it, you can’t turn back lol. People are judgemental and you might get some creep who gets off at seeing a hooker. Just say that you are very busy with your work atm and you aren’t looking for anything serious.

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« Reply #14 on: 30 August 2018, 04:24:06 pm »
I signed up to Match.com last night more for a bit of a giggle than anything else, but was horrified when on the first page I see one of my regs!  :o

I've been wanting to date for a while now and would prefer to meet someone offline, but it's just not happening, so I feel like a dating site is realistically the only way to meet someone okay-ish. I'm not into nights out drinking and I do have hobbies, but not those where I meet single men.

I work where I live in my home town which again is another problem regarding these dating sites like I found out last night in the first five minutes of signing up.

A couple of friends know what I do, but not family, so being outed has crossed my mind too.

Is this just a really bad idea? I'm reluctant to put a photo up of myself in case anyone else has already seen me and knows it's me. I don't show my face in my adverts, but I feel like by doing this I'm just asking for trouble!

Anyone have any good experiences they'd like to share?

Match.com has a strange policy: allows men with sun glasses but want women to show their faces fully.  Strange site packed with guys who simply want to sleep with you and ask you with a straight face even after a glass, so I gave it a miss.  Not worth it.