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LottieLuck

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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #45 on: 29 December 2020, 08:50:05 pm »
Quote from: Alex Oak on 29 December 2020, 06:29:41 pm
Yeah. I'm rubbish at it but I find that when they are on their front the old "penis brushing against them as I do the massage" quickly distracts them enough to turn it into a fuck.

But I really need to go on some massage courses.

I didn't do a course,there are videos on YouTube which are quite helpful. I learned from another lady to incorporate credit card swipes down the bum crack and reach unders :)
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Miffy

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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #46 on: 03 January 2021, 04:53:21 pm »
More a confirmation that pretty much all men think with their cocks.

(Case in point - I added a search bar to my website today and within an hour, there were numerous searches for 'cock', 'cocks' and 'blow job'  ::)



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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #47 on: 03 January 2021, 05:11:29 pm »
I learned:

1. TO SET BOUNDARIES, before this work I never felt good with saying no and doing something for sake of my own comfortability.

2. That most people cheat because they're unable to communicate their sexual needs or they're just simply bored.

3. That I'm way more attracted to older than me men for ex in their 40-50 than guys in my age. And I think they're better in bed. Of course not all of them but I feel like approach to sex is completely different.

4. How to have orgasm during sex, before I was able to cum with masturbation only 😅

5. That all body types are beautiful and all body types are attractive for someone. I completely accepted and embraced my curvy body. I thought I was confident before but now... I'm on top of my life confidence.
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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #48 on: 04 January 2021, 02:30:12 pm »
Quote from: nomadic on 03 January 2021, 05:11:29 pm
2. That most people cheat because they're unable to communicate their sexual needs or they're just simply bored.

Add to that: They're afraid to communicate their needs because they might be judged or rejected, or because their partner has a low libido/children/stressful job and is not paying attention to his/her sexual needs, because engaging in a honest conversation is way too scary and it can lead to "rock the marriage boat" or divorce, because (men specially) would rather be in a bad marriage and cheat than facing divorce and the prospect of ending alone, because ending a marriage is not always possible (young children, financial dependency, mortgage, family pressure or plain greed).

I found out there's way too many reasons why people cheat.
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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #49 on: 27 January 2021, 01:39:26 pm »
The sheer number of men actively seeking paid for sexual services.

I must admit that I have been a little taken aback, not least because most women, particularly married women, are insistent that their partner/boyfriend/ex/whatever would never, and has never paid for sex.
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Missizzy

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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #50 on: 27 January 2021, 04:14:27 pm »
I've learned that I'd genuinely, genuinely rather earn on my back or my knees than do office work. I mean that more wholeheartedly than I can say.
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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #51 on: 27 January 2021, 04:37:16 pm »
I think when it comes to sex and sexual desires, society as a whole is too judgemental and so many people are too embarrassed to express their desires even to their partners.

I think its great we are able to offer certain services to our clients which they may not get at home. One of my regulars says his partner wont even give him a blowjob.

I am quite broad minded but there are some things i don't do.
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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #52 on: 27 January 2021, 04:44:32 pm »
You're right there's definitely a weird combination of salaciousness and prudishness in this society.
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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #53 on: 27 January 2021, 05:02:51 pm »
Quote from: Missizzy on 27 January 2021, 04:14:27 pm
I've learned that I'd genuinely, genuinely rather earn on my back or my knees than do office work. I mean that more wholeheartedly than I can say.

God yes 100%. I had a really good job before entering sex work, was on a good career progression track, worked with some great people, was using my skills and experience to improve productivity and working conditions for my direct reports.

Yet even as irritating as this job can get with time wasters, I would 100% not ever go back to the kind of job where I have to bite my tongue and be diplomatic with dickhead colleagues. And I'm pretty easy-going generally, I'm not hard to get on with. But at least when I get a dickhead punter, I can grit my teeth through the booking in the sure and certain knowledge that a) I've just taken £120 off him so I can put up with his bullshit for an hour, and b) as soon as he's out the door I can just save him as "Boring bastard don't see again". Not something you can do with a colleague, sadly.

If I leave sex work I might go back to the same industry but I'd be contracting. I wouldn't be a salaried employee for anyone else again. I'd rather know that my earnings are directly related to how hard I work and how good at the job I am.
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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #54 on: 27 January 2021, 05:07:42 pm »
Yes I don't think I could cope with an actual boss again. I need to be in charge of my own destiny.
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« Reply #55 on: 27 January 2021, 07:11:24 pm »
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I've learned that I'd genuinely, genuinely rather earn on my back or my knees than do office work. I mean that more wholeheartedly than I can say.

Absolutely, I'll never take sex work for granted again if we ever get back to normal. Some of the customers are annoying and the timewasters make me want to shoot someone but even with the bad bits I'd still rather do this than work 40-60 hours a week in a shit job for shit money.
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« Reply #56 on: 27 January 2021, 07:51:27 pm »
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Absolutely, I'll never take sex work for granted again if we ever get back to normal. Some of the customers are annoying and the timewasters make me want to shoot someone but even with the bad bits I'd still rather do this than work 40-60 hours a week in a shit job for shit money.

Exactly. How can I go back to minimum wage after this?
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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #57 on: 31 January 2021, 08:56:33 am »
Quote from: Jessiegirl on 27 January 2021, 04:37:16 pm
One of my regulars says his partner wont even give him a blowjob.

Only one!

I've had loads tell me that.
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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #58 on: 31 January 2021, 09:26:54 am »
Quote from: VoluptuousCurves on 27 January 2021, 05:02:51 pm
God yes 100%. I had a really good job before entering sex work, was on a good career progression track, worked with some great people, was using my skills and experience to improve productivity and working conditions for my direct reports.

Yet even as irritating as this job can get with time wasters, I would 100% not ever go back to the kind of job where I have to bite my tongue and be diplomatic with dickhead colleagues. And I'm pretty easy-going generally, I'm not hard to get on with. But at least when I get a dickhead punter, I can grit my teeth through the booking in the sure and certain knowledge that a) I've just taken £120 off him so I can put up with his bullshit for an hour, and b) as soon as he's out the door I can just save him as "Boring bastard don't see again". Not something you can do with a colleague, sadly.

If I leave sex work I might go back to the same industry but I'd be contracting. I wouldn't be a salaried employee for anyone else again. I'd rather know that my earnings are directly related to how hard I work and how good at the job I am.

As well as doing this I have a well paid office job. However the job I'm doing now isn't fulfilling and I'm not as good at it as previous office jobs.

I'm so thankful my colleagues and manager are so nice and that counts for more but I think they quietly believe I'm not as good at the job as others in the team (plus I have less to do than everyone else) and I want to quit so much now. They have no idea that I'm actually making four times more than any of them now and I'd love to tell them. I'm reaching a point where I'm not interested in finding another job though and jumping through all the hoops they put you through these days.
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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #59 on: 31 January 2021, 03:52:35 pm »
I just find "normal" work really trying now. I try to be mature about it but it's a struggle.
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