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CelesteManchester

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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #15 on: 04 December 2020, 01:29:46 am »
That it is OKAY to say no. I think that women in general....& super trying not to get on a soap box here ~ are so conditioned to say yes & be nurturers, that we’ve not realized we have to be able to say it. It gets us out of dangerous situations, & not doing things we don’t want to do, & listening to that damned gut instinct of yours ~ it’s rarely wrong.

I just really wish I’d had this knowledge/radar 30 years ago. I’d be in much better shape financially & emotionally, that’s for damn sure.
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Sugarx23

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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #16 on: 04 December 2020, 01:53:19 am »
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That it is OKAY to say no. I think that women in general....& super trying not to get on a soap box here ~ are so conditioned to say yes & be nurturers, that we’ve not realized we have to be able to say it. It gets us out of dangerous situations, & not doing things we don’t want to do, & listening to that damned gut instinct of yours ~ it’s rarely wrong.

Completely this! I have always struggled with the "N" word but it clicked very early on in sex work for me that this is a magical and powerful word and I always am well within my right to say it.  :) Listening to your gut is the most invaluable piece of information I have learned - It never lies!

What I say to myself every time something feels weird is: "If it feels hinky as hell, don't do it. Rather be safe at home in my jimjams and 'lose' someone for acting suspicious, than be in a serious predicament"
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JaneDough

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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #17 on: 06 December 2020, 12:11:41 am »
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BJC

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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #18 on: 06 December 2020, 03:14:56 am »
That a horny man has a real issue with listening to and then following basic directions. The entrance to my apartment building is round the back and hidden from street view so I can't just give them the number, I have to direct them to the door whilst on the phone to them whilst watching them from my window. Dear God it's hard work. Go through the next gate on your left (*walks straight past the next 2 gates then turns right into opposite buildings gate...*)
It's hard to remain discrete whilst shouting "Oi!!! I'm here!!!" From my balcony...
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Braziliana

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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #19 on: 06 December 2020, 03:47:21 pm »
Quote from: JaneDough on 06 December 2020, 12:11:41 am
...that I'd unknowingly been walking around with a goldmine between my legs for most of my life haha
+1000!!
Haha!
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JaneDough

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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #20 on: 06 December 2020, 04:01:43 pm »
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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #21 on: 06 December 2020, 07:14:14 pm »
Quote from: JaneDough on 06 December 2020, 04:01:43 pm
Oh and also! I learned that when a guy/punter uses the word "genuine", it's a pretty good indicator that he is the exact opposite of the word lol
Especially when they insist on telling you what a 'nice' guy they are  ::)
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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #22 on: 06 December 2020, 07:20:00 pm »
Quote from: JaneDough on 06 December 2020, 04:01:43 pm
Oh and also! I learned that when a guy/punter uses the word "genuine", it's a pretty good indicator that he is the exact opposite of the word lol

Some idiot who I got a bad feeling about and told him I couldn’t see, insisted he was genuine, then texted some long winded text, actually signing himself MR GENUINE

What a dick.

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Jackiela

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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #23 on: 07 December 2020, 12:08:54 pm »
Even the posh once who are very well spoken can still be timewasters
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candidrose

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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #24 on: 07 December 2020, 12:34:22 pm »
some things I have learnt, that maybe haven't already been said:

1/. I will never, probably ever, be able to trust a man. I have met some really nice genuine guys (most married or in a relationship) and it just makes me think, how easy it would be for my boyfriend to see an escort behind my back, and i could be none the wiser.
2/. I am massive hypocrite in the sense that, while I would continue to escort in a relationship I would feel really hurt if my partner saw an escort (for me this is a job and income not an emotional sex thing)
3/. Most men will cum in under 5 mins. especially the ones who give it the big one about 'multiple cums during the booking'. (Book one hour, pop in 5, out in 15!)
4/. Men are ignorant pisstakers!
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PleasureSales

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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #25 on: 07 December 2020, 05:20:30 pm »
Quote from: candidrose on 07 December 2020, 12:34:22 pm
some things I have learnt, that maybe haven't already been said:

1/. I will never, probably ever, be able to trust a man. I have met some really nice genuine guys (most married or in a relationship) and it just makes me think, how easy it would be for my boyfriend to see an escort behind my back, and i could be none the wiser.
2/. I am massive hypocrite in the sense that, while I would continue to escort in a relationship I would feel really hurt if my partner saw an escort (for me this is a job and income not an emotional sex thing)
3/. Most men will cum in under 5 mins. especially the ones who give it the big one about 'multiple cums during the booking'. (Book one hour, pop in 5, out in 15!)
4/. Men are ignorant pisstakers!
One issue with escorting is that you are dependent on the pool of men who hire escorts....

My solution has always been to attract the highest quality clients I can, and ensure they can't resist returning to me until they are dependable regulars.
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JaneDough

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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #26 on: 07 December 2020, 06:40:36 pm »
Quote from: Gina G on 06 December 2020, 07:14:14 pm
Especially when they insist on telling you what a 'nice' guy they are  ::)
Exactly! Nice people don't have to convince others that they are nice lol
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JaneDough

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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #27 on: 07 December 2020, 06:43:34 pm »
Quote from: TheLastTime on 06 December 2020, 07:20:00 pm
Some idiot who I got a bad feeling about and told him I couldn’t see, insisted he was genuine, then texted some long winded text, actually signing himself MR GENUINE

What a dick.

Hahaaa! I'm sure he would have been an absolute ball of sunshine lol what a tosspot
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BJC

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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #28 on: 22 December 2020, 01:49:12 am »
I might be alone in this but almost every man who has messaged me and signed off as "Jay/J" turns out to be a Timewaster. Whenever I see or hear that name my heart sinks...
Obviously every Jay can't be a time wasting idiot but for some strange reason every Jay that contacts me turns out to be a proper plonker!
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Zandie

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Re: Things you have learned through sex work
« Reply #29 on: 22 December 2020, 02:21:37 am »
Quote from: BJC on 22 December 2020, 01:49:12 am
I might be alone in this but almost every man who has messaged me and signed off as "Jay/J" turns out to be a Timewaster. Whenever I see or hear that name my heart sinks...
Obviously every Jay can't be a time wasting idiot but for some strange reason every Jay that contacts me turns out to be a proper plonker!


HAAHAHAHAHAHA! ;D ;D Tell me about it , ive got 12 Jays blocked on my phone :FF :FF, but one that is a regular and nice( maybe he isnt really a true Jay after all )
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