I know this is because the client is nervous, I did have an overnight with him many years ago absolutely fine. After quite a gap he has visited me twice recently, both times he just doesn't want physical contact, won't let me kiss him, sits at the end of the sofa talking about other things he is into. He won't let me near him, then when we go to the bedroom he doesn't respond. He asked to try tie and tease this time, but it was incredibly difficult to do this in a sensual way. No kissing, caressing, just his clothes off on the bed. Didn't want to wear a blindfold (fair enough I know some people are anxious about this), then started talking about non-sexy stuff - events he has attended his other interests just as I was trying to get into the rhythm. For me t&t is about mood, pacing, rhythm. I tried my best to not engage in the off-topic talk and get into what I was doing, no response and he carried on talking about non-erotic things.
I am very confused, I am also very experienced just wish he could make up his mind. I think this is bothering me more than it should because I have had quite a few difficult things happening - not least a previous client who is local (quite rural area) who once again called me loudly by my working name in the street. I have asked him not to do this several times, he actually called me paranoid last time. Today I just walked away. There's also a repeat booker who has been taking the P with booking comms, really messing me around - I have been far too understanding and patient he has fabulous feedback on his AW and is one of those 'friendly gentleman' punters. He has also pushed boundaries in other ways, only slightly but combined with everything else he does it's too much. Also a few understandable cancellations that I have rescheduled gone out of my way to rearrange to then feel as if the client doesn't realise this. I am low volume so feels as if I am getting it from all angles at the moment. Do have a nice regular booked in tomorrow, fingers crossed.