Author Topic: The two negatives of some regulars (Read 4310 times)

AnnDel · « **on:** 02 January 2022, 02:41:16 pm »

I love most my regulars. But over time I find with small number there is always one of two problem that come. One very easy to identify but still annoy the other not easy to identify.

First: The one who tries to start change the service and situation… after months or year, they know what the service and way of working is. It obviously was good for them before because they become regular, but after time they start wanting to change service. First it feels like betrayal, maybe this was always what they want, but not big problem because easy to identify as soon as they start asking for things never done before or start demanding change to service. Sometime it even silly thing like want be given 80 minute for 1 hour booking etc.

Second, harder to identify. The type who start resent paying you money or not realise they only a small % of your income. This type hard to identify and maybe more dangerous. Normally only signs are things they say but can also be joke or not meant serious. Eg “I pay you xxxxx in 5 months” or if they see you buy new jewelry or go holiday “I paid for that”

Thankfully in my regulars this not common but whenever problem occur over the years usually one of these two things.

Is this something others experience and what tips you have with dealing with it or identifying before becomes a problem ?

Jessiegirl · « **Reply #1 on:** 02 January 2022, 04:10:18 pm »

I have some regulars where you give them an inch they take a mile. Also sometimes I'm not strict enough and let my guard down.

Asking me for photos and videos, social texting, wanting to have the session in my actual bed I sleep in even though I have separate room for working, staying longer than the booking time until I remind them of the time, asking really personal questions about my private sex life, asking me if I fancy doing something not on my likes list, wanting to be friends on social media.

Femme fatale · « **Reply #2 on:** 03 January 2022, 01:24:30 pm »

The trouble with some of these men is over familiarity .pushing your professional/ personal boundaries.
Thinking they are entitled to ask for more time pay less or pay less in general (%discounts)
I used to do dinner dates way back at the start of escorting and the personal encounters after but.. guess what they didnt want to pay out and wanted to negotiate themselves a cheaper rate just because they had taken me for a meal. This is the reason I stopped meets with dinner dates.

Ie oh come on we have had a lovely dinner and getting on great I've got to pay out more but we are just have some fun I'll be quick

Left me feeling quite pissed off
Regulars some became timewasters and when we are loosing out financially it's a big no..

AnnDel · « **Reply #3 on:** 04 January 2022, 08:14:05 am »

Quote from: Kiss on 03 January 2022, 01:24:30 pm

The trouble with some of these men is over familiarity .pushing your professional/ personal boundaries.
Thinking they are entitled to ask for more time pay less or pay less in general (%discounts)
I used to do dinner dates way back at the start of escorting and the personal encounters after but.. guess what they didnt want to pay out and wanted to negotiate themselves a cheaper rate just because they had taken me for a meal. This is the reason I stopped meets with dinner dates.

Ie oh come on we have had a lovely dinner and getting on great I've got to pay out more but we are just have some fun I'll be quick
Left me feeling quite pissed off
Regulars some became timewasters and when we are loosing out financially it's a big no..

Yes the focus for their own money make them look both stupid and egoist. Stupid because they decide come to us , egoist because they not know other money we get or payout we make.

I had one he book 1 hour every week, one time I refuse 5 hour booking because already accept booking with him. He come and start complain about taxi fee and he should get discount because he regular or I should give 90 minute for price 1 hour becos he come every week. So I show him text where I refuse 5 hour booking for same time he start.

PinkR2021 · « **Reply #4 on:** 05 January 2022, 09:38:22 am »

I’m finding they are not treating the act of booking seriously. I’ve just had one regular cancel for the third time. I’ve explained that when he cancels I’ve turned down other bookings but it’s not sinking in. I told him I’m no longer taking his bookings. All got back was “ok.”
It’s infuriating but I’m getting stricter and not feeling bad about it.

Jessiegirl · « **Reply #5 on:** 05 January 2022, 03:56:57 pm »

I think good riddance then, he doesn't sound that bothered. I'm lucky I have some great regulars even if slightly annoying at times out of bookings. I know some would be devastated if I told them I'm not taking their bookings anymore.

In fact I did do this to one who overstepped the mark and he was genuinely devastated about it. He kept texting me and said some of the most beautiful things I eventually took him back and he's been great since probably even better.

Milf-G · « **Reply #6 on:** 07 January 2022, 01:21:22 pm »

I've got rid of a load of regulars recently for continually pushing boundaries. One text the other day saying 'now that you have moved house can we have some fun in your front window?'. He has previously asked for dogging, car meets etc something I will never do. So after that text I politely told him that our relationship has come to an end. I work from home and have another business I run from home too. Why should my discretion be any less important just because I've moved house!! Had loads of others recently taking the piss too so sacked them off.

AnnDel · « **Reply #7 on:** 09 January 2022, 02:15:06 pm »

Quote from: PinkR2021 on 05 January 2022, 09:38:22 am

I’m finding they are not treating the act of booking seriously. I’ve just had one regular cancel for the third time. I’ve explained that when he cancels I’ve turned down other bookings but it’s not sinking in. I told him I’m no longer taking his bookings. All got back was “ok.”
It’s infuriating but I’m getting stricter and not feeling bad about it.

This no respect for booking is very annoying. If they do same with other thing in life they get no where.

I have “ok” reply before, but sometime they try after few week/month and become sad many texts/calls beg to accept.

PinkR2021 · « **Reply #8 on:** 15 January 2022, 09:26:57 pm »

Quote from: AnnDel on 09 January 2022, 02:15:06 pm

This no respect for booking is very annoying. If they do same with other thing in life they get no where.

I have “ok” reply before, but sometime they try after few week/month and become sad many texts/calls beg to accept.

What gets me the most is that this man runs several businesses and is always moaning when someone lets him down or wastes his time. But it seems okay to waste mine. These blokes just don’t respect that this is a job too.

Tickle · « **Reply #9 on:** 16 January 2022, 08:23:26 am »

Quote from: PinkR2021 on 15 January 2022, 09:26:57 pm

What gets me the most is that this man runs several businesses and is always moaning when someone lets him down or wastes his time. But it seems okay to waste mine. These blokes just don’t respect that this is a job too.

I came across this attitude this week in the chatroom of a site I advertise on.

I'm developing my own confidence and relying less on external forms of approval and cutting my losses quicker on problematic men. I'm getting better personally and professionally and a lot of that is more for me than them. I'm not at all interested in internalising the thuggish cesspit in some men's minds.

saltysweet · « **Reply #10 on:** 17 January 2022, 03:04:37 am »

Quote from: PinkR2021 on 05 January 2022, 09:38:22 am

I’m finding they are not treating the act of booking seriously. I’ve just had one regular cancel for the third time. I’ve explained that when he cancels I’ve turned down other bookings but it’s not sinking in. I told him I’m no longer taking his bookings. All got back was “ok.”
It’s infuriating but I’m getting stricter and not feeling bad about it.

I banned a regular he pleaded with me for 6 months so I charged him double for the hour the next time I saw him and stipulated he must buy me some things. He paid, gifts were brought. It works. If you act like a doormat they will treat you like an old dog rug....because familiarity breeds contempt in some cases.

PinkR2021 · « **Reply #11 on:** 19 January 2022, 02:01:10 pm »

Quote from: saltysweet on 17 January 2022, 03:04:37 am

familiarity breeds contempt in some cases.

I’m starting to notice this. Some clients seem to think the fact they’ve spent some time with you means they can ignore the rules.

. I’m getting firmer and have had a good result with a new client.
He said he’d be nearly half and hour late so I said I wouldn’t see him. He changed his plans and got here on time. He also apologised and actually said “ I run a business too and I’d be annoyed if someone Was late to meet me.”. On his second meeting he was 15 minutes early ( I told him to wait as I wasn’t ready).

Putting your foot down works as does setting boundaries from even before the meeting.

EnglishAmy40 · « **Reply #12 on:** 21 January 2022, 07:32:42 am »

Omg this is why I order my men not to visit me too often. As lovely as most of them are, the service gets boring for them. I get recommendations from punters of sex workers in my area and tell them to change it up a bit. I know when they are starting to get bored because when they call me and make a booking, they hover on the phone dying to ask me for something different. At that point I start to ignore their calls for a month.

I don't get the 2nd thing though.

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