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MissBetty

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« Reply #210 on: 01 March 2024, 09:17:50 am »
I never really had a feeling about it either way as I not out to friends and family and I don't mix personally or professionally with any other sex workers.  My accountant iand HMRC are the only ones who know.

However.  I totally spat my dummy out after having a police check for a new civvy job and in other information section.  Came up as "known prostitute ".  Yes this funked me right off.  I felt it was used as a warning to protect others from me.  I not a criminal.  I don't do anything illegal but yet the police feel the need to give that out.  Yes its a derogatory term to me when used in certain circumstances.

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« Reply #211 on: 01 March 2024, 09:59:51 am »
I never really had a feeling about it either way as I not out to friends and family and I don't mix personally or professionally with any other sex workers.  My accountant iand HMRC are the only ones who know.

However.  I totally spat my dummy out after having a police check for a new civvy job and in other information section.  Came up as "known prostitute ".  Yes this funked me right off.  I felt it was used as a warning to protect others from me.  I not a criminal.  I don't do anything illegal but yet the police feel the need to give that out.  Yes its a derogatory term to me when used in certain circumstances.

"Known prostitute?" versus just ...."prostitute"? That's the government in an attempt to slut shame women for something that is perfectly legal. On the other hand how did the government got to find out you were a "known prostitute"? Unless of course you had a problem with a client and police were involved.
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MissBetty

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« Reply #212 on: 01 March 2024, 10:02:50 am »
I had a serious stalker that I had to get police involved.   I was the victim of a crime. I wasn't the criminal yet they added that info. 

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« Reply #213 on: 01 March 2024, 10:13:41 am »
I had a serious stalker that I had to get police involved.   I was the victim of a crime. I wasn't the criminal yet they added that info.

Thank you, and that's why I don't involve police whenever I have a problem with a client, because it will be used against me.
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« Reply #214 on: 01 March 2024, 11:50:51 am »
A client years ago informed me that being a prostitute was very much illegal but escorting wasn't.

Ok then. (this was during a booking and I wasn't going to have a debate on it) There are still people believing what we do is breaking the law. 😕

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« Reply #215 on: 01 March 2024, 11:57:21 am »
A client years ago informed me that being a prostitute was very much illegal but escorting wasn't.

I've had that bsfore as well. I was amazed 🤣

However.  I totally spat my dummy out after having a police check for a new civvy job and in other information section.  Came up as "known prostitute ".  Yes this funked me right off.  I felt it was used as a warning to protect others from me.  I not a criminal.  I don't do anything illegal but yet the police feel the need to give that out.  Yes its a derogatory term to me when used in certain circumstances.

Surely that's the act rather than the word itself, though. Would it be any different if it had said sex worker or 'escort'?

MissBetty

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« Reply #216 on: 01 March 2024, 03:41:03 pm »
I felt the police had no reason to add my profession whatever they want to call it.  Would they have done that if I was a plumber!  No they wouldn't  but the police in my experience always assume that sex work is linked to criminal activity/drugs.

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« Reply #217 on: 02 March 2024, 10:35:51 am »
I never really had a feeling about it either way as I not out to friends and family and I don't mix personally or professionally with any other sex workers.  My accountant iand HMRC are the only ones who know.

However.  I totally spat my dummy out after having a police check for a new civvy job and in other information section.  Came up as "known prostitute ".  Yes this funked me right off.  I felt it was used as a warning to protect others from me.  I not a criminal.  I don't do anything illegal but yet the police feel the need to give that out.  Yes its a derogatory term to me when used in certain circumstances.

The police put "Independent Escort" in the "Last known occupation" section of my DBS check for a course and voluntary work with vulnerable people.

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« Reply #218 on: 02 March 2024, 07:30:23 pm »
I felt the police had no reason to add my profession whatever they want to call it.  Would they have done that if I was a plumber!  No they wouldn't  but the police in my experience always assume that sex work is linked to criminal activity/drugs.

I'd think you have legal grounds to have that removed MB?

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« Reply #219 on: 02 March 2024, 10:45:29 pm »
The police put "Independent Escort" in the "Last known occupation" section of my DBS check for a course and voluntary work with vulnerable people.

Hi Mirror. Is your job down on the DBS certificate because it's on your tax return, or because you've had dealings with them in any way do you know?

MissBetty

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« Reply #220 on: 03 March 2024, 07:49:56 am »
I'd think you have legal grounds to have that removed MB?

I tried complaining about it.  Apparently it will remain it will not be removed.

Karena

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« Reply #221 on: 04 March 2024, 09:03:45 am »
I had something similar a while ago but got it removed on legal grounds.

As for the word "prostitute", I don't have a problem with it because that is what I am.

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« Reply #222 on: 04 March 2024, 10:40:37 am »
Karena

This is just a question to you and anyone it may apply to,  If you are asked what you do (as in for a living/job) by anyone you may meet in any situation, do you say it "I am a prostitute"

I never have even though it's what I am.

Karena

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« Reply #223 on: 04 March 2024, 11:18:42 am »
Justine,

No I don't. But if, say, anyone who knows what I do calls me a prostitute then I don't mind. I am not offended by the word. And if anyone asked me what I did for a living, not only would I not say I'm a prostitute, I also wouldn't say I'm a courtesan/sex worker etc.  ::)

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« Reply #224 on: 05 March 2024, 11:55:48 am »
I haven't read the rest of the thread in detail (yet).

In  my case, the word, "whore!!!" was used but
a man, who used it was later reprimanded.
 There are some pathetic idiots.