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Falling for a client and confused about what to do!
« on: 03 January 2012, 08:04:25 pm »
Hi all just got a question. Its not really escort related. There?s this client I?ve seen 3 times now and we really do click. He`s a surgeon, sweet, charming etc and i really enjoy spending time with him. Only problem is I think I may be falling for him.

He booked me as an escort twice and we REALLY clicked, decided to meet him again (without charging as i really wanted to see him), but i am now starting to develop feelings for him. I know nothing?s going to happen as he has a girlfriend, but part of me can?t help wanting more. I`ve told him this that `i`m getting emotionally attach and that it makes things more complicated`. I NEVER see clients outside of work and don?t mix business and pleasure but this has taken me by a surprise. I?ve been escorting for a year now and things has generally been good. Its usually quite straigt forward men pay for a service and i provide it. But this has really taken me by a surprise,  I?ve never felt like this for ANY OTHER CLIENTS. I`m confused as to what to do, i REALLY do like this guy.

So my question is this; should I continue seeing him as a friend, and just see if i can detach myself emotionally or should i end things before it gets more complicated. I am soo confused as what to do.
« Last Edit: 03 January 2012, 10:31:49 pm by S.J »
Hey! my name is Sara and I am an independent Ebony escort from Oslo, Norway. I've been escorting for almost four years, 2 years in uk and now 2 years in norway. It has gone fairly well.

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Re: Falling for a client and confused about what to do!
« Reply #1 on: 03 January 2012, 08:17:51 pm »
You say nothings going to happen because he already has a girlfriend... You've therefore answered your own question. If you see him, it should be for business purposes only. If you cant switch off your feelings for him, then cut him off.
He has a girlfriend and he's seeing an escort. That should be enough to put you off. Who is to say that if he dumped his girlfriend for you, then he wouldnt still call out an escort...? Maybe thats his thing. And you havent mentioned anything about him having feelings for you...
Just forget about him and move on to your other clients!

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Re: Falling for a client and confused about what to do!
« Reply #2 on: 03 January 2012, 08:25:26 pm »
Who you have sex with is up to you and if you get enough out of sleeping with him without the added cash element, hooray. He's not likely to turn you down, given he wanted you enough to pay you.

Is it going to go anywhere, except with you sobbing into a pillow when it ends? Probably not, given the girlfriend, but I suspect you know this already.
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Re: Falling for a client and confused about what to do!
« Reply #3 on: 03 January 2012, 08:28:37 pm »
So you met him with out charge even though he has a girlfriend? i would walk away before you get hurt!
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Re: Falling for a client and confused about what to do!
« Reply #4 on: 03 January 2012, 09:09:33 pm »
Hi all just got a question. Its not really escort related. There?s this client I?ve seen 3 times now
Only problem is I think I may be falling for him.
He booked me as an escort twice and we REALLY clicked, decided to meet him again (without charging as i really wanted to see him), but i am now starting to develop feelings for him.
The Guild take a very dim view of this sort of thing.
You risk having your 'Registered Companion' Trading License revoked, permanently.
After all Home fucking is killing prostitution.
(http://farm1.staticflickr.com/39/217767179_b9389ea847.jpg)
Oops sorry, wrong campaign.  ::)


It's your body and mind.
Almost certainly nothing more than an occasional free shag for him
and emotional hurt to you. I've been in the same place a long time ago.
(I was single)  I knew it would go nowhere other than an occasional thing.
On this I was right. I still see him occasionally, as a civilian.
Thing is, my head was in the right space for that, from the start. 
I don't think yours is and I think you will invest emotionally
and get hurt.

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Re: Falling for a client and confused about what to do!
« Reply #5 on: 03 January 2012, 09:10:31 pm »
Thanks guys for the advice.
Hey! my name is Sara and I am an independent Ebony escort from Oslo, Norway. I've been escorting for almost four years, 2 years in uk and now 2 years in norway. It has gone fairly well.

I`m not new to saafe, I've been lurking for ages, if u want to say hi feel free to send a message

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Re: Falling for a client and confused about what to do!
« Reply #6 on: 03 January 2012, 09:13:54 pm »
The Guild take a very dim view of this sort of thing.
You risk having your 'Registered Companion' Trading License revoked, permanently.
After all Home fucking is killing prostitution.
(http://farm1.staticflickr.com/39/217767179_b9389ea847.jpg)
Oops sorry, wrong campaign.  ::)


Lool this made me laugh, but yeah. i was just taken by a surprise, and he is such a smooth talker.

I will save myself from getting hurt and end things now.
« Last Edit: 03 January 2012, 09:17:15 pm by S.J »
Hey! my name is Sara and I am an independent Ebony escort from Oslo, Norway. I've been escorting for almost four years, 2 years in uk and now 2 years in norway. It has gone fairly well.

I`m not new to saafe, I've been lurking for ages, if u want to say hi feel free to send a message

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Re: Falling for a client and confused about what to do!
« Reply #7 on: 03 January 2012, 10:09:39 pm »
Please be careful darling. I've been in a similar position myself, and it never ends well.  :-\

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Re: Falling for a client and confused about what to do!
« Reply #8 on: 03 January 2012, 10:27:31 pm »
Please be careful darling. I've been in a similar position myself, and it never ends well.  :-\

Thats what am afraid off, thanks. When did things become sooo complicated. anyway, noo more Freebies  :(
Hey! my name is Sara and I am an independent Ebony escort from Oslo, Norway. I've been escorting for almost four years, 2 years in uk and now 2 years in norway. It has gone fairly well.

I`m not new to saafe, I've been lurking for ages, if u want to say hi feel free to send a message