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katrina

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Sorry to be cynical but after several similar experiences when clients say 'I love you'  I translate it into 'I really like spending time with you and having great sex with you but I really don't want to pay any more, so because you're such a nice person I'll play on your feelings in the hope that you will fall in love with me then I'll be able to see you for free'.

Very true for some guys yes; but in my particular case, there was no mention of the money being an issue (or he'd have been out the door before he had chance to blink). It was more the suffocation by emotion that really pissed me off and weighed me down - it was exhausting  ::)


Oh yes, that type are even worse, its so draining, like an emotional vacuum sucking the life out of you! I've had them wanting to be 'my baby', my lover, others have wanted to be my 'rock' , my best friend and the latest wants to be 'owned' by me. I like the ones who just book some time, pay, have a good time and go, I can't be doing with being an emotional dustbin for these types, brain drain isn't worth the money.

Indeed  ;D I've no idea why some guys see themselves as a saviour - a saviour of what exactly I don't know... another of mine who I stopped seeing weeks ago because of the emotional suckage wanting me to call him 'sugar daddy' and only see him. I could have acted all that out, but playing with his hideously long nips for 2 hours just gave me dead arms... he couldn't get hard for one reason or another (medical). I'd rather he had though as it would have been less taxing than two hours of pensioner nipple mauling  :o

2 hours of 'pensioner nipple mauling' creased me up,  sounds horrific though lol!! Seriously do they really think that's what a real girlfriend would do!?? I would prefer 2 hours of full on sex too!


The 'saviour' yes some seem to think because we choose to do this job we must be 'victims' who need saving...If I won the lottery yes course I'd give up work, just as I would any other job but I certainly don't need 'saving'. 

Lois01827

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Sorry to be cynical but after several similar experiences when clients say 'I love you'  I translate it into 'I really like spending time with you and having great sex with you but I really don't want to pay any more, so because you're such a nice person I'll play on your feelings in the hope that you will fall in love with me then I'll be able to see you for free'.

Very true for some guys yes; but in my particular case, there was no mention of the money being an issue (or he'd have been out the door before he had chance to blink). It was more the suffocation by emotion that really pissed me off and weighed me down - it was exhausting  ::)


Oh yes, that type are even worse, its so draining, like an emotional vacuum sucking the life out of you! I've had them wanting to be 'my baby', my lover, others have wanted to be my 'rock' , my best friend and the latest wants to be 'owned' by me. I like the ones who just book some time, pay, have a good time and go, I can't be doing with being an emotional dustbin for these types, brain drain isn't worth the money.

Indeed  ;D I've no idea why some guys see themselves as a saviour - a saviour of what exactly I don't know... another of mine who I stopped seeing weeks ago because of the emotional suckage wanting me to call him 'sugar daddy' and only see him. I could have acted all that out, but playing with his hideously long nips for 2 hours just gave me dead arms... he couldn't get hard for one reason or another (medical). I'd rather he had though as it would have been less taxing than two hours of pensioner nipple mauling  :o

2 hours of 'pensioner nipple mauling' creased me up,  sounds horrific though lol!! Seriously do they really think that's what a real girlfriend would do!?? I would prefer 2 hours of full on sex too!


The 'saviour' yes some seem to think because we choose to do this job we must be 'victims' who need saving...If I won the lottery yes course I'd give up work, just as I would any other job but I certainly don't need 'saving'.

You ain't lived until you've nip mauled until you've dead arms ha  ;D

Do you know what, I'm not sure if I would give escorting if I won the lottery - mind you, I don't buy a ticket so that's never going to happen, so that was a completely pointless statement I made there....ahem  ::)

Slightly gone off point here - whoops  ;D


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I buy 2 lucky dips twice a week :-))))


Anyway back on topic re not wanting to lose good paying clients but not wanting the headache that goes with it when they take a wee bit more than a shine to you. When one door closes another one opens...;-)

Lois01827

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I buy 2 lucky dips twice a week :-))))


Anyway back on topic re not wanting to lose good paying clients but not wanting the headache that goes with it when they take a wee bit more than a shine to you. When one door closes another one opens...;-)

Don't you think we have enough un(lucky dips)  :o haaaaaaaaaaa

Yes, I'm guessing a lot of guys are going to get emotionally attached if they're regulars; at least to some extent anyways. It's horses for courses I reckon. I've had 2 very young guys get attached (18 and 19 - I'm early 40s) and 2 older guys (one late 50s, who dropped the L bomb and one late 60s, who has booked for Thursday and Saturday this week). It's getting easier picking up the warning signs, but I'm still only 3 months in.
Wonder what Santa will bring me  :D

Hadley

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Sorry to sound like I'm revelling in the misfortunes of others  ;D but it does make me feel better to know that there's others in the same boat!
I can imagine, what Hadley said about this guy not really knowing her is typical. Clients must think we are always shaved, buffed, made up and horny. Perhaps invite him over to lounge about eating and watching tv in your pjs and tell him you've got a headache when he wants a fuck, that might change his mind!

You're so right Nia, let's see how much he loves me when he sees me sitting in bed watching X factor in my pyjamas, scratching my arse and eating Ben and Jerrys.

Methinks his ardour might melt away at that point   ;D

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Lois01827

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Sorry to sound like I'm revelling in the misfortunes of others  ;D but it does make me feel better to know that there's others in the same boat!
I can imagine, what Hadley said about this guy not really knowing her is typical. Clients must think we are always shaved, buffed, made up and horny. Perhaps invite him over to lounge about eating and watching tv in your pjs and tell him you've got a headache when he wants a fuck, that might change his mind!

You're so right Nia, let's see how much he loves me when he sees me sitting in bed watching X factor in my pyjamas, scratching my arse and eating Ben and Jerrys.

Methinks his ardour might melt away at that point   ;D

xx

That's the difference between reality and fantasy in their eyes - they assume we don't do any of the 'normal' stuff and we look gorgeous everyday. I don't think they'd be so adoring toward us if they perceived us as the normal gals we are (actresses aside); but I suppose that's part of the fantasy x

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Sorry to be cynical but after several similar experiences when clients say 'I love you'  I translate it into 'I really like spending time with you and having great sex with you but I really don't want to pay any more, so because you're such a nice person I'll play on your feelings in the hope that you will fall in love with me then I'll be able to see you for free'.

Very true for some guys yes; but in my particular case, there was no mention of the money being an issue (or he'd have been out the door before he had chance to blink). It was more the suffocation by emotion that really pissed me off and weighed me down - it was exhausting  ::)


Oh yes, that type are even worse, its so draining, like an emotional vacuum sucking the life out of you! I've had them wanting to be 'my baby', my lover, others have wanted to be my 'rock' , my best friend and the latest wants to be 'owned' by me. I like the ones who just book some time, pay, have a good time and go, I can't be doing with being an emotional dustbin for these types, brain drain isn't worth the money.

Indeed  ;D I've no idea why some guys see themselves as a saviour - a saviour of what exactly I don't know... another of mine who I stopped seeing weeks ago because of the emotional suckage wanting me to call him 'sugar daddy' and only see him. I could have acted all that out, but playing with his hideously long nips for 2 hours just gave me dead arms... he couldn't get hard for one reason or another (medical). I'd rather he had though as it would have been less taxing than two hours of pensioner nipple mauling  :o

2 hours of 'pensioner nipple mauling' creased me up,  sounds horrific though lol!! Seriously do they really think that's what a real girlfriend would do!?? I would prefer 2 hours of full on sex too!


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The 'saviour' yes some seem to think because we choose to do this job we must be 'victims' who need saving...If I won the lottery yes course I'd give up work, just as I would any other job but I certainly don't need 'saving'.
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The 'saviour' yes some seem to think because we choose to do this job we must be 'victims' who need saving...If I won the lottery yes course I'd give up work, just as I would any other job but I certainly don't need 'saving'.
Oh this was spot on. EXACTLY THIS! Oh we are prostitutes, we must be emotionally damaged so a man saying that he loves us is a relief isn't it? It's flattering isn't it? FUCK NOOOOOO. They are too ugly anyway so even if they wasn't a client I would still get offended. I was arguing with myself this morning saying some men just do not see themselves as ugly. that's just a fact. The majority are so ugly so why on earth would you come chat me up anyway? if I sense a client getting emotionally attached or I feel as though he is crossing the line I just ignore. I had a client not so long ago said he is into me :-X I was like oh ok. They are just stupid sad and lonely and crave a girlfriend. Why not go on a dating site? Lots of single women  on there im sure. What, you think because you pay me for sex you have a better/closer chance at dating me. I am just pissed off writing this now so sorry if i am not making sense. they just piss me off for fuck sake. I just fucking ignore. Any client telling me how his day was IGNORED any client that says he misses me IGNORED. sigh.  Had an ex regular contact me the other day how are you checking up on you blah blah blah. i was like would you like to arrange an appointment with me? the asshole fart shit responded "would you like me to do that?" dude are you fucking stupid?  :FF :FF urgh now I need some rum lool! who started this thread? Hadley my drunkeness is on you this early morning. LOL. ;D

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I actually love it when they say they love me, either from passion or really mean it. I always play the game with them, I could have easily married a few clients by now but then I ease it to them that they are too old for me, or I'm just not ready for it, can we continue seeing each other I'd love to do it for free but money is so tight I've had only a couple of bookings this week (had at least a dozen but he don't know that).

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I have two/three ways of dealing with this depending on how irritated/distressed the situation has made me. Being good at our jobs and making our clients feel valued and respected during our time together shouldn't mean that we are then harassed by them ... but I guess that they just choose not to see it that way.

I have many clients of whom I am very fond of and are equally fond of me but they would never cross the boundaries of our unique relationship. It's just the odd and frustrating few that do, ultimately - the 'needy' ones....

If I'm feeling kind then I'll tell them that I've met some one and it feels 'wrong' to continue seeing each other given our close relationship.

If I'm not then I completely ignore them.... and if they just won't go away I quote the 'Protection from Harassment Act':

cps.gov.uk/legal/s_to_u/stalking_and_harassment/#a03a

I know that may sound a little extreme but I think a lot of people under estimate how incredibly stressful it is being inundated by messages from a client who 'loves you' aka completely ignores the boundaries between your work self and private life - and they need to know that it's not OK and there maybe consequences for their actions; unless they stop. To not take action is incredibly disempowering and will affect every other area of our lives.



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They are too ugly anyway so even if they wasn't a client I would still get offended. I was arguing with myself this morning saying some men just do not see themselves as ugly. that's just a fact. The majority are so ugly so why on earth would you come chat me up anyway?

I am sure most of them are in complete denial about this. There are very few men I am attracted to, but loads that I get on well with, and they constantly misinterpret friendliness for attraction. They don't understand that physically they are repulsive, but if you tell them that, as I have been forced to do on many occasions, they end up devastated. This is a fact whether they are clients or not, but clients you have to deal with on a daily basis. I find the best way is to just get the deed done, avoid getting too familiar, and move on to the next one.

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Jessica's comment about men going on dating sites got me thinking.  I have a cousin who has done it all, wg's, hundreds of craigslist and other casual hookups, he was on Ashley Madison before it got hacked (he really is divorced tho who knows about the women he was sleeping with) and he was pursuing some women from his civie job. 

The line really DID get blurred for him.  He's honest with me (he knows I won't judge) and told me that he was on a "date" from a hook-up site and felt the urge to drop the L bomb and then realized that someone who posted an ad saying "f me in my car in an hour" wasn't looking for that. 

If a guy is bouncing all over the place and searching for something (as I think is the case with him) and they forget where they are at time they can easily look for the wrong thing from the wrong person.  It's quite sad watching him.

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Jessica's comment about men going on dating sites got me thinking.  I have a cousin who has done it all, wg's, hundreds of craigslist and other casual hookups, he was on Ashley Madison before it got hacked (he really is divorced tho who knows about the women he was sleeping with) and he was pursuing some women from his civie job. 

The line really DID get blurred for him.  He's honest with me (he knows I won't judge) and told me that he was on a "date" from a hook-up site and felt the urge to drop the L bomb and then realized that someone who posted an ad saying "f me in my car in an hour" wasn't looking for that. 

If a guy is bouncing all over the place and searching for something (as I think is the case with him) and they forget where they are at time they can easily look for the wrong thing from the wrong person.  It's quite sad watching him.

Mandy, I found two long term boyfriends I met on craigslist casual encounters  (non payed hook up -I was going through a dry spell). We met once, then again, then again and we ended up getting in a long serious relationship. This happened to me TWICE. I also have a gay friend who met his actual partner (married now and they have adopted kids) on a casual hook-up on grindr. Brook Maganti met her actual partner on a sex hook up on casual encounters section on craigslist (she confessed this on her last interview).

Love is to be found in the most unexpected places. We are all human. The fact that some horny woman wants to meet a stranger for a quick fuck in a car (because that's her fantasy) doesn't exempt her from wanting love. She may be single, she maybe not. Who is to say that two single people meeting in a slutty situation cannot find love? i did, and I know quite a lot of people who did.

"I don't have a dirty mind, I have a sexy imagination" (heard it on the tube)

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Mandy, I found two long term boyfriends I met on craigslist casual encounters  (non payed hook up -I was going through a dry spell). We met once, then again, then again and we ended up getting in a long serious relationship. This happened to me TWICE. I also have a gay friend who met his actual partner (married now and they have adopted kids) on a casual hook-up on grindr. Brook Maganti met her actual partner on a sex hook up on casual encounters section on craigslist (she confessed this on her last interview).

Love is to be found in the most unexpected places. We are all human. The fact that some horny woman wants to meet a stranger for a quick fuck in a car (because that's her fantasy) doesn't exempt her from wanting love. She may be single, she maybe not. Who is to say that two single people meeting in a slutty situation cannot find love? i did, and I know quite a lot of people who did.

Me and my current partner are a result of a string of booty calls. We didn't even cuddle or hang out until after the first few months of sleeping together. >.>

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  the asshole fart shit responded "would you like me to do that?" dude are you fucking stupid?  :FF :FF urgh now I need some rum lool! who started this thread? Hadley my drunkeness is on you this early morning. LOL. ;D
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Ha! That's what I'm here for, to lead people into drink  ;D

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katrina

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Sorry to sound like I'm revelling in the misfortunes of others  ;D but it does make me feel better to know that there's others in the same boat!
I can imagine, what Hadley said about this guy not really knowing her is typical. Clients must think we are always shaved, buffed, made up and horny. Perhaps invite him over to lounge about eating and watching tv in your pjs and tell him you've got a headache when he wants a fuck, that might change his mind!

You're so right Nia, let's see how much he loves me when he sees me sitting in bed watching X factor in my pyjamas, scratching my arse and eating Ben and Jerrys.

Methinks his ardour might melt away at that point   ;D

xx

That's the difference between reality and fantasy in their eyes - they assume we don't do any of the 'normal' stuff and we look gorgeous everyday. I don't think they'd be so adoring toward us if they perceived us as the normal gals we are (actresses aside); but I suppose that's part of the fantasy x

That's right, some can't see the difference between reality and fantasy. Had one fairly regular client ask me for a phone chat, I texted back saying "Give me 10 minutes I'm just having my lunch" He replied "lunch lol" I replied "Yes even escorts need to eat you know!!"

They want 'the real girlfriend experience' yet its nothing like being a real girlfriend...If they came round my house on an evening they would see the me with no make up on, hair a right mess up in a clip or bobble,  wearing tracky bottoms, my 40 something year old natural tits drooping in my vest top, unshaven legs and fluffy slippers haha! :-)