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phoenix77

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Talking about his missus
« on: 01 November 2012, 01:27:45 am »
So I'm with a client, start giving him head and he says, "Oh that's nice as my wife doesn't give me blowjobs" nice image for me to have while I'm down there! Anyway later on he continued to talk about the fact that after having children, his sex life with her is next to non existent. I said it's common especially when kids arrive as people have less energy and motivation. He asked me for tips and how he could reignite things with her. I said an idea is to share and explore each others' fantasies, maybe surprise her and do something different such as strip tease. I felt like a sex therapist lol! I've never had a client talk so openly about his sex life before but I hope I dealt with it ok..
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« Reply #1 on: 01 November 2012, 07:41:22 am »
Id not be suprised that some clients express these thoughts as they may not be able to tell other people close to them, they know they can open up with us and *release *so to speak. Id have done the same thing.
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Re: Talking about his missus
« Reply #2 on: 01 November 2012, 09:45:45 am »
Yes I get it too. And change the subject, they usually take the hint  ;)

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Re: Talking about his missus
« Reply #3 on: 01 November 2012, 10:12:58 am »
Quote from: phoenix77 on 01 November 2012, 01:27:45 am
.......................... He asked me for tips and how he could reignite things with her. I said an idea is to share and explore each others' fantasies, maybe surprise her and do something different such as strip tease. I felt like a sex therapist lol! I've never had a client talk so openly about his sex life before but I hope I dealt with it ok..


I think if most guys actually helped their wives/partners out more in the house they wouldnt be so tired and may be more 'in the mood'.  Try telling that to a guy though, he will probably deny he doesnt help her much and its her that 'doesnt want intimacy' - would you if you were shattered with housework?
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Re: Talking about his missus
« Reply #4 on: 01 November 2012, 02:26:20 pm »
Phoenix: Remember you're only hearing one side of the story (and in this case your story has 2 sides).
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Re: Talking about his missus
« Reply #5 on: 01 November 2012, 02:44:28 pm »
Quote from: Ana30 on 01 November 2012, 02:26:20 pm
Phoenix: Remember you're only hearing one side of the story (and in this case your story has 2 sides).

Don't get me wrong, I understand that there's 2 sides to the story and it takes 2 people to make a marriage/ relationship work. Yes, I agree that often men don't help out enough so no wonder many women lose their sex drive. I'm hardly going to say that to a client though!
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« Reply #6 on: 01 November 2012, 02:53:08 pm »
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I'm hardly going to say that to a client though!

Obviously. Besides, I'm sure he's hearing enough of that at home (reason he's paying you).
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« Reply #7 on: 01 November 2012, 02:58:10 pm »
I don't see the problem with clients talking about their wives/sex life - it's not like I'm their girlfriend or mistress. Some clients have JUST US to be able to confide in if the sex or intimacy at home isn't so great, and for many men, seeing an escort is not just physical therapy, but mental and emotional too. The best thing we can do is advise as best we can (yes, that includes suggesting he helps round the house/with the kids! :D ) and hope that he goes away happy and ready to face his relationship another day, perhaps with a few new ideas to try.
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Re: Talking about his missus
« Reply #8 on: 01 November 2012, 04:09:40 pm »
Quote from: Cat_BBW on 01 November 2012, 02:58:10 pm
I don't see the problem with clients talking about their wives/sex life - it's not like I'm their girlfriend or mistress. Some clients have JUST US to be able to confide in if the sex or intimacy at home isn't so great, and for many men, seeing an escort is not just physical therapy, but mental and emotional too. The best thing we can do is advise as best we can (yes, that includes suggesting he helps round the house/with the kids! :D ) and hope that he goes away happy and ready to face his relationship another day, perhaps with a few new ideas to try.

I respectfully disagree. I don't see it as part and parcel as seeing an escort. If they need emotional or mental support they should see their doctor or a therapist, or I don't know, heres a crazy idea, talk to their partner  ::). I can't deal with their personal lives as well as my own! But if others are happy dealing with that then its fine too :)
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« Reply #9 on: 01 November 2012, 05:18:24 pm »
Personally I couldnt give a fig if a guy talks about his partner/wife, half the time I'm not totally listening anyway.  I can empathise but it doesnt really affect me.

In my case, I have the ability to 'switch off' the minute they walk out the door, forever to be forgotten till the next time (if it happens) they walk through the door.

I think that is an advantage in this line of work or we could go bonkers with some of the things we hear.

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« Reply #10 on: 01 November 2012, 05:20:37 pm »
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I respectfully disagree. I don't see it as part and parcel as seeing an escort. If they need emotional or mental support they should see their doctor or a therapist, or I don't know, heres a crazy idea, talk to their partner

Totally agree. I'm not a therapist nor I was trained to be one. If he wants  therapy on top "off" then I want to get payed triple for the extra work. Besides, it's not in my best interest if a guy gets therapy, nor if he "becomes more communicative with his wife", his sex life might improve and I may loose a client.

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Re: Talking about his missus
« Reply #11 on: 01 November 2012, 05:36:18 pm »
I'm not suggesting anyone become a therapist, but a bit of a chat about their other half during a booking is no skin off my nose. I'm being paid for my time, if they want a convo in the quiet moments, that's fine by me. I'm not saying I'd be comfortable to see gibbering emotional wrecks, but some guys just need a chat rather than see his doc or a therapist (which would be a lot cheaper than seeing a prozzie!).

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it's not in my best interest if a guy gets therapy, nor if he "becomes more communicative with his wife", his sex life might improve and I may loose a client

I'd rather lose a client because of this - I guess that makes me a bad businesswoman ;D
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« Reply #12 on: 01 November 2012, 05:42:35 pm »
Call me greedy, but I'm in this for the money, I'm no" free humanitarian" that for sure.
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Re: Talking about his missus
« Reply #13 on: 01 November 2012, 05:44:45 pm »
Quote from: Ana30 on 01 November 2012, 05:42:35 pm
Call me greedy, but I'm in this for the money, I'm no" free humanitarian" that for sure.

We're all in this for the money, I certainly wouldn't listen to them talking about their other halves if they weren't paying me! :D
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Re: Talking about his missus
« Reply #14 on: 01 November 2012, 05:55:08 pm »
yes I'm not here to "save the world". I believe the world cannot be saved  ;D
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