For those of you who have experience in this in-between-escorting-and-dating wierd space, what is your selection criteria? More like repeat-client-selection, more like real-world dating?

I think some escorts get it wrong about sites like SD & Seeking, that it's basically just for 'work'. Yes, there will be men who will want a 'arrangement' and there will be other men who will want a loving lasting relationship which is normal.

Hello everyone,

Hope you're all well
I've just registered on a SugarDaddy site and was wondering if I could have any advise of how to approach or discuss any of my financial situation with them. What am I suppose to do if I get invited for lunch/dinner?
I don't have a clue so any replies would be appreciated.

xxx

Sandra, you can also pop "sugar daddy" into the search form to find quite a few long threads covering other people's experiences and ideas.

I've found that dealing with the very wealthy clients who want something more like a sugardaddy/sugarbaby relationship is tricky enough already, without having to comb through a bunch of idiots (after freebies or even just free tedious sex chat) like Newbabe mentioned on a website first. Men can be very volatile and emotional creatures but if you're good at sussing them out and are capable of taking the utmost advantage of them (and I don't even mean that in a bad way! Just taking what you want while giving what he wants, etc) without getting annoyed, bored or tired then you can probably make some extra money from it.

As you can probably imagine from my post, though, I much prefer a straight-forward transaction exchanging hours for cash sans neediness/emotional crap.

Yes spot on "Neediness"  thats definitely what I remember from my experiences.  Its like the most powerful and wealthiest guys are sometimes so desperate to be loved its crazy!!!!!  Uuughh! 

i can totally understand why wealthy powerful guys are needy to find love, what i dont get is why go to a site where they will find ladies who arent interested in loving them, but just want their money? it's a bit weird

It could be because they want to find love... but only with a super-hot young woman who loves to have lots of sex (but only with him) and loves to look pretty and will spend all her time looking pretty and having sex (but only with him).

It's not really surprising that super-hot young women who are prepared to have sex with men they only find mildly attractive can see their value (look at all of us here although of course I know we all look different and are at different ages, but you know what I mean!) and therefore expect the older men they're dating to pay for stuff.

So these rich older men know that if they want Ms SuperYoung&Sexy they will need to pay for her time, or her Louboutins, or whatever. I'm sure they do understand the situation. And I guess they might be prepared to put up with paying for lots of those oh-so-evil "gold diggers" in search of their one true love (i.e. a young hot woman who won't expect him to pay for his carnal pleasures = the holy grail, or perhaps, eventually, he'll lower his expectations to include older women or less-hot women who are also financially independent and are looking for an equal as a boyfriend but who might not be so happy to give constant blowjobs and to always agree with his decisions). I think it takes some people quite a lot of time to realise that you can't really get exactly what you want in a relationship; like buying a house, it's aaaall about compromise (or having at least three partners at a time).

It's a silly old world out there. I feel smugly content to not participate in all of that particular nonsense.

I used that site a few years ago... I would say dont bother with it. Its full of idiots just looking for free sex. Most of them are incredibly stingy... I met up with 3 people from there. One of them was amazing! Not at all rich but yet he would take me out for dinner weekly and buy me small gifts... All for nothing! There was no physical thing between us during that time! It was a little strange... It was like going out with a friend... That lasted about 3 months.

Then there was the next person... He would come over to my place every week for a topless foot massage and coffee! He gave me a little bit of money. There was no set amount. Sometimes it was a decent amount... Sometimes not. Then one day i asked him for ?500 towards my birthday party and he happily gave it to me! Then we just drifted apart.

Then the third person... Wanting me to buy him drinks! That one lasted about 10 minutes!

But every other person i got in contact with via email was just a cheapskate posing as a rich guy hoping for free sex!

The most ridiculous thing though was the fact that at the time, you were not allowed to write on your profile anything about any sort of financial reward or expectations that you had. I personally thought that was silly. Why create a sugar daddy site but ban the use of mentioning anything about money?

Bah... Just dont waste your money! Do they still charge you to read your inbox messages too? Thieves!