Hi Tiffany
Excellent point. However, for me the emotional price of a relationship cannot be priced or valued. I think the problem I have with this is that to put a price on something therefore makes it..available. I am a escort, I price per hour. I am also a fun loving, sensual, sex loving princess. This has no fee, as it is mine to share as I see fit. This is where I find the difference between Lucy and me. There has to be a element of truth in my life, I do not judge, I merely comment.
Of course we're commenting, I hope I don't come across as judgement or arguing (well debate was definitely one of my favorite subjects LOL). But we're saying the same thing. There are ladies who couldn't be escorts and keep themselves in all of this. Throwing in a SD in that mix can be unnerving. I agree with you wholeheartedly. You never compromise yourself in any of life's processes. Whether it's relationships, escorting or Sugardaddies. And the freedom to be ourselves in any of these situations is priceless.
I wear so many hats and play so many roles in life, but they all coincide for one cause: and that is the benefit of XXXX(my name here) and xxxx (my daughter's name here). My version of being safe is to hypercompartmentalize my roles, but never lose who I am. I am always that smart, witty, sexually charged queen that I am!LOL It's redundant for me to look for a sugardaddy, cause I'm looking for a relationship. Plus I'm no where near a sugarbaby. I own my condo, still paying for one my younger sisters live in (incall gone wrong. Another long story), and I own two of the three cars I have. While I'm not in a relationship, my sexual prowess has a price. When I find someone that makes me happy, and hopefully for good, Tiffani Jameson will retire and she shall be no more. All the fun she had or will have had I hope to have with one person. Yes, I am monogamous. I'm just a realist. I don't expect anyone else to be.
But somewhere on this board is a 20 year old Uni student that is struggling to buy her books, keep a flat and keep herself fed. She has turned to this industry to help herself out. And in thinking about her life, she thinks instead of several tricks, how about ONE GOOD trick? In theory, it's safer, and the odds of encountering a problem reduce drastically. There are also ladies here that think, 'I wonder if a really rich guy knew that I wanted to buy my own flat, or nice car, how much help can I get? At my current rate WITH my bills I can be on my back til 2012.' (of course this is an exaggeration ladies) Honestly SD relationships are no different than what we're doing now. Except it's a LOT slower. Most times, if you find one with a modicum of brains, he's under no illusions that you're going to be together forever. Then there are the 'teet hangers' as Miss Violette would say LOL. Hell, YOU might end up the teet hanger! Most are not as ugly, dull and fat as you think. LOL You can't predict people's feelings. Sometimes things that start out really good don't end up that way.
I hope nothing I said on this thread came across as you shouldn't enjoy any part of your life, or be yourself. Yes, I have said fake it til you make it, but I meant in the sense of your possessions. With some guys, you can't just tell them 'I'm accustomed to the finer things in life. You WILL keep me in the lifestyle I'm accustomed' and you don't have a decent pair of shoes to your name. If you're doing too bad, it's a chance he thinks that no one has your back, and you're desperate for his help. This is not a good idea. It's almost always a losing game. Getting a man's help to pay off your flat, pay tuition, or help with the kid's private education, is easy when he sees you have goals. But once you've put yourself out there on the right foot, you've got to decipher through the losers. Just like in any arena, you always have a choice.