I think that escorting is a better way of being able to keep full control over your life and your income.

I think so, too. I mean, the only sugar daddy that I could tolerate would have to be super-mature, handsome, fit, funny, witty and too busy with his amazing life to be whiny or insecure. Because it sounds like the sugar daddy relationship is way too up-close-and-personal, despite the money (which has to be disguised as gifts? WTF? I can't eat shoes!) so if you don't actually like each other, it's a nightmare.

I have rather high standards for my male company unless I'm getting an hourly fee. So I'm pretty sure that 99% of the wankers on seekingnotaprostitute.com or whatever can consider themselves completely safe from seduction attempts by me.

EXACTLY!!!!

i had one potential SD and we spoke for ages and really got on well. We had agreed our arrangement and everything was going well.
Anyway, the day before we were due to meet I text him asking him when he was thinking of paying me.
He replied saying "To be honest I am very shocked by your previous message. I thought we were on the same wave length and tomorrow we would be meeting for dinner and drinks with no obligations for me to give you money".

EH HELLLOOOOOOOOO....... why the  hell do these men think girls are using this site? To date ugly old men for free?

GRRRRRR

And I also had one who told me he would pay me a monthly allowance to meet him once a week for sex, HOWEVER he wouldnt be paying me anything unless I let him do whatever he wanted to me no matter how painful it was. And if I wanted to stop then he wouldnt pay me a penny and would leave.
SICKO


I think you can occassionaly find a SD that is married, older, generous and not a demanding creep.  However these men are gold dust and if you manage to find one then congragulations

I can't see any guy who wants that sort of arrangement being happy with his girl having sex with other men too.

I've encountered a couple of guys wanting the lady to be exclusive to them (when I had my ad in FT). Nevermind that at least one of them was married.

Oh I love the married ones! They are fantastic, you know the time spent will be limited because they have the darling wife to return to. The last thing you want is a single SD, ultimately becoming the center of their universe. NOOOOOOOO! Hell on earth. They fall in love, and then you can never get rid of them.

Thanks Tiffani. 
As I have said before it is a delicate balance. But I do find, that when you are not at his beck and call, it will send some of them into a frenzy. Especially when they know you don't need them, is when they will start wanting to leave the wife and kids. Oi Vey! I will tell them, "Your family NEEDS you." What I really mean is: I  will not be interested in you once your wife has taken half of what you now have, you lose your business, your kids, your mind, and now you are all mine? No thanks. Stay with the family, and load me up with the guilt gifts.

The site 'seeking arrangements' is not one I'm familiar with but theres another site which  i have experience with and a good friend of mine who also uses the site appeared in a documentary about it on a free view channel a while back.

I know that many escorts look at sugar daddies and consider it as another revenue stream but truthfully anybody that is an escort would struggle to be a successful sugar babe. 

Most guys that use the site are just after someone for a bit on the site or a few meets a week or weekend fun. The typical sugar daddy is not after anything too serious and most of them don't mind girls who have one of two other sugar daddies at the same time. He basically wants all the benefits from being in  a relationship without the commitment (i call this a guyship), most of these guys have worked hard for or inherited their money and they feel they deserve more from life than what they see others settling for,  having  someone younger fitter and better looking than they are sends a message out  to everyone else that they have made it in life.  Saying this theres also others that want a girl without anybody else knowing about it, especially if their married and the sex has dried up.

The type of girl that makes a good sugar babe is one that does not want a normal  9-5 job with a low to average income, she wants the type of lifestyle she imagines most highclass escorts enjoy but at the same time she can not do the job of meeting different clients week in week out.  The job of a sugar babe is quite simply to be a girlfriend to the sugar daddy without him having to , most only want to know enough about you to make sure they are not being lied to and made a fool of, remember ladies sugar daddies are successful and are used to being in control, you will be very lucky to find one that believes what you say without first having it checking out by a private investigator.   

Many sugar daddies would not think twice about offering  a sugar babe a living allowance, infact that's what its all about, but this is something that comes up later once a connection between a sugar babe and a sugar daddy has been made. This connection happens just like it does in a traditional relationship but instead of it happening on an emotional level it happens just on a logical level, it may take one meeting it may take more but it never happens  after just one phone call.

 An escort is someone that receives a fixed amount of money for a fixed amount of time, a useful sugar babe gives an unmeasured amount of their time in exchange for a living allowance, this will nearly always include sex but its not something that's measured by the hour.

I mentioned  above my  friend who  joined the same site as me, shes not an escort  so the sugar babe setup works better for her than it ever has for me, some weeks she spends just a couple of hours with her daddy talking on the phone which will sound pretty cushy to alot of you reading this, other weeks she spends a couple of nights a week with him on the days he is in town but only last month she spend a full 5 days with him in Brighton.  Her allowance stays the same week in week out regardless of how much time they spend together. She has her apartment paid for and ?500 a week spending money, however she does make herself exclusive to him and if she met other people  that would drop by allot.

Escorts = business women who charge by the hour
sugar babes = make believe girlfriends who are always available and taken care of.

If you genuinely want to be a sugar babe i would suggest you don't mention money in the first couple of dates, it sends a red flag up straight away for him,  my advice would be to meet him a few times first during the day, don't clock watch and just get to know him and him you. If hes a genuine sugar daddy and he finds you appealing  he will respond well to this approach and even enjoy it, after hes more comfortable with you it will be him that takes the lead regarding how things proceed, hell bring up the subject of the allowance, however if hes not a genuine sugar daddy and hes just looking for a cheap lay hell try and get you into bed before he talks about the allowance, that's your Que to leave. If he finds out your An escort as well, your chances of finding a proper sugar daddy will fall to almost zero.

I'm an escort first and formost so the sugar babe setup failed for me, but Alisha has been with the same guy now for 3 years and i cannot see it changing any time soon.

As to telling a prospective SD that I am an escort, why on earth would that ever come up? It is a different situation and has to be managed accordingly. Not to mention I detest the term SB, it implies some your bubble headed teeny bopper with two repelling brain cells. The old fashion term used to be having a mistress, or being a kept woman, and that ladies is the approach I apply when engaging in a SD relationship. As I've stated before, I tend to prefer the married ones, because I know for a fact they will not be as demanding as the single ones, or if I have a single one, he needs to live in another country so as no to get underfoot.
There are different approaches. The trick is finding the one that works for you.