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UrbaneAspects

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Someone please slap some sense into me for once!
« on: 22 May 2009, 09:44:18 am »
Ok, here I go again getting myself back in the dating scenario (in a place where the dating pool sucks!) and lately it has just been one headache after the next. These guys are just so full of shit, and coincidently I have a straight relative who's also going through the similar deal and lives in the same town.

Anyway, I am just over it now. Last year around this time I was completely over dating. I dont think I had any profiles up for it so I was over it. But now I have a profile up on this one dating site I keep going on and the people I meet are just full of it. Now Im getting back to the point of cancelling any dating profile and just sticking to this because really sometimes I dont have the tolerance for it. I'm meeting people who show interest but then turn out to be involved and play misleading games (to get attention from me, to feel wanted by someone like me). Its like they say they want to see me or do this and that, but when the day comes its EXCUSES EXCUSES EXCUSES. I've said it before somewhere but clients are more reliable than that shit. These other guys just want attention and most of them know I have a better body and better features than they do and they turn around and punish me for it.

Well I dont have time to play into peoples lonley issues and boredom issues. Im about to just take myself off the dating market and just stick with a real market lol. Timewasters playing games are one thing and its easy to dispose them, but its not always so clear with dating. And by dating that can include Fuck buddies too. These so-called fuck buddies have those precise issues too. Not getting enough attention from home or whatever and want someone to feed them. Not me. Think its time to lay up off of that for awhile.


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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me for once!
« Reply #1 on: 22 May 2009, 03:15:27 pm »
Hi Joey,

Don't think you're on you're own - you're not!  There's a mass of idiot daters out there who say one thing but expect you to just know they mean something else entirely.

I dated a guy for a few months in a "just for fun" situation and thought it was great until he decided he thought we should be thinking of moving in together!!! What?  No way!

It's the feeling of giving too much of yourself away and letting people hurt you that I hate.  That's why being a WG suits me, no strings, no ties, no commitment and no hurting.

Just stick to being gorgeous Joey!
It's not so grim up north!

UrbaneAspects

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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me for once!
« Reply #2 on: 22 May 2009, 07:29:33 pm »
lol; thanks aqua...and the last sentence is so true.

Its funny because so far many of these people are 'just for fun' types also and I'm ok with that. But then after a couple of times once they get what they want, they take it for granted and then only text you when they want attention. Not even to actually meet up, seems like Americans get off on the fact that someone is texting them and they thrive on the attention of it.

MsAquaYork

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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me for once!
« Reply #3 on: 22 May 2009, 11:10:46 pm »
Don't even get me started on the text- maniacs!  Believe me - it's not just Americans! 
It's not so grim up north!

UrbaneAspects

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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me for once!
« Reply #4 on: 26 May 2009, 08:15:26 am »
well...I tried but looks like I'm still dating again. Its up to like a couple a week atleast.

I guess I'm a date addict.  :-[  I just dont like the flaking out part. Its good when it good, but when all the B.S. comes out its just no fun! There are some games I'm not willing to play.

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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me for once!
« Reply #5 on: 26 May 2009, 12:33:28 pm »
I have dabbled with dating websites to no avail. On the particularly bad ones have actually found myself thinking "well at least this is good practice for work".

And I also learned that I have no tolerance for men on these dates sitting there going "well, you are a student so when you get a PROPER job" etc etc.... and lecturing me about the merits of good business acumen.

And I sit there with a dumb look on my face saying "yeah yeah" and thinking inside "my company's annual turnover is very healthy thank you very much"

Ha!

UrbaneAspects

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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me for once!
« Reply #6 on: 27 May 2009, 08:57:57 am »
"well, you are a student so when you get a PROPER job" etc etc

How funny! wel how about the other day someone who I havent met yet, but I met off a dating site we eneded up talking about prostitutes and street walking in my city. And he goes on to say how this place used to have alot of "ho's" and that some of those "ho's actually seen it as their real job" (implying that there's no way it can be an actual real job). He also mentioned a coupel other things about 'prostitution' which turned me off to the point I just lost interest in him now. I never mentioned what I do, but if someone feels that way then I cant imagine taking it any further.

The answer should have been..."if it works for them..."

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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me for once!
« Reply #7 on: 28 May 2009, 04:49:33 am »
Well this actually makes me wonder. For a first date, if he has no knowledge of how you make a living.... maybe he was just saying that cos he was seeing you as relationship material and wanted you to think he wouldnt use escorts. Or he could be a complete arse... Arrrrgh, Hate dating!
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UrbaneAspects

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Re: Someone please slap some sense into me for once!
« Reply #8 on: 29 May 2009, 03:32:40 am »
Well this actually makes me wonder. For a first date, if he has no knowledge of how you make a living.... maybe he was just saying that cos he was seeing you as relationship material and wanted you to think he wouldnt use escorts. Or he could be a complete arse... Arrrrgh, Hate dating!

LOL; tell me about it! I think he was more likely implying (if he was implying) that he wouldnt BE an escort LOL. Cause he's around my age. I dont know; cant expect everyone to understand it...

One issue I'm having is I'm finding it hard to tell people what I do. I say I'm in photography but for some reason it always boils down to "is it porn photography" and then I end up saying something obvious. So now people are thinking I do nude photos for a living  8)   :-[  which is NOT what I want. I'm just going to start making up stuff.