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Title: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: SuperCheese on 01 February 2018, 07:58:52 pm
I make it obvious in my profile that I do not offer daytime meets, but I still have at least 15 messages a day asking for them. I ask them to read my profile and their answer is there. Almost all reply something like, "oh great, can I have appointment for x time please?". I have a civvy job, so I cannot work during the daytimes, unless of course they want to cover a full day's childcare and loss of earnings. It doesn't seem to matter how many times I say no, I still get asked over and over again.

I can sort of expect it if I have my number up, but this seems to attract total idiots wanting a dirty chat or getting aggressive when I ignore their moronic texts.  ::) ::) ::) ::) ::) ::)

Sorry for the rant, but it's just really winding me up at the moment. If you're going to message someone, at least read their profile. Surely it takes longer to send a message than read a few sentences.  ::) :FF
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: Meetingdiversity on 01 February 2018, 10:15:53 pm
Men never take note, if I was you I would accept this saving myself the stress. We escort guys just want, not all will act the way we want them to. Many who phone me I don't expect them to have read my profile. It saves me from them. :)

Most don't respect escorts look how time wasters are and rude clients verbally etc. My point is when this is accepted we can blossom. :) Try it?.
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: SuperCheese on 01 February 2018, 10:50:09 pm
I've tried very hard to accept that they can't be arsed reading my profile, but it's just sheer stupidity to ask me questions I've already answered. It just seems like stupid season, at the moment. I've got more than one messaging a lot asking whether I'm doing daytime yet, as well. I've got another one asking constantly if I'm doing outcalls yet, when I've politely told him that I've got no intention of doing them (especially when he said his 3 teenage kids will be upstairs).

I've accepted and have learned how to deal with abusive men. I'm just sick of answering the same specific question, when there's no actual chance of a booking if they can't make nights. To be fair, I probably wouldn't be arsed if I was getting any real bookings.
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: Anais on 01 February 2018, 11:24:02 pm
Have you thought of using an autoresponse?

That way the message will be loud and clear and the genuine ones will contact you when you are actually available for work.
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: Meetingdiversity on 01 February 2018, 11:40:45 pm
I've tried very hard to accept that they can't be arsed reading my profile, but it's just sheer stupidity to ask me questions I've already answered. It just seems like stupid season, at the moment. I've got more than one messaging a lot asking whether I'm doing daytime yet, as well. I've got another one asking constantly if I'm doing outcalls yet, when I've politely told him that I've got no intention of doing them (especially when he said his 3 teenage kids will be upstairs).

I've accepted and have learned how to deal with abusive men. I'm just sick of answering the same specific question, when there's no actual chance of a booking if they can't make nights. To be fair, I probably wouldn't be arsed if I was getting any real bookings.

Hunny to be fair we need to accept it as it is what it is. I say this nicely to you. When stressed we harm ourselves, no one else.

So don't give clients that power by reacting negatively.  It takes some learning. We attract what we focus on be it good or bad by hold the energies like karma. What we sow we reap meaning what we give out we get back

All the best. Xx.
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: SuperCheese on 02 February 2018, 01:20:12 am
Am I allowed to put my working times in auto-response?
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: mySecret on 02 February 2018, 06:41:40 am
Am I allowed to put my working times in auto-response?
i do not think so but you could write that you are not full time or something similar
(wait confirmation from others opinion on here as i am not sure)
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: Anais on 02 February 2018, 07:40:38 am
Am I allowed to put my working times in auto-response?

Since an auto response is private, then yes, to my knowledge you can.

Mine is very direct.

Also use an autoresponse on your phone (which is what I actually meant) as it's fantastic and you can save up to five different responses.  I use autoresponse pro. ?1  ;D

Between my email auto response and my phone one, the dickheads don't stand a chance.

Feel free to pm me.
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: clairebear86 on 02 February 2018, 06:24:42 pm
 I put a thread up about auto responce txt. I use them and they are sent instantly asking to please call in my working hours. 
They still txt back with"yes i will but i only wanted to no were you are..then i will ring"
Almost instantly my auto responce reply repeats until they get the message. My pests txts have reduced loads as they no its pointless. Plus my actual bookings are up. X
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: MsLadyV87 on 02 February 2018, 06:58:39 pm
Understand why this is so frustrating and hugs to you xxx

I am off at the moment till the end of Feb. My profile clearly states this (even put it in bold and a few lines away from normal profile) but nope still get requests for dates before then.

Even one guy messaged me and quoted the special deal I offer (which is right of the bottom of the page) WTF???? he could read that but missed the very first part on profile???  :FF

Its annoying but as long as you have clearly stated on your profile your working hours (which you have) what you can do then try not to worry about replying to everyone. Not your problem they cant be bothered to read. Like my profile clearly states I never work past 9pm but I still get loads of missed calls/texts at crazy hours which by then I am fast asleep, I never bother replying xxx
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: SuperCheese on 04 February 2018, 01:00:51 am
Thanks for all of your advice! I don't mind reasonable texts, which are asking the best time to call, or even if I'm working that day (politely). I can only take calls at select times, as I don't want to be arranging bookings at my civvy job.

I try not to react negatively, but sometimes it feels like I write my profile to be my own private novel!! Some days, I just laugh it off, but it can just really drive me bonkers.

I will toy around with an auto response on my phone, but at the moment, I don't bother putting my number up, as the loonies are out in full force around here. They are given my number if they ask politely for it (most are completely incapable of saying please) for booking purposes only.

Ahh MsLady, I've had texts at crazy hours too... I had one yesterday morning (around 4:30am) asking me to get to Newport for a car meet, very crudely. I would usually ignore, but forgot to put it on silent and the ding woke me up... the reply wasn't friendly.

Thanks again for listening to my rant. I'll also try discreetly wording my aw auto response, as I'm paranoid about profile being pulled, as I literally don't get any interest elsewhere. Xxxx
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: MsLadyV87 on 04 February 2018, 01:09:36 am


Ahh MsLady, I've had texts at crazy hours too... I had one yesterday morning (around 4:30am) asking me to get to Newport for a car meet, very crudely. I would usually ignore, but forgot to put it on silent and the ding woke me up... the reply wasn't friendly.



Yikes! Yeah I can imagine! I would be pretty pissed too! Sometimes im amazed how many missed calls I wake up to, on average its around 8/12! used to think I could be missing out but then I think, nope I have my set hours and will not change them for nobody. Normal sleep pattern is important for me (although quite funny I am typing this at 1am as cant sleep!) haha xx
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: SuperCheese on 04 February 2018, 02:02:22 am
Yikes! Yeah I can imagine! I would be pretty pissed too! Sometimes im amazed how many missed calls I wake up to, on average its around 8/12! used to think I could be missing out but then I think, nope I have my set hours and will not change them for nobody. Normal sleep pattern is important for me (although quite funny I am typing this at 1am as cant sleep!) haha xx

Ahhhh, I was so mad, I'm such a bitch when I get woken up. I can understand and your own health is top priority. When I'm touring, I tend to just go for it though, if someone messaged me at 1am and they could arrive quickly (after passing screening), I would go for it if I'm still awake. I could work all day on the weekend, but it's my down time to catch up with sleep and spend time with my daughter. During my working hours, I'm totally focused and it means that I don't really go out or spend time with anyone. It's always annoying to think of missed money, but we always need to take care of ourselves first xxx
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: Lillys0 on 07 February 2018, 04:24:10 am
Most men don't read profiles they have their dick in their hand and common sense flies out of the window. ;D
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: mature helen on 07 February 2018, 10:39:39 am
Just let it be water off a ducks back if it bothers you turn your phone off when not working. I'm part time but now cant put my days or hours on AW (not that it made a halfpenny worth of difference) as they wrote a warning saying I was contravening their T&C's and yes I do get phone calls all hours of the day and night but depending on my mood I either switch off, swipe to the left or put the phone on silent.
Friday afternoon its turned off not to be looked at until Monday morning.
Maybe its something to do with our individual personalities as to what stresses us out.
I have long ago accepted when men are horny they're illiterate.
 
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: Justine on 07 February 2018, 10:54:54 am
Helen you are right in that it will depend on our individual tolerance rates and personalities to determine what we brush off or gets us to the Grrrr state. 

I keep my profile fairly succinct and very clear in the way I explain how to book me, in a polite way and not dictatorial (is there a pun there?) but despite wording it differently over the years to see the reactions I still get emails and texts which means they either haven't read or just ignored what I took the time to write.

It does not bother me a jot, those who follow the correct way get to speak to me and the rest can go away and try somewhere else.  If men do not realise by now we all work in different ways then I doubt they ever will.
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: MsLadyV87 on 07 February 2018, 12:50:59 pm
Just let it be water off a ducks back if it bothers you turn your phone off when not working. I'm part time but now cant put my days or hours on AW (not that it made a halfpenny worth of difference) as they wrote a warning saying I was contravening their T&C's and yes I do get phone calls all hours of the day and night but depending on my mood I either switch off, swipe to the left or put the phone on silent.
Friday afternoon its turned off not to be looked at until Monday morning.
Maybe its something to do with our individual personalities as to what stresses us out.
I have long ago accepted when men are horny they're illiterate.

Yeah completely agree. I never switch my phone off but its usually on slient so never disturbs me. I state very clearly on my profiles about my working hours, do and donts, the fact I dont respond to stupid extremely vague messages etc so I never feel guilty for ignoring people when they clearly cant be bothered to spend around 2 mins to read it. Like most things in life, you would do at least very very basic research before agreeing to something especially where money is exchanged!  :)
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: Bee42 on 10 February 2018, 01:39:46 am
I only do outcalls and it is the first thing you see on profile yet I still get calls for incalls and I also have on profile that I don't answer private  yet still get private calls when I tell them to contact me on number they still try and book so I just put the phone down ,it is so annoy
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: silkswan on 12 February 2018, 01:22:09 pm
it seems like all the reliable clients are on holiday, and all i'm getting are rude and illiterate or abusive timewasters... when it's day after day, it's hard not to snap. have to wonder how the hell some of these guys function in life in hiring other services if they can't even take 1 minute to read the rules (but of course it's cos i'm just a prossie who doesn't deserve energy or respect and should throw myself at the feet of any man offering to pay less than my going rate  ::) )
to be fair i am newly independent and setting up in a new market but god, when does it get better! commiserations anyway :)
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: BarbaraB on 12 February 2018, 03:08:02 pm
On first page my profile is said  please contact just via txt message  is bold and with caplock on -  I still get durning the day many missed calls ....

Under this is said 8am till 9pm still I?ll get phone calls outside my work time 

Usually I have state where I?m staying and something near by  like 2 min walk from Aldgate underground

They will still ask what is the nearest tube station


And what o found most annoying - darling how much do you charge - mate, the rates are just by the phone number ... of the have I massage I just sending them
Printscreen of my profile with highlighted answers
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: chocoholicgirl on 14 February 2018, 10:34:55 pm
I've come the the conclusion that they look at our pics, start wanking, find the phone number, continue wanking, whack out a text that says 'u free bb' whilst continuing to wank. We really are not giving them credit, it's hard to read a profile while wanking and texting rubbish at the same time...

 ;D
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: Rosesugar on 15 February 2018, 11:27:28 am
I've come the the conclusion that they look at our pics, start wanking, find the phone number, continue wanking, whack out a text that says 'u free bb' whilst continuing to wank. We really are not giving them credit, it's hard to read a profile while wanking and texting rubbish at the same time...

 ;D


I'm amazed they can even concentrate while wanking to multi task  ::)
Title: Re: Sick of my profile being totally ignored
Post by: SuperCheese on 15 February 2018, 09:20:08 pm
I've had my auto-response on for a bit now, making it clear that I don't work in the daytime and to read my profile before asking any questions. I'm still getting, "I know you don't work in the day, but can you do a 4pm appt?"....errr no! I had to firmly tell a phone wanker to take his cock out of his hand before calling me again yesterday. He called me back 5 minutes later and told me that he doesn't think he wants an appointment as he's already relieved himself!! Sometimes if you don't laugh, you'd never stop screaming!